157. BTS: When do I allow my partner space to problem-solve with our child and when is it time to step in‪?‬ Securely Attached

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...
 
 
2:55 - Raising our own tolerance to the discomfort of our partner being "less effective" than we know we could be with our children.
 
5:55 - Ask yourself: "What if I am actually NOT the only expert on my child and what my partner is giving her is actually what she needs."
 
6:47 - Can you physically remove yourself (just in the short term) to allow your partner and child to adjust without you becoming triggered?
 
9:52 - What is the threshold for when you do want to step in and "rescue"?
 
12:24 - When we always rescue, we may inadvertently communicate to our child (and our partner!) that they aren't capable of parenting properly.
 
 
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