The Language Alchemy Podcast

Alejandra Siroka

The language you use every day shapes your world and is your bridge to deeply connecting with yourself and others. Through the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka, a transformative communication teacher and coach, invites you to explore and express your deepest truths with clarity, confidence, and compassion. Give conscious shape to a fulfilling life and meaningful relationships with Language Alchemy.

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    182. What is Passive Aggressive Communication Recognizing Hidden Messages in Your Relationships

    Passive aggression hides beneath polite words and careful smiles, creating confusion and distance in relationships that crave honesty and emotional safety.   Alejandra Siroka begins a new mini-series by inviting listeners to understand passive-aggressive communication not as cruelty or manipulation but as a protective response born from fear, powerlessness, or cultural conditioning. She reveals how indirect language—sarcasm, silence, backhanded compliments, or half-hearted agreement—often signals discomfort that feels too risky to express directly. Rather than labeling these moments as toxic, Alejandra encourages awareness. What if the tension you feel in a conversation isn’t hostility but an attempt to stay safe? What changes when you notice the mismatch between someone’s words and their energy with curiosity instead of blame?   Through relatable examples and compassionate reflection, she helps listeners uncover the roots of passive aggression and begin seeing it as a learned pattern that can soften with understanding. This first part of the mini-series lays the foundation for a more conscious way to relate, one that replaces confusion with clarity and hidden resentment with genuine connection.   Quotes “Passive-aggressive communication is a way of expressing something we consider uncomfortable in an indirect way." (04:15 | Alejandra Siroka) “That's the tricky thing about passive aggression. It operates in the space between what is said and what is meant. And it leaves the person on the receiving end feeling confused, questioning their perception, and often absorbing guilt or shame that isn't theirs.” (10:00 | Alejandra Siroka) "People who communicate with passive aggression are not bad people. They are wonderful, good, loving humans, just like you, who happen to be reacting." (10:46 | Alejandra Siroka) "Passive aggression often emerges when someone feels they have no direct power or voice in a situation." (13:00 | Alejandra Siroka) “Passive-aggressive communication is the indirect expression of uncomfortable feelings, opinions, experiences, wants, and needs. And we communicate that through words, tone, or behavior that don't match what we mean.” (16:15 | Alejandra Siroka)   Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/mailinglist To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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    181. How to Be There for our Loved Ones During Difficult Times

    When someone we care about feels overwhelmed or emotionally stretched thin, their communication may shift — not because they intend harm, but because their inner resources are running low.   In this episode, Alejandra Siroka offers a new way to interpret those moments. Instead of taking sharp replies, distance, or inconsistency personally, try to notice them as signs of depletion rather than rejection. She introduces a powerful comparison: the care we naturally extend to a sprained ankle — patience, gentleness, slower pacing — is the same kind of awareness that can be brought to the emotional healing of others. Rather than labeling someone as too sensitive or difficult, consider what changes when you treat their tenderness as a temporary injury rather than a flaw.   Alejandra explores eight practices that may help you relate more intentionally when someone you love is struggling. These include offering acknowledgment without fixing, speaking in softer tones when possible, waiting for settled energy before approaching complex topics, and choosing language that frames others with dignity even when their actions feel challenging.   The invitation isn’t to overextend or absorb what isn’t yours, it’s to stay rooted in compassion while still honoring your own clarity. This approach may reveal that support doesn’t always come through solutions. Sometimes it’s simply presence, patience, and a willingness to see beyond the moment.   Quotes "The same tender awareness we give to a sprained ankle is exactly what the people in our lives need when they are going through challenges or feeling heartbroken by what's happening in the world." (03:38 | Alejandra Siroka) "When someone is under-resourced, their communication is going to be more habitual and less authentic. It's going to be less conscious and less mindful of their own impact on others." (06:12 | Alejandra Siroka) “If you can remember that they are under-resourced, that they are operating from a place of depletion rather than fullness, you can create space for their struggle without making it about you.” (07:26 | Alejandra Siroka) "When you don't take it personally, you free yourself to respond with compassion instead of defensiveness. You can see their habitual communication patterns for what they are, survival mechanisms, rather than attacks on you." (08:02 | Alejandra Siroka) "We need to be each other's keepers. What does that mean? It means showing up with tenderness when someone is hurting. It means choosing compassion over impatience." (14:29 | Alejandra Siroka)   Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/mailinglist To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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    180. How to Talk About Gaza & the Israeli-Palestinian Conflict

    When the world is shaken by war, violence, and human suffering, it can feel impossible to talk about it without creating more distance. Maybe you’ve stayed silent to avoid conflict. Maybe you’ve spoken up only to regret how the conversation unfolded. Or maybe you’ve felt pressure to take a side just to prove that you care.   Alejandra Siroka invites you to understand a different way forward. She shares how conversations anchored in values—compassion, humility, justice, peace, or connection—can open space rather than shut it down. Instead of falling into the trap of being “right” or “wrong,” Alejandra shows how to consider what outcome you want from a conversation and how to let that guide your words.   Through stories and real-life examples, you’ll uncover ways to respond with honesty, curiosity, and humanity in even the most charged moments. You’ll see how choosing one guiding value can reshape not only what you say, but how you show up for others.   This episode leaves you with a framework to lean on when words feel inadequate. It’s an invitation to explore how your communication, grounded in values, can help protect dignity and connection in times when the world feels divided.   Quotes “How do we speak about something this complex and emotionally charged without losing our way? The answer lies in one of the core principles of language alchemy, which is about getting crystal clear on your values and anchoring your communication in them.” (09:00 | Alejandra Siroka) “Before you enter any conversation about the Israel-Gaza crisis, pause and ask yourself these three questions. Number one, what value do I most want to embody in this conversation? Number two, am I speaking from my values or from a need to be right? And number three, what outcome am I hoping for? Connection or conquest?” (09:21 | Alejandra Siroka) "When you lead with, I don't know, you're not being weak or uncommitted. You are being honest about the limitations of your perspective while staying connected to your values." (16:43 | Alejandra Siroka) "Your willingness to communicate from your values, even when others may get caught in the reactive patterns, is not something neutral. It is a form of evolutionary activism." ( 21:36 | Alejandra Siroka) "The world doesn't need more people taking sides. It needs more people willing to communicate from their deepest wisdom and stay connected across differences." ( 22:42 | Alejandra Siroka)   Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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    179. Back to School 3 Questions Every Parent Needs

    The back-to-school season doesn’t just shift kids’ routines, it changes the rhythm of the whole family.   Alejandra Siroka invites parents and co-parents to pause and notice how these transitions impact their partnerships. She shares three simple yet powerful questions that help partners move from silent frustration to mutual support, turning hectic weeks into opportunities for connection.    Alejandra also explores the importance of grounding family logistics in shared values, checking in regularly, and practicing daily gratitude. Whether you’re in a couple or parenting solo, this episode offers ways to uncover hidden stress points, consider what support really looks like, and create a smoother transition for everyone at home.   Quotes “When we name what’s happening and we create the space to talk about it together, we can transform a potentially chaotic transition into a meaningful passage that can bring you and your partner or co-parent together.”  (03:20 | Alejandra Siroka) “Before you and your partner get deep into logistics, this conversation needs to start with your values.” (04:11 | Alejandra Siroka) “What’s key here is that you show yourself that you are not alone. Because most likely, there is someone who would really enjoy supporting you and feeling heard by you.” (14:42 | Alejandra Siroka) “Conscious communication doesn’t mean you’ll have to have perfect conversations or that every transition will go smoothly. It means you are choosing to engage with intention rather than with reaction. It means you are building connection even in the midst of change.” (15:24 | Alejandra Siroka) “Every conversation you have, whether it’s checking in with your partner about their needs for the week or expressing gratitude for how they’re supporting the family is an act of evolutionary activism because you’re modeling to your children how to navigate transitions in a meaningful and connecting way.” (16:13 | Alejandra Siroka)   Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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  5. ١٠ سبتمبر

    178. Back-to-School Talk: Helping Kids Navigate Transitions

    Back-to-school season often comes with shopping lists, new schedules, and endless logistics, but how often do we stop to think about what this transition feels like for our children?    In this episode, Alejandra Siroka invites parents to use conscious communication to guide kids through the mix of excitement, nervousness, and even sadness that often accompanies change. She explains how small, everyday conversations, whether during a car ride, over dinner, or in a quiet moment before bed, can create space for kids to feel safe and understood. Each school year brings new dynamics and emotions, even when everything else seems familiar. How do we recognize these subtle shifts and turn them into opportunities for connection? Alejandra shows how embracing transition as transformation can help families build resilience and deeper bonds that last well beyond the classroom.   Quotes “Every transition matters because every transition brings changes. And every change can serve as an opportunity for growth, connection, and transformation, especially when we give them our full attention through skillful communication.” (04:58 | Alejandra Siroka) “When you validate your children’s feelings and help them see that emotions are temporary, you are teaching them emotional intelligence and resilience that will serve them throughout their lives.” (09:17 | Alejandra Siroka) “Your role is to be present, to listen, to be their source for safety and connection, and also to help them understand that whatever they’re feeling, that experience and that feeling is valid and temporary.” (11:17 | Alejandra Siroka) “Every conversation you have, whether it’s validating your child’s nervousness about a new teacher or simply acknowledging that transitions can feel overwhelming, is an act of evolutionary activism because you’re modeling a new way of being in relationship.” (12:50 | Alejandra Siroka) “Transition is transformation in disguise. When we meet it with conscious communication, we don’t just survive the change. We help our children thrive through it.” (13:27 | Alejandra Siroka)   Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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    177. Stop Sounding Like Customer Service in Your Own Relationships: Breaking Free From Communication Formulas

    Many of us still rely on communication habits that took root when we were children. Maybe you avoid speaking up because you’re afraid of ruffling feathers. Maybe you say yes when you really mean no. Or maybe you fall back on language that sounds dramatic when what you actually want is to feel understood. These patterns once served a purpose, but they don’t support the authentic, connected relationships we want as adults.   In this episode, Alejandra Siroka invites you to consider a different approach. Instead of memorizing lines or following a formula, she shares how communication can become a living practice that grows with you. Through stories, examples, and insights, Alejandra shows how the Language Alchemy approach helps you pause, notice what’s happening inside, and speak from your deepest values. When you do this, you move from reactivity to awareness and from transactional exchanges to genuine connection.   What would change in your life if you trusted your own voice rather than relying on someone else’s script? How might your relationships evolve if you brought curiosity, presence, and compassion into every conversation? This episode reminds us that authentic communication is not about getting the words “right” but about showing up as your true self and allowing your voice to grow with you.   Quotes “Your communication needs to grow with you. Yes, just like your body grows from infant to adult, your communication needs to develop and mature alongside you.” (01:58 | Alejandra Siroka) “You do not need someone else’s script for your adult conversations.” (08:17 | Alejandra Siroka) “From my perspective, communication formulas are actually a disservice to your growth and authenticity.” (10:48 | Alejandra Siroka) “Skillful communication depends on the context, not on formulas.” (15:00 | Alejandra Siroka) “When you choose curiosity over judgment, you are transforming your communication.” (18:32 | Alejandra Siroka)   Links Apply for Language Alchemy Group Coaching at https://www.languagealchemy.com/groupcoaching To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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    176. Your Unexamined Childhood Language Patterns Are Sabotaging Your Adult Relationships

    Transform the way you speak to yourself, life, and others to open the door to deeper connection, stronger confidence, and real personal growth.   Alejandra Siroka invites you to see communication as more than words exchanged between people. It is the thread that shapes your relationships, your self-image, and your sense of possibility. The language you use with yourself can lift you up or hold you back. The beliefs you carry about life can expand your world or keep it small. The way you speak to others can build trust or create distance.    Through client stories, Alejandra shows how patterns formed in childhood often stay with us and quietly influence every interaction. She explores the three dimensions of communication: how you talk to yourself, how you relate to life, and how you connect with others. She offers ways to evolve each one so you can move from self-criticism to compassion, from bracing for the worst to noticing support, and from defensiveness to genuine curiosity. These shifts create ripple effects you can see and feel in daily life.    In this episode, Alejandra leaves us with the understanding that transforming your communication means stepping into the fullest version of yourself with tools, guidance, and a supportive community to help you get there.   Quotes “If you’re still talking to yourself using the same language patterns you absorbed as a child, it’s like you’re trying to navigate your adult life with a child’s map.” (04:40 | Alejandra Siroka) “The health of your relationships, and therefore the quality of your life, depends on how you communicate with others.” (12:05 | Alejandra Siroka) “When you transform your interpersonal communication, you have more choice and you’re able to express yourself authentically in a way that has presence and understanding for you and for the other person.” (13:40 | Alejandra Siroka) “When you transform your communication, it has ripple effects. When you change how you communicate, everything changes.” (15:16 | Alejandra Siroka) “Transformation is not about becoming someone different. It’s about becoming more fully yourself, the wise, loving, authentic, mature adult you truly are.” (17:54 | Alejandra Siroka)   Links Group Coaching - https://www.languagealchemy.com/groupcoaching To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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    175. Breaking Free from the Mental Spin Cycle - Why ‘Being the Better Person’ Backfires (And What Actually Works)

    Trying to be the better person in a conflict might be the very thing keeping you stuck and silently seething.   Alejandra Siroka takes a closer look at what really happens when we avoid hard conversations in the name of maturity or keeping the peace. This episode explores the spin cycle, that mental loop we fall into when unresolved conflict plays on repeat, and offers a more meaningful way forward using values-based communication. Avoiding the conversation might feel like the safer choice, but at what cost to your sense of self?   Through her Language Alchemy® approach, Alejandra outlines a practice that begins with honest self-awareness and leads into speaking from your core values rather than judgment or resentment. She poses thoughtful questions to help shift the way we think about conflict: What does your value of integrity ask of you right now? What would it sound like to speak with respect for both yourself and the other person?   You’ll also hear a story about Priya, a client who spent years feeling quietly dismissed by her mother-in-law until she finally expressed herself in a way that honored her values and opened the door to mutual understanding. This episode is an invitation to move out of mental spinning and into honest, grounded communication without losing yourself along the way.   Quotes “These ideas about being the better person can actually add another layer of pressure. Because they suggest that if we were truly evolved or mature, we would simply rise above the conflict without addressing the underlying issues.” (03:41 | Alejandra Siroka) “When they apply forced niceness to their communication, they’re being inauthentic. And inauthenticity doesn’t feel good at all.” (05:54 | Alejandra Siroka) “When we transform how we communicate in our personal relationships, we are actually contributing to a larger shift in human consciousness. Every time we choose values-based communication over reactive patterns, we’re not just healing our own conflicts, we are modeling a new way of being that ripples out into the world.” (09:33 | Alejandra Siroka) “Instead of asking ourselves, ‘How do I make this person change?’ We need to ask, ‘How do I show up as the person I want to be in this situation?’” (10:42 | Alejandra Siroka) “When we stop trying to be the better person and start being our authentic selves grounded in our own values, we create the possibility for real resolution and genuine connection.” (17:56 | Alejandra Siroka)   Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy® mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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The language you use every day shapes your world and is your bridge to deeply connecting with yourself and others. Through the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka, a transformative communication teacher and coach, invites you to explore and express your deepest truths with clarity, confidence, and compassion. Give conscious shape to a fulfilling life and meaningful relationships with Language Alchemy.

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