63. Evolving through Unhealthy Family Dynamics, Dealing with Anger, & Releasing the Pride of Pain

As the holiday season rolls around, many of us who are on a journey of healing are visited by triggers, past pain, and heavy emotions. 

The first visitor in our internal world is usually Anger. It is best friends with Pride & usually sounds like: 

“Why is is this way? Why did that have to happen? Why couldn’t you have…” + It is often paired with actions towards others that are uninhibited from showing that we still pain.

It is silent, passive, and quite poisonous to our hearts.

Anger & Pride make a bed for Resentment to sleep comfortably in - and all that resentment does is keep us away from the door to our healing. The doorway to our hearts becomes poisoned.

While they are hard, these emotions and triggers are tests and challenges of our willingness to stay present with ourselves and commitment to growth during heavy times. 

Can you peak under the hood of all that anger, pride, resentment, pain — and hold space for what’s underneath it?

Can you consciously decide to continue your journey, in the face of what may have led you on it in the first place?

Can you show up for the inner child you’ve worked so hard to recognize + validate? And can you do it with love? 

I recorded this episode back in June, before The Road Less Traveled kicked off - but as I felt into my experience this past week which always seems to mirror the collective, I felt that some words and reminders on navigating hard family dynamics were needed. 

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In this episode, I cover how Anger + Pride keep us from healing, what self-abandonment looks like & how to spot it, and reminders on what to do when the heart wants to close. 

It’s short & it’s sweet - & if you need more, check out these episodes for further deliberation on these subjects: 

Shadow-Work: 

Episode 21. Shadow-Work Series: Part 1: A Beginners Guide to Inner Child Healing, Forgiveness, & Self-Discovery 

Episode 37. Healing Self-Expression & Actualizing your Dreams Through Your Inner Child - Shadow-Work Series

Episode 39. The Dark Nigh of the Soul

Episode 46. Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma & Healing a Wounded Inner Child: Guest Episode with my Sister

Episode 62. Pain is Inevitable, Sufering is a Choice: A step-by-step guide on what to do when sh!t hits the Fan

Episode 1: Inner Child Healing + Shadow-Work 

Healing the Heart: 

Episode 38. Unlocking our Heart’s Potential: Clearing Energetic Blocks & Accessing a Portal to Profound love & inner Alchemy 

JOURNALING PROMPTS + GUIDE FOR THIS EPISODE:

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EPISODE CHAPTERS: 

0:00: Introduction 

2:15: What is Pride? What is Anger? How does it keep us from healing? 

3:06: Anger is Sadness in a Leather Jacket 

3:54: Reacquainting with the Heart - A Piece Written by Me 

5:55: Acknowledge that Anger has Serves a Purpose in Protecting You (But Know When to Let it Go) 

7:05: Recognizing how We Perpetuate Our Own Pain 

7:30: The Abandonment Wound + It’s Friend: Self-Abandonment

8:32: Triggers, Expectations, & The Very Real Reality of Loving

9:34: Validating & Processing your Inner Grief

10:16 Your Responsibility is You 

11:12 Whatever you Do: Keep Your Heart Open 

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