45 min

110: Overcoming Destination Addiction with Aisha Beau Johnson Thank You Heartbreak

    • Society & Culture

After rising to the top and achieving her goal of becoming Head of Communications for a luxury ready-to-wear brand in NYC, Aisha Beau Johnson still felt like something was missing and that she wasn’t where she was meant to be. Her plan? To quit and bet on herself. After getting real on her beauty blog AishaBeau.com about the anxiety she’s suffered since childhood, her bet crystalized and today she’s a go-to guide in the self-care industry.

Joining Chelsea, Aisha opens up about choosing the scary path over the dangerous path, both in her career and in her love. “Scary is taking a leap of faith, scary is going off and trying something new, but dangerous is staying in a situation or with a person that doesn’t value you. I decided to take scary over dangerous.”

Realizing that danger shrinks you, Aisha also reflects on overcoming the debilitating nature of today’s comparison culture and her own destination addiction—that is, the fantasy that once we get there or have that, we will be a certain person who feels and lives a certain way—and shares her wisdom on the first, most important self-care step post-heartbreak and why the person you need to love the most is yourself, because that’s the person you have to live with forever.

Gems to look out for:

+ you can’t emit radiance if you don’t admit to the demons inside of yourself
+ why having a name/term/diagnosis for what you’re experiencing can calm you
+ freedom is directly correlated to peace of mind and peace of mind is directly correlated to a belief in yourself
+ when you believe in yourself, your possibilities are endless
+ the relationship between believing in yourself and betting on yourself
+ how being in an environment that wasn’t fulfilling her purpose triggered anxiety
+ how to live and work in an uncertain field as an anxious person
+ the myth of “once I get there, I’ll be happy”
+ how she alleviated the pressure on her performance and her fixation on the destination when she became a full-time blogger
+ overcoming “I want this NOW”
+ how throwing hobbies to the wayside to make herself readily available to a man ended her relationship
+ work on yourself but don’t stop working on yourself once you get into a great relationship
+ living your dream and going out on a limb can inspire your partner to seek and reach for their own goal
+ it takes maturity to be with someone who is propelling themselves forward
+ the fear of successful, lasting relationships is vulnerability
+ advice from her single mom: treat every relationship like it’s a fresh start and a new beginning and give it your all
+ a successful relationship is dependent upon us always pushing ourself to be more of ourself
+ first step in self-care is greeting your feelings without bringing judgment to them
+ when you put things on paper, you cease to wrestle with things in your mind
+ stop with the shoulding, everyone’s process is different

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To connect with Aisha, visit her:

Website: http://aishabeau.com

YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/aishabeau

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aishabeau

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aishabeau

Twitter: https://twitter.com/aishabeau

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Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shop

Chelsea’s website: www.breakupward.com

Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletter

Instagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak

Connect and send in your questions and/or letters via

www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak

Or by email: Chelsea@breakupward.com

After rising to the top and achieving her goal of becoming Head of Communications for a luxury ready-to-wear brand in NYC, Aisha Beau Johnson still felt like something was missing and that she wasn’t where she was meant to be. Her plan? To quit and bet on herself. After getting real on her beauty blog AishaBeau.com about the anxiety she’s suffered since childhood, her bet crystalized and today she’s a go-to guide in the self-care industry.

Joining Chelsea, Aisha opens up about choosing the scary path over the dangerous path, both in her career and in her love. “Scary is taking a leap of faith, scary is going off and trying something new, but dangerous is staying in a situation or with a person that doesn’t value you. I decided to take scary over dangerous.”

Realizing that danger shrinks you, Aisha also reflects on overcoming the debilitating nature of today’s comparison culture and her own destination addiction—that is, the fantasy that once we get there or have that, we will be a certain person who feels and lives a certain way—and shares her wisdom on the first, most important self-care step post-heartbreak and why the person you need to love the most is yourself, because that’s the person you have to live with forever.

Gems to look out for:

+ you can’t emit radiance if you don’t admit to the demons inside of yourself
+ why having a name/term/diagnosis for what you’re experiencing can calm you
+ freedom is directly correlated to peace of mind and peace of mind is directly correlated to a belief in yourself
+ when you believe in yourself, your possibilities are endless
+ the relationship between believing in yourself and betting on yourself
+ how being in an environment that wasn’t fulfilling her purpose triggered anxiety
+ how to live and work in an uncertain field as an anxious person
+ the myth of “once I get there, I’ll be happy”
+ how she alleviated the pressure on her performance and her fixation on the destination when she became a full-time blogger
+ overcoming “I want this NOW”
+ how throwing hobbies to the wayside to make herself readily available to a man ended her relationship
+ work on yourself but don’t stop working on yourself once you get into a great relationship
+ living your dream and going out on a limb can inspire your partner to seek and reach for their own goal
+ it takes maturity to be with someone who is propelling themselves forward
+ the fear of successful, lasting relationships is vulnerability
+ advice from her single mom: treat every relationship like it’s a fresh start and a new beginning and give it your all
+ a successful relationship is dependent upon us always pushing ourself to be more of ourself
+ first step in self-care is greeting your feelings without bringing judgment to them
+ when you put things on paper, you cease to wrestle with things in your mind
+ stop with the shoulding, everyone’s process is different

__

To connect with Aisha, visit her:

Website: http://aishabeau.com

YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/aishabeau

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aishabeau

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aishabeau

Twitter: https://twitter.com/aishabeau

__

Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shop

Chelsea’s website: www.breakupward.com

Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletter

Instagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak

Connect and send in your questions and/or letters via

www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak

Or by email: Chelsea@breakupward.com

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