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The tension of disagreement
We’ve talked about tension before. We’ve talked about tension vs. something being at rest and what that means for us. But now I want to talk about the tension of disagreement.
Everything’s going to be OK
Everything is going to be OK. Does that relieve you? It might, especially if it comes from a higher status individual. But it doesn’t really do anything. It’s a perfectly acceptable phrase if you are doing everything you can, or you’re beaten up and need a break. But what if you haven’t really even started working towards a goal?
Try this out. You are single and really want to meet someone. Do you prefer to say:
“Don’t worry, there is a plan, I’ll will meet the right person / I can feel it / I know it’s in my future.”
“I’m never going to meet the right person.”
Well of course EVERYONE around you will scold you for saying the second one! They will say that’s self sabotage, and that you are “putting that out into the universe” and that “You’re going to fail if you think that way.”
But then there is nothing to do if you only immerse yourself in those other phrases You’re removing the task, the fight, the struggle, the… tension. Get it?
Try it yourself. I submit to you that if you say “God/The Universe has a plan, everything will be fine” then you will be immersed in fuzzy, protective, useless warmth.
Winnie the pooh
Now try the opposite. “Oh my god this is NEVER going to work!” or “I am never going to meet someone great!”
Those are strong statements that your brain will challenge. Your brain is made to challenge logic, and statements, and weigh statements. If it’s wrong and you WILL meet someone your brain will then say “Well yes, if you keep doing THAT. You have to think of something else… think think think!”
Your brain isn’t challenged and your problem solving ability is blanketed with it’s ok, everything will be OK and something will fall out of the sky if you always give yourself those statements.
With friends like these…
OK, why do friends do that? Why do they always just give you these statements?
Because they don’t want to suffer. If they tell you it will all be fine, then you’ll shut up, and then talk about something else, all the while silently suffering without a solution.
Greatness meets tension
If you do the research you will find that the people who accomplished the most didn’t avoid tension. They saw the problems and recognized them head on.
So, try it at least once – look in the mirror, yell up and the ceiling and say “Wow, does this suck!” and see what happens next.
It might just surprise you…
Taking a step back
A simple answer for a complex issue… doesn’t work
Did you ever have an issue with someone and tell a friend about it? They usually say “Oh well I would just say this.” You roll your eyes , take a deep breath, and attempt to explain that this is pretty complicated, and that you’ve already tried that. You could go back and forth or you could just make a note to not mention it again. yeah, that’s a better option.
They don’t understand because you’ve presented a simple issue and they present a simple fix, without taking a step back.
The Alchemy for Life™ way of doing things
We all know what taking a step back means, and we even talked about that dang 30,000 foot view recently. But this relates to why we take a step back and examine the whole when it comes to accomplishing things.
And that’s exactly what Alchemy for Life™ is. It’s taking that step back and examining everything.
And, it’s having not only a system in place, but a machine/application/tool to allow us to manage it.
Zooming Out – but what does that mean?
The 30,000 foot view
You’ve heard of that phrase—taking the 30,000 foot view, right? But what exactly does that mean? Does it mean to take a step back? Does it mean 30,000 steps back? Considering the big picture? How long do you do this? Do you then zoom back in and if so how long do you have to wait?
Managing task, career, projects, etc.
It is when you are managing things that you come upon this suggestion—or desire—to take a step back. If you are a creative then that’s most of your reality. The same is true if you are a solopreneur (like me). It can be confusing and daunting as to when, why, how and how long you do this.
So let’s talk about this and help you through it.
What are you measuring?
If you’re not measuring progress, how do you know how well you are doing in the pursuit of a goal? Don’t you have milestones and stuff like that? The Alchemy for Life system has a huge amount of tracking, and milestones, and even an icon for setbacks, so why am I even asking this?
Measuring something else.
I’m asking because sometimes it can seem like you’re not making any progress. Sometimes it seems like you’re putting all this effort into reaching a goal and nothing is happening—and you want to give up.
Listen now and find out why measuring progress can be misleading, and daunting, and find out what you should be measuring instead.
Thoughts vs. Reality – not what you think
Here’s something you don’t hear – thoughts do not equal reality.
In an odd way this is a discussion (of the reverse kind) of mindfulness.
Fight of flight
Our fight or flight mechanism was designed and evolved to deal with something happening right now. It was designed to deal with reality. If you’re having anxiety about the room filling up with water because it’s currently filling up with water and you need to escape then you’re not having anxiety—you’re fighting or fleeing to escape the danger.
But what about when you have the same feelings when you think about next Tuesday?
Listen in on what it means, what you can do about it.
New book: Three Voices
Did you know you have three voices?
Do you know that one can always be used to override another? Do you know that one of the voices is also a sounding board that can not only help you (preparing for a speech, reviewing a discussion), but also can torment you if overused (that fight you had playing over and over in your head for seemingly ‘no reason’)?
You’re using one of them to read this.
Join me in this fun (and helpful) discussion of experimental psychology. Afterwards you may want to pick up a copy of my new book – Three Voices.
Three Voices – The three languages we use to communicate with ourselves and others.
Great interviewing style
Mark's interviews are well-balanced and come from a place of love and passion for the guest's story. Each episode is easy to listen to with a great back and forth between the host and guest.
Mark, Had your Podcast sent to me by a friend. It was a great listen and very insightful. Keep up the good work!
Love what you do
Great podcast, I can tell you speak from the heart and share your personal passion!