10000 Heroes Ankur Shah Delight and Nathan Ramos/ Momentum Lab

What did this episode awaken in you?
 Don’t be shy. 
https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow
 
April Rinne’s whole message is about Flux. Flow, change, flexibility, rolling with the punches, and paying attention.
 
That’s how I capture it, at least. Her actual 8 flux superpowers are here: https://fluxmindset.com/8-superpowers
 
In keeping with the theme, this interview is long and flowing. I did minimal editing to show how the conversation naturally progressed, as a demonstration (in one realm) of what April is bringing to the world.
 
There is a ton of wisdom about dealing with change and how to see our own story as part of the episode, as well as some really beautiful reflection and storytelling from April on what led her to who she is today.



Enjoy!
 
Show Links:
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Voicemail:  https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow
Email: info@10kh.show
Podcast website: http://momentumlab.com/podcast
Momentum Lab: http://www.momentumlab.com
 
Guest References:
Flux Mindset Website:  https://fluxmindset.com/
April’s Website (check out the handstands page!): https://aprilrinne.com/



About our sponsor:
10,000 Heroes is brought to you by Momentum Lab. 
 
I normally refer to Momentum Lab as an experiment-based coaching program or a goal accelerator.
 
But it’s beyond that. It’s a deep investigation into Purpose, Vision, and what it takes to achieve our goals in every area of life.
 
If you’re interested in falling in love with who you are, what you’re doing, or what you’re surrounded with, there’s two roads:
 
Accepting what is
Transforming your situation
 
We help you do both. 
 
The best way of learning more is to sign up for our weekly email: (Momentum) Lab Notes
 
http://momentumlab.com/podcast



What did this episode awaken in you? Don’t be shy.
https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow
 
#Flux #flow #freedom #roll #flexibility #Magic #TaiChi #Attention #Concentration 
 

  Most of us love avoiding conflict...
 ...if love is evaluated on the basis of our actions rather than our words.
 And there's some really good reasons the mind avoids conflict.
 
1. You can't lose if you don't play (risk-averse)
2. Conflict means somebody (you) f*cked up. (guilt/shame)
 
There's also another really good reason the body avoids conflict.
 
3. We don't know the difference between life-threatening conflict and ego-threatening conflict
 
As you probably know, I'm not actually here to congratulate you on avoiding conflict.
 
So in this episode, I'll go over those three (good) reasons to avoid conflict. I'll point why they're good and what negative consequences they have.
 
And then I'll give a simple 7-word heuristic to help you determine when conflict avoidance is the right thing (and when it's not).



Show Links:
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF_C56bjm3HPYOvdWEfnWtw
Voicemail:  https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow
Email: info@10kh.show
Podcast website: http://momentumlab.com/podcast
Momentum Lab: http://www.momentumlab.com
 
About our sponsor:
10,000 Heroes is brought to you by Momentum Lab. 
 
I normally refer to Momentum Lab as an experiment-based coaching program or a goal accelerator.
 
But it’s beyond that. It’s a deep investigation into Purpose, Vision, and what it takes to achieve our goals in every area of life.
 
If you’re interested in falling in love with who you are, what you’re doing, or what you’re surrounded with, there’s two roads:
 
Accepting what is
Transforming your situation
 
We help you do both. 
 
The best way of learning more is to sign up for our weekly email: (Momentum) Lab Notes
 
http://momentumlab.com/podcast



Alternative Titles :
When Avoiding Conflict Is The Right Strategy
When To Engage in Conflict
When You're Right to Avoid a Conflict (And how to know)

 
  What did this episode awaken in you? Don’t be shy.
https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow
 
This is a different kind of episode. 
 
I ended up meeting my guest in person, which, hilariously, is actually much tricker to record than meeting online. I had a videocamera I was playing with and found it really difficult to have us both on the camera at the same time and not look weird.
 
So I edited the excerpts of our conversations into 5 different video clips which I've posted separately on YouTube. Even though you'll hear the audio now, they're worth watching because Nala has a captivating screen presence and some cool clothes, and the passion that will surely come across on audio is even amplified on video.
 
Here are the topics she covers:
 
1. White people don't exist
2. The relationship between anti-racism, ancestor work, and grief
3. Why her ancestors had to be obsessed with race
4. How to talk to your ancestors
5. How grief can (and should) be ecstatic
 
I ask you, when you engage with Nala's material, to leave aside the question of whether you "agree" with her or whether she is "right". And to instead focus on what, if anything, can I learn from this approach.
 
Especially if you experience offense or challenge or another strong emotion. What opportunity for transcendence is encased in that emotion, that reaction? If we couldn't avoid it and had to go through it, where would we arrive?
 
Of course, for me, the most important of Nala's messages is the possibility for us to relate differently to grief. As the Buddha loves pointing out, sickness, death, poverty, loss, and other forms of suffering are human universals. Every single one of us has occasion to experience grief. What do we do with that? 
 
Many people avoid it. Or suppress it. Or make do. Try to accept it. Try to move on. 
 
It's something that can neither be expected nor controlled. At my best I feel like I am surrendering to it, not fighting it. And even that is rare.
 
But Nala's invitation is something else entirely -- to celebrate grief and see it as a gift. What if the whole point of mortality and grief was to give us access to spiritual awakening? What if the death of a friend or a pet or a parent is the easiest 10-day meditation retreat you could imagine, or give you the insight of 3 hits of acid without the acid? Then what? 
 
That comes in the 5th excerpt, so be patient, skip ahead or check out just that segment on YouTube.
 
Okay, thanks everyone, and I'm turning the floor over to Nala. 
 
And remember, The only way out is through.
 
Show Links:
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF_C56bjm3HPYOvdWEfnWtw
Voicemail:  https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow
Email: info@10kh.show
Podcast website: http://momentumlab.com/podcast
Momentum Lab: http://www.momentumlab.com
 
To Contact Nala:
Nala’s website: https://bwellnow.org/about/
Working with Nala: https://bwellnow.org/work-with-me/
 
About our sponsor:
10,000 Heroes is brought to you by Momentum Lab. 
 
I normally refer to Momentum Lab as an experiment-based coaching program or a goal accelerator.
 
But it’s beyond that. It’s a deep investigation into Purpose, Vision, and what it takes to achieve our goals in every area of life.
 
If you’re interested in falling in love with who you are, what you’re doing, or what you’re surrounded with, there’s two roads:
 
Accepting what is
Transforming your situation
 
We help you do both. 
 
The best way of learning more is to sign up for our weekly email: (Momentum) Lab Notes
 
http://momentumlab.com/podcast
 
#grief #griefjourney #griefdoula #ancestors #ancestorworship #heroism #magic #spirituality #spiritualpath #heroes #10ksubscribers #10kheroes#nalawalla #bwell #griefdoula #griefandloss #racism #race #anthropology #humanism #humanismointegral #integral #meditation #mystic #mysticism #love #ancestralwisdom #ancestralknowledge
 

So last week I came at you with a whole map of what I'm going to do this season, involving 10 definitions of heroism. 
 
And this week -- predictably, if you knew me -- I'm not exactly going to do that. But it'll be close.
 
I’m going to explain why finding our purpose (analytically) is going to be a question of survival in the coming world of AI, Basic Income, Robots, and conflict resolution.
 
I also made two videos this week, which I posted to YouTube, on conflict resolution. They're both based on the work on Ken Cloke. One is my synthesis of what mediation is, based on the training I took with Ken. The second is 16 definitions of mediation that Ken gave me, rapid fire, with no preparation or reflection, when I was trying to get some funny material for the first video.
 
I’m including the audio from both of those videos at the end of this episode.
 
And remember: The only way out is through.
 
Show Links:
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF_C56bjm3HPYOvdWEfnWtw
Voicemail:  https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow
Email: info@10kh.show
Podcast website: http://momentumlab.com/podcast
Momentum Lab: http://www.momentumlab.com
Guest References :
Ken Cloke: https://www.kencloke.com/
 Mediators Beyond Borders: https://mediatorsbeyondborders.org/
 Combatants for Peace: https://cfpeace.org/ 
Ken’s recent book: https://www.amazon.com/Politics-Dialo...
 
About our sponsor:
10,000 Heroes is brought to you by Momentum Lab. 
 
I normally refer to Momentum Lab as an experiment-based coaching program or a goal accelerator.

 
What did this episode awaken in you? Don’t be shy.
https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow
 
Welcome to the first interview of Season 6. As you may know, I want to devote this season to Conflict.
 
I took this course in Mediation, the light has been revealed to me, and now I see every conflict as an integral part of my spiritual path.
 
And by extension, of your spiritual path as well. 
 
My guest today is Greg Thomas. He's a musician, he's a producer, he's a scholar. I actually know very little of his credentials, but he's a friend of Jeff Salzman, so I was very excited to talk to him. And he blew me away. I fell in love with this guy and I think you will too.
 
What I loved the most was how he reframes villainy and antagonism as essential parts of any heroic journey, so look out for that and get ready to be grateful for every difficult person and moment you've ever experienced, because that's the logical corrolary of what he's saying.
 
And what I appreciated most about Greg was his vulnerability. He could have stayed abstract and talked about music and conflict and racialization and racism, but no, he took it real and talked about his journey with relationships, with polyamory and monogamy and parenthood, and that's part of why I was so taken with him. His honesty and his sincerity, not just the depth of his experience and his analysis.
 
So thank you Greg and I'm really delighted to present this interview to you all.
 
Show Links:
Voicemail:  https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow
Email: info@10kh.show
Podcast website: http://momentumlab.com/podcast
Momentum Lab: http://www.momentumlab.com
 
Guest References:
https://www.jazzleadershipproject.com/
https://www.tuneintoleadership.com/blog
https://twitter.com/gregthomas22



About our sponsor:
10,000 Heroes is brought to you by Momentum Lab. 
 
I normally refer to Momentum Lab as an experiment-based coaching program or a goal accelerator.
 
But it’s beyond that. It’s a deep investigation into Purpose, Vision, and what it takes to achieve our goals in every area of life.
 
If you’re interested in falling in love with who you are, what you’re doing, or what you’re surrounded with, there’s two roads:
 
Accepting what is
Transforming your situation
 
We help you do both. 
 
The best way of learning more is to sign up for our weekly email: (Momentum) Lab Notes
 
http://momentumlab.com/podcast
 

Today I want to share my plan with you for the next season of this show, Season 6.
 
This season, I'm going to focus my solocasts on my own definitions of what a hero is, using the last 2 years of this podcast as my body of research. 
 
I've come up with 10 different definitions of heroism so far, and I'm going to do an episode about each one of them over the next few months. 
 
Here’s the list:
 
1. A Hero Is In The Flow
2. A Hero Does Tonic Work
3. A Heroes Loves and Accepts Themselves
4. A Hero Lives In Ikigai
5. A Hero Slows Down Time
6. A Hero Masters Emotion
7. A Hero Zooms Out
8. A Hero Is Spiritually Obese
9. A Hero Sees All Sides
10. A Hero Is Made of Heroes
 
Alright, friends, that's the overview of Season 6. Let me know what you think. Conflict welcomed, because, as you and I know:
 
The only way out is through.



Show Links:
Voicemail:  https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow
Email: info@10kh.show
Podcast website: http://momentumlab.com/podcast
Momentum Lab: http://www.momentumlab.com
 
About our sponsor:
10,000 Heroes is brought to you by Momentum Lab. 
 
I normally refer to Momentum Lab as an experiment-based coaching program or a goal accelerator.
 
But it’s beyond that. It’s a deep investigation into Purpose, Vision, and what it takes to achieve our goals in every area of life.
 
If you’re interested in falling in love with who you are, what you’re doing, or what you’re surrounded with, there’s two roads:
 
Accepting what is
Transforming your situation
 
We help you do both. 
 
The best way of learning more is to sign up for our weekly email: (Momentum) Lab Notes
 
http://momentumlab.com/podcast