89. Girl, Stop Apologizing (ft. The Wild Honey Band)

A band that was built from a group of women who finally stopped apologizing for taking time to themselves. Life gets busy. There are kids, jobs, and commitments that can make it hard to show up for yourself but these ladies show us the magic that happens when you finally do.

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In this episode you will learn about:

• Taking time you yourself as a mom  
• Letting yourself be vulnerable to do the thing you may not be good at yet  
• Importance of sisterhood 
• Figuring out the important people to begin taking action with 

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Guest Bio: Wild Honey Band

What started as a desperate desire for comradery and purpose became the all-female band, Wild Honey.

With eight daughters under the age of seven, Laura Cain, Jessica Niedermeyer, and Shelby Knudsen decided they needed to find a reason to get together. Something that wouldn’t be so easily cancelled when things got chaotic, which was almost always.

After much discussion, they landed on a band. Shelby played some campfire guitar and Jess grew up surrounded by music and musicians, although she carried a deep fear of performing. Laura had an unspoken dream to play the violin. A band seemed perfect. It couldn’t be that hard, right?

Ten years later, and Wild Honey is going strong. Aside from the band, Laura has earned her masters in counselling and opened her own thriving practice. Jess became a pilates instructor and opened a private studio called Free Rein Pilates, recently deciding to step away from instructing to focus on her cattle ranch. Shelby published a novel called Mountain Girl, and has completed two more which are waiting for publication. She was the editor-in-chief at Kootenay Living Magazine prior to the pandemic.

In 2019 Wild Honey released their first album, Distant Skies. They are currently working on their second. They have faced moments on stage, back stage, and trying to get to the stage, that have almost broken them, but they have always chosen to continue. The vulnerability and raw fear of performing have humbled them to their cores, but after a good cry and a gin martini, they keep going.

The early days of babies, breast pumps, and peeling kids off their legs to go play in bars are over. Now they share beautiful stages with talented musicians who inspire them. They write songs about their journey as women and mothers. They have stopped apologizing. Period. For wanting something for themselves and for failing at it long before they succeeded. For not being perfect. They’re not sorry. They’re grateful. They won’t tell you it’s easy, but they will tell you that you deserve to try. You deserve to try and to fail and not say sorry. Because that’s life, and while you’re lucky enough to be here, you might as well jump in with both feet.

Wild Honey plays annually with Barney Bentall and the Cariboo Express, and have been

honored to share a stage with great talents like The Odds, Leeroy Stagger, Ryland Moran, and many others. More info on the band is available on their website – www.wildhoneyband3.com or follow them on Facebook and Instagram.

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Transcript:

Lesley Logan 0:00  

Hey, Be It babe, how are you? I can't even wait for you to get into this interview. This is my first time interviewing three people at once. And it's our first time having a band on here. And we have a special gift for you at the end. So please, please stick around to the entire thing, because we're going to have an amazing song for you. We have the Wild Honey Band with us. They are three amazing women, moms of eight girls. So where are my parents at? And they like ... I think one of them didn't even play an instrument when they got together. And we're been playing the violin for three months. And so I just when I hear... I met these women when I was in Canada, and I like went up to them. And I was like, "I need to have you on my podcast." Like, I didn't even say, "Hi, I'm Lesley like, this is who I am." I just was like, "This is what I want. And this is why I want you." And their story is freakin' beautiful. They literally are being it until they see it. And they've been a band for nine years now. I mean, just like, so cool. And even if you're like, "Lesley, I don't want to play music." I need you to see yourself like every time you hear a band, I need to hear, say book club or writer or, you know, maybe you want to be in knitting or maybe maybe you are not even trying to start anything else. But you're just wishing you had more, more conscious conversations that were like, deeper, like beyond the surface of people, if that's what you're wanting, then this is the podcast for you. There are so many takeaways throughout the conversation. But when you get to the BE IT items, I mean, like goodness, these women are powerful. And in the shownotes, you'll be able to see how you can listen to all of their music, and get to know them more, and I hope that you do, I hope that you do. And, you know, please give yourself the space and grace to, to just try. Right? To just like take the action. And I, when you listen to this, I think you'll hear why I say, "space and grace" because it really does matter. It really makes a difference. And who knows nine years from now you could be on someone else's interview, sharing how you got started. Right? So thank you for being here. And thank you for letting me bring beautiful humans into your ears each and every week. It is an honor that I do not take lightly and you give me like, I don't know like a thirst to find the next person to inspire you in ways that are beyond your wildest dreams. So after this brief message, Wild Honey.

Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.

Hello, Be It listener. All right. I have like a trio for you. This is our first actual trio. I am so thrilled. Y'all when I, I was in Canada and I was in Calgary and I went to this event and they had a band. And it was these women who one of them or maybe all of our Pilates instructors, or at least one of them what is and they started to play and then they started to tell their story. And I was like, "Oh, they have to be on the podcast." I cannot wait for you to hear the story. If you are a mom, if you've ever thought you don't even know how to play an instrument. If you ever thought you don't have to do anything like this is the episode for you. I would love for you to see yourself in the stories of these women. So ladies, Wild Honey Band is here we have; Laura, Jessica and Shelby. Hi. (Wild Honey Band: Hi Lesley. Hello. Hello.) Oh my goodness, listen to these voices. So okay, I would love for you all to introduce yourselves. So we'll just start, I got Shelby on the screen now. We'll start with Shelby. Who, like tell us who you are? Like, what do you play? What, how'd you get here? And then we'll just go through the whole band.

Wild Honey Band 4:27  

Shelby: Wow. Okay, how did I get here? Give me an hour. (Lesley and Wild Honey Band laughs) At least... Well, my name is Shelby and I I'm ... Okay, I got to tell you a little bit first because this is kind of interesting. Laura is my sister in law. So, Laura married my brother and Jes