47. Progression of Low Self Worth Loops

In this episode, I break down my progression of low self-worth loops that began in childhood and share how that has affected my parenting. This is not a bashing session on my parents, rather it’s a deeper understanding of how we, as kids, can start to internally code these really repetitive interactions with our parents. When there is shame, constant correction, lectures, etc. it’s very easy to internalize these moments as “bad” or “wrong” and therefore we begin to view ourselves as “bad” or “wrong.” 

When our kid’s way of expressing themselves doesn’t match our expectations we have to be very careful with how we step in to correct. Our child might morph into the “behaved” child we want to see, but what is going on for them internally? What stories are they telling themselves about their character, their abilities, their level of self-worth?  One of the greatest lessons I’m learning as a parent is that even if we are coming to parenting with the best of intentions, we need to make sure we attune to and match our child’s way of expressing thoughts and feelings. We need to meet them where THEY are at, verses expect them to rise to our level. 

Additionally I share a tool that I use myself and that my clients use in order to get more clarity and context around why we are so incredibly triggered at certain times.

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