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While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now...

Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.

He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.

Social Skills Coaching Patrick King

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.7 • 48 Ratings

While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now...

Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.

He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.

    Look Into My Eyes

    Look Into My Eyes

    Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home
    Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/ExtractInfo
    00:01:16 From Patrick King's book how to Extract Info, Secrets and Truth, let's take a look at the importance of eye contact and then spend some time discussing active listening.
    00:03:34 Effects of Eye Contact and Social Status on the Perception of a Job Applicant in an Employment Interviewing Situation
    00:03:56 Accurate Intelligence Assessments in Social Interactions, Mediators and Gender Effects
    00:05:34 A 2016 Japanese study by Kajimura and Nomura titled When We Cannot Speak eye Contact Disrupts Resources Available to Cognitive Control Processes During Verb Generation
    00:06:22 Helping Children Think Gaze Aversion and Teaching by Phelps and Doherty Snedden, researchers found that kids told to look away while thinking and solving problems showed a 20% increase in performance.
    00:07:51 Eye Contact, Distance and Affiliation
    00:22:41 Label Emotions
    • Eye contact is essential for building trust. If you aren’t able to use eye contact, people will find you untrustworthy. The optimal eye contact period is around three seconds of eye contact at a time, with sufficient rest between gazes.
    • Active listening is a valuable skill set that any person should master, but the techniques of active listening can also help you improve your elicitation abilities and gather more information about people. You need to comprehend, retain and respond to the information people are sharing with you.
    • You can build rapport and connection in many ways, for example by restating, reflecting, summarizing, labeling emotions, probing (gently!) and using silence to encourage the other person to open up. Open-ended or leading questions (like those covered in the previous chapter) can subtly guide a person to open up to you.

    • Avoid giving advice, lecturing, sermonizing or judging.

    • Active listening techniques are best used when you would like someone to open up with you and share their true feelings. Other techniques are more appropriate for detecting deception.

    #ActiveListener #Binetti #CommunicationSkills #DohertySneddon #EmpatheticReflection #EyeContact #GazeAversion #GazeDuration #Kajimura #Kressler #LieDetection #NeuroLinguisticProgramming #Nomura #NonverbalCommunication #PupilDilation #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #HowtoExtractInfo #Secrets #andTruth

    • 32 min
    Tools Of The Charming

    Tools Of The Charming

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    00:01:34 Talk WITH people and not TO them.
    00:03:07 Dr. Karl Albrecht in Psychology Today
    00:15:53 Sustain Conversations with Conversational Threading and Useful Acronyms
    00:22:50 Useful Conversational Acronyms The acronym HPM
    00:25:17 Another useful acronym is EDR
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    • Having charm and charisma is not about you. It’s about the other person and making them feel heard, liked, and supported.

    • Dr. Albrecht explains that conversations contain three elements: declaratives, questions, and qualifiers. The rule of three tells us that we should not have three declarative statements in a row and should instead mix it up with a question or a qualifier.

    • It’s not really about the content of what you say but the emotional implications and the energy in how you say it.

    • Conversational threading is a technique that will help you ensure you never run out of things to say. Listen to what the other person says, pick out a few noteworthy threads, then run with one of them. When the conversation dries up, return to these threads and pick up another one and follow that instead. Be patient, ask open-ended questions, and listen for emotions.

    • Being a good everyday conversationalist is about being open-minded, spontaneous, and genuine. Keep things flowing!

    #Albrecht #CasualConversation #Communication #ConversationalAcronyms #ConversationalNarcissist #ConversationalThreading #DeclarativeStatements #DepthTechniques #DrKarlAlbrecht #EDR #EmotionDetailRestatement #EverydayConversations #HPM #RhetoricalQuestions #SkilledConversationalists #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching

    • 31 min
    How To Be Assertive AND Empathic

    How To Be Assertive AND Empathic

    Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home
    00:08:38 Psychologist Craig Malkin's book Rethinking Narcissism
    00:10:59 The Soft Startup
    00:13:19 The Empathic Communication Toolkit for Handling Conflict
    00:20:47 Use techniques like the Positive no or the Soft Startup
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    • To be both assertive and empathic, use techniques like the “positive no” or the “soft startup” when setting a boundary.
    • When managing conflicts or difficult communication, remember to use open-ended questions; focus on strengths; let the other person lead; normalize rather than pathologize; and use open, conciliatory body language to show that you are on the same side.

    #Communicating #Communication #Conciliatory #ConversationalTools #CraigMalkins #DifficultConversation #EmpathicAssertion #EmpathicCommunicationToolkit #EmpathicStruggle #Empathy #ExpressEmpathy #Gottman #JulieGottman #Narcissism #NonviolentCommunication #SimpleEmpathicAssertion #UncomfortableConversation #UnconsciousMessage #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching

    • 22 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
48 Ratings

48 Ratings

everbestme ,

Great

Just came across this. It’s the only podcast i wanna listen to. Educative and realistic. Thank you

2kanker ,

Just wow

Unsuspectingly addictive & brilliant!

Queen of Charm ,

Basic info

Important topics, but nothing really new or insightful.

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