Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

Melanie Curtin
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Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

Advice for smart men on how to succeed with women in sex, dating, relationships, and marriages. Beautiful women give you a peek behind the curtain into what the feminine really craves from the masculine ... and how to give it to us. Personal growth is sexy, haven't you heard? Get in touch at dearmenpodcast@gmail.com. Take our free training for men at https://evolutionary.men/dearmen

  1. HACE 23 H

    336: Why does your woman poke you sometimes? What’s that about? (ft. Jason Lange)

    Ever feel like you're being deliberately provoked by your woman? Or that she sometimes pushes and pushes until she gets a rise out of you -- often about what seem like tiny things? This pattern can be confusing until you understand the deeper reasons for it. And it's quite a common in dating and relationships, though we don't often discuss it explicitly. Related to polarity, the way Jason puts it is that "the poke is a call for presence and deeper feeling." It's not always the most mature or conscious way of relating. And the truth is, we as human beings don't always act in the most mature fashion. But if we can grasp the underlying vulnerabilities that drive us, then we often hit on wells of compassion that help us deepen and relax into love in ways we couldn't before. Remember: Personal growth works. It's not a straight line, but it's always worth it. --- Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) --- Memorable quotes from this episode:"I need to pause you right there.""It’s meant to evoke, 'Where are you?’ And ‘I’m having a hard time trusting your right now.'""This ties into a common masculine feeling of, 'I’m not enough.'""Sometimes there’s a sense of, 'Oh, yeah, caught red-handed. I actually wasn’t here.'""Acting out is another kind of poke."

    57 min

  2. 15 NOV

    335: Ever felt like women had a 'list' in dating & relationships? (ft. Violet Lange)

    Ever gotten the sense that a woman is sizing you up ... deciding whether you match up with a list she has in her head around her ideal partner? You might be right. Whether you're online dating, speed dating, or meeting someone in real life, a lot of women do have a list, and it can be confusing or even frustrating when you interface with it. Here, we discuss the nuances of "the list" -- the why behind it, how to engage with it, and the tension between the need to be open/flexible, and the need to stick with personal boundaries. If you have your own list, you’ll likely also relate to this. And you may also relate to the feeling of wanting things to be neat and tidy — to be fully prepared for relationship and have your partner match up with all your expectations. To which I’d share Violet's words: “Would I rather be alone for the next decade, or would I rather have the experience of loving and being loved, and have it be messy?" --- Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) --- Memorable quotes from this episode:“He has a nice resume; I thought he’d be a good guy.”“My desires and yearnings are holy and I want them to be fulfilled.”“When we cut off our heart in dating, we’re missing a rich human experience.”“You never know what’s going to delight and surprise you.”“If you want emotional safety, you have to be vulnerable.”

    1 h y 8 min

  3. 9 NOV

    334: Are you needy? Here’s the difference between neediness and having needs (ft. Jason Lange)

    What does it actually mean to be needy? We use the term a lot, and sometimes in less-than-kind ways -- both in terms of describing others as well as ourselves. Having needs is a universal experiences. Humans, animals, plants, and every living thing has certain needs. Human beings need food, water, and sleep on a biological level -- and we also need love, respect, and a sense of belonging. If we don't have these needs met, then we have reactions. In a love relationship, it can feel difficult or even overwhelming to advocate for certain needs to be met -- for example, physical affection, quality one-on-one attention, or sex. Neediness nearly always stems from old wounds, so it can be hard to bring this kind of thing forward with a partner. The truth is, we're all needy. We all have certain needs, and our partner is not responsible for meeting all of them all of the time. But there's a balance to be had, which involves navigating difference and being willing to hang in there through discomfort. Here, we explore the themes around sex, dating, relationships, needs, desires, and the nervous system. — Memorable quotes from this episode:"Now it’s about advocating clearly for what I need.""There’s a place in relationships for healthy generosity.""What would I need to be a ‘yes’ to this?""It this doesn’t shift, I’m going to take a certain action for myself.""It can feel like, ‘If it’s not here, I’m doomed.'"

    50 min

  4. 1 NOV

    333: Are you addicted to porn? (ft. Jason Lange) [replay]

    Do you ever feel ashamed of your porn use, or wish you could stop or cut down? Ever had trouble getting it up and wondered if that's connected to porn use? Ever compared dating partners to women you see in porn, and wondered if that was negatively impacting your sex or love life? Over 10% of men are addicted to porn, according to a 2019 study in the Journal of Behavioral Addictions. (As of 2024, I suspect that number is even higher.) Porn has also been linked to to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and delayed ejaculation in some cases. Here, we talk about why porn addiction has become so prevalent, and help to answer the questions: How do you know if you're addicted to porn, and how do you quit (if you want to)? Jason also delves into his own personal experience with porn addiction, how he overcame it, and what life and sexuality is like now (including with his partner). --- Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

    58 min

  5. 25 OCT

    332: Ever gone into freeze? Here’s what’s actually going on. (ft. Stacy Matulis)

    If you've ever felt anxious around a woman you were attracted to, gone rigid when you tried to flirt, or completely shut down during a fight with your partner, you know what it is to go into freeze. When we're overwhelmed, we can lock up. This is inconvenient if what you really want to do in that moment is to move, get someone's number, or speak up for yourself during a moment of tension with your spouse or in a meeting at work. Where does this behavior come from? Why did it develop? What do we do about it that actually works? Here, somatic practitioner and expert Stacy Matulis breaks down what's actually going on in your nervous system when you freeze, and what to do about it. (Hint: No one is an island, and we need others. We are interdependent.) We also cover the difference between freeze and disassociation, depression and suicidality, and why it can feel like even after years of doing the work, you're still stuck in some ways. Going into a freeze state will absolutely impact your sex, dating and relationship life. Fortunately, there's a way through. --- Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) --- Mentioned on this episode:DM 196: The “invisible” relationship pattern that can affect everything (childhood neglect)--- Memorable quotes from this episode:“I felt neutered as a human.”“When we grew up without safe others, we can learn that there are no safe others.”“What would bring me into a life that I wanted to live?”“Attunement is just as much an essential need as food and shelter is.”“Your feelings and needs are all right with me.”“A traumatized brain is programmed to look for the problem, and stay focused on the difficult energy.”“Who I am makes love go away.”

    1 h y 16 min

  6. 18 OCT

    331: GirlTalk: Relationship lessons, growth work, and memorable men

    Ever wondered what different women say when they get really real about their last relationship?  How about why they do growth work — and what it looks like for them? Here, I take you behind the curtain to give you a peek at exactly that. This is an amalgam episode with responses from over over ten women who answered three questions: What’s the biggest thing you learned in your last relationship?What’s a memorable time a man showed up for you or honored you in some way?Why do you do growth work and what does that look like for you?--- When it comes to love, sex, relationships, and personal growth work, one thing is always true: more compassion is always better. So here’s to increased understanding, empathy, and joy — and of course, more healing.  --- Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

    1 h y 5 min

  7. 12 OCT

    330: GirlTalk: How to go down on her so she loves it!

    If you love having sex with women and want to be known as a great lover, being good at going down is an important part of your repertoire. ;) But it’s not easy to talk about this with anyone, so here we’re laying it bare. Four of us ladies share openly about what really works for us in oral sex -- what we desire, long for, and what holds us back in terms of receiving deep pleasure. Whether you're married and wanting to know how to excel at cunnilingus on your wife, or you’re dating and want to how to go down on a woman such that she craves seeing you again, it’s all here. — Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

    1 h y 11 min

  8. 4 OCT

    329: How do you stay grounded when she's dysregulated (upset, stressed, anxious, angry, etc.)? (ft. Jason Lange)

    When your partner gets anxious or upset, do you feel like it's your fault or that you have to fix it immediately? How able are you to stay grounded and feel your own self, even amidst her storm/upset? Ever found yourself doing anything to calm her down -- because your sense of being OK was contingent upon her feeling OK? (We find this common in the men with whom we work. Here, we talk about how to stay grounded even when she's going through it. We outline how to know what's actually going on for you in those moments, how to "interrupt" the sense of compulsion around fixing it, and what a deep offering it is to maintain your own, separate nervous system instead of merging with hers. As Jason says, now that he has become more skilled in this area, “I can be connected to her without being swallowed up by what’s going on for her.” Whether it's in sex, dating, or a committed relationship, you will be more stable, reliable, and frankly sexy partner when you learn to master this. --- Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) --- Memorable quotes from this episode:“When she would get dysregulated, I would get dysregulated."“Avoiding conflict often tends to create more conflict.” “If my partner isn’t feeling well, it feels like it’s my fault.” “Oh wow, her nervous system is not my nervous system.” “I’m here with it, whatever it is — and I’m being impacted.”“It’s OK to be messy and imperfect.”

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Advice for smart men on how to succeed with women in sex, dating, relationships, and marriages. Beautiful women give you a peek behind the curtain into what the feminine really craves from the masculine ... and how to give it to us. Personal growth is sexy, haven't you heard? Get in touch at dearmenpodcast@gmail.com. Take our free training for men at https://evolutionary.men/dearmen

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