#44: Kimi Hirotsu Ziemski - The Courage to Communicate The Rabbi and The Shrink

How do we bridge the distance between the speaker and the listener?

Why is speaking truth to power both an illusive and a sought-after commodity?
Why is shooting the messenger really shooting yourself?


These and other fascinating and relevant questions are addressed when leadership guru Kimi Hirotsu Ziemski joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimihirotsuziemski/

https://ksppartnership.com/

1:00 What is the responsibility of the asker and the askee?
Commitment to time, energy, and understanding
Fear of appearing stupid or insensitive
Lack of confidence that we can clearly express ourselves
We think it’s safer to stay silent, which sets us up for failure


5:00  William H. Whyte:  the greatest problem of communication is the illusion that it has taken place
It doesn’t matter how hard we try to be clear if we don’t succeed
The courage to say:  I’m not clear


8:00 Take responsibility, using humor or self-deprecation
Beware of being “bullied by your own admiration”
Accidental bullying
Responsible third party interventions


12:00  You will surely rebuke your neighbor, but don’t bear a sin because of him
Love rebuke
Rebuke = validation
Timing, wording, privacy, pure motivation
We are all so insecure today, that giving and receiving rebuke is almost impossible, yet it is a leader’s obligation


15:00  The follower’s responsibility to follow wisely and follow wise leaders
If you “shoot the messenger” you won’t receive many messages
Every leader needs a trusted advisor


20:00 The first follower transforms a lone wolf (or a nut job) into a leader
The price of short-term discomfort vs the value of long-term success
Create a culture of trust


26:00 Our attitude toward learning and growth comes from upbringing and social norms
Why is speaking truth to power both an illusive and a sought-after commodity?
Have the courage to step up and make a difference
Have the courage to say what needs to be said


34:00 Insecurity promotes rationalization, which is to everyone’s detriment
Find a back door when you can’t confront problems head on


36:30  Word of the Day:  Zeugma
the use of a word to modify or govern two or more words usually in such a manner that it applies to each in a different sense or makes sense with only one
“They covered themselves with dust and glory.” – Mark Twain
Ethical behavior serves us and others in different ways.
Consider the difference between the process and the outcome


45:00 How do we invite others into the conversation?
Start by clearing our mental palate from intellectual junk food
Inspire others to ask us about being more than we are
Start small
What one thing can you do!