Attachment Disorder Expert Paula Sacks: Insecure vs. Secure Attachment Styles, Tinder Shark-Pool Dating Rules & How To Build Self-Esteem
“A man is a blow torch, a woman is like an oven.” Most people want to lead a happy life and share it with a partner they love. That sounds simple enough, but for many people, it does not work out so simply. They may have attachment disturbances they are unaware of and repeat patterns unconsciously, asking themselves why they are still single but never getting to the root cause. In the digital era that we live in, dating has been transformed into something resembling a numbers game, or what my guest today Paula calls a shark pool. Many people, especially women, struggle to find and keep the right man at the right time, especially if they are hoping to have both a career and children.
Paula Sacks is an expert in adult attachment disorders and is a licensed and clinically trained social worker, with advanced training thru Harvard Medical School. She offers psychotherapy and hypnotherapy for grief, anxiety & adjustment disorders, peak performance and phobias. She is one of the authors of the 2016 book “Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair” along with Dr. Daniel P. Brown, Dr. David S. Elliot and a team of therapists. You can read more about her on her website paulasackslicsw.com.
Today Paula is going to tell us about attachment styles and why they matter, explain the rules of online dating to keep women and men safe from predators and people who say one thing and do another, discuss anxious and avoidant dating style combinations as well as teach us how to build self-esteem and how to become secure.
Learn more about Paula and contact her directly on her website paulasackslicsw.com
Book: Emotional Vampires by Albert J. Bernstein
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Place to Visit: Anywhere & Everywhere
Paula’s Book: Attachment Disturbances in Adults
This podcast was sponsored by: The Attachment Project