Being an Ally is more important than ever in this time of challenge, frustration, and confusion. It is time to remove the confusion around what it means to truly be an ally, specifically for people of color, if you are a white person in America.
People of color should not be expected to educate white people about their experience or mere existence; it is the responsibility of white people to listen, to guide each other through the process of recognizing the impacts of privilege, and to move forward to learn and grow as become allies.
This week we spoke to Rebecca Toner on this topic. Rebecca is a Trauma and Boundaries Coach and founder of The Nest Center for Coaching as well as a Licensed Processional Counselor in the state of Connecticut where she owns and practices out of Mental Health Counseling and Consultation Services. Rebecca specializes in helping people who are trying to stop identifying with long standing trauma.
Visit Rebecca’s websites to learn more about her offerings:
You can find Rebecca on Instagram at @nestcoaching or by email Rebecca@nestcoaching.org
If you are interested in learning more about the topic of becoming an ally for people of color, here are some of our recommended resources.
Instagram Accounts to Follow:
@exhaustedtoempowered -great for BIPOC who feel as though they have some racial trauma to recover from! She can help you find your voice! (full website at mariverano.com)
Coaches to help unpack your privilege:
“Me and White Supremacy” by Layla F. Sa’ad*** favorite resource!
“Unpacking the White Knapsack”
“Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria”
“Just Mercy” by Bryan Stephenson (also a movie)
“The Sun Does Shine”
“The Body Is Not An Apology” by Sonya Renee Taylor *** other favorite resource
Any of Brene Brown’s books
Dr. Kimberly Crenshaw
“The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel van der Kolk
“Becoming” by Michelle Obama
“The Good Ancestor” Layla F. Sa’ad
“No White Saviors”
“Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations"