Allyship is a Verb

Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them)
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Allyship is a Verb

People want to do better, but they don’t always know how. Allyship is a Verb is a 4x award-nominated (and now award-winning!) podcast featuring conversations with LGBTQ+ community members of various lived experiences and backgrounds who share their stories and an allyship tip. The host is a silly, warm human who offers self-reflection questions and voiceovers to help deepen the learning for listeners. The host is Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), who has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work.

  1. The Gender Swap feat. Molly Rix

    06/04/2024

    The Gender Swap feat. Molly Rix

    The giveaway is over, but you can still head to the merch shop! This week, Molly Rix (she/her) steps out from behind the scenes as our audio engineer to become a guest who shares her story publicly for the first time. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How an innocent question over her 2020 birthday weekend changed her entire life 2. What it's been like looking for different pockets of community as she has been reinventing herself 3. Why re-entering the dating pool was intimidating 🎙️ Connect with Molly: Sky Ripper on SpotifyHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

    51 min
  2. Ed Carratalà is the infiltrated bisexual

    05/21/2024

    Ed Carratalà is the infiltrated bisexual

    Podcast merch!!! Book a free ⁠discovery call⁠ for programming for Pride Month (and beyooooond!). This week, Ed Carratalà (he/him/él) updates us on transitioning from formerly teaching about LGBTQ+ communities privately to now openly offering it. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How creating a new queer community in Barcelona, Spain was sparked by former guest Charlie's Everywhere is Queer resource 2. What new therapy project is in the works 3. Why he continues to share that he's bi and field questions 🎙️ Connect with Ed: InstagramTwitterHis research page (in Catalan) and GRPF: Couples and Family Research Group Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

    51 min
  3. Trisha Wallis isn't recruiting anything except for people to stay alive

    05/07/2024

    Trisha Wallis isn't recruiting anything except for people to stay alive

    Book a free discovery call for programming for Pride Month (and beyoooond!). Bring Allyship is a Verb to your workplace at a special rate. This week, Dr. Trisha Wallis (she/her) shares how two years of work led up to the passing of California Senate Bill 372, a great example of the "Curb Cut" effect. You will learn: 1. Why the identities lesbian and queer don't fully fit, prompting her to use both, depending on the situation // 2. What "recruiting" looks like, including versions 2.0 and 3.0 // 3. How she leverages her privilege and access to do the most good, and what she does to check herself and keep the work moving forward 🎙️ Connect with Trisha: InstagramHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

    54 min

  4. 04/23/2024 · BONUS

    The Magic of LGBTQ+ Summer Camps feat. Rebecca Kling (Replay)

    Please note: This is another replay due to a super busy past few weeks. 💜 This episode is from Season 2, so you'll hear my previous name. All replay slots will be extended with original episodes, I promise! 😊 This week, Rebecca Kling (she/her) discusses creating inclusive summer camps for LGBTQ+ youth where they can be themselves without making everything about being from the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, you will learn 1. What conversations are coming up at summer camps 2. How B'Mitzvahs/B'nai Mitzvahs may differ from Bar and Bat Mitzvahs 3. When we might engage in understanding and empathic conversations and when it's time to disrupt and agitate for change. 🎙️ Connect with Rebecca to learn more about + support her work: MastodonLinkedInWebsiteCo-Founder of Better World Collaborative💻 Sources and resources from this episode: TransTorahCelebrating the Age of Mitzvah: A Guide for all Genders | KeshetHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

    59 min
  5. I'm just, like, a little dude feat. Ashabi Owagboriaye

    04/09/2024

    I'm just, like, a little dude feat. Ashabi Owagboriaye

    Take the Ace Flag Revision Survey This week, Ashabi Owagboriaye (she/they) shares the meaning behind the white stripe in the ace flag and why she’s launched an ace flag survey as a result. You will learn: 1. What they think about the intersection of transness and asexuality 2. Why openness can influence somebody and carry a generation in either direction if you’re not careful 3. How it feels like to have people come to them as an elder queer 🎙️ Connect with Ashabi: Ace In Grace | Instagram💻 Sources and resources: I Am Cait | IMDBMiss Representation | IMDBShare the Ace Flag Revision Survey Instagram postYasmin Benoit | InstagramRefusing Compulsory Sexuality: A Black Asexual Lens on Our Sex-Obsessed Culture by Sherronda J BrownHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

    51 min
  6. So, you are queer feat. Sarah Gilbert

    03/26/2024

    So, you are queer feat. Sarah Gilbert

    Sign up for the AIAV newsletter⁠! This week, Sarah Gilbert (she/her) shares the story of how a random question Charlie asked a few years ago sparked a journey of self-discovery. You will learn: 1. What two pieces of advice she offers others wondering if they might be LGBTQ+ 2. How it feels to be a long-time LGBTQ+-affirming therapist learning later in life that she's queer and some of the fears and hesitations she's had around claiming the term 3. Why icons like Freddie Mercury have inspired her and how queer spaces like bars, drag shows, and musical theater feel comforting and joyful 🎙️ Connect with Sarah: Transitions Therapy LLCSarah Gilbert CoachingHost Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

    54 min

  7. 03/12/2024 · BONUS

    Listen to minorities and thank them feat. Ra Ra Rollins (Replay)

    Please note: This is another replay to help with my mental health break. A new episode is coming on Tuesday, March 26th. Thanks for your continued patience and understanding. 💜 This episode is from Season 2, so you'll hear my previous name. Content warning for mentions of George Floyd's murder and generally sensitive topics without details. This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Listen to minorities and thank them. In this week’s episode, Ra Ra Rollins (he/him) shares why he claims “queer” and “gay” and the difference in meaning for him between the two terms. He ponders if he’s Black first or gay, queer first, especially since not all spaces see him as a whole person with various, complex identities. Learn about how his work can be triggering as a Black therapist and what it means for him to hold space for clients at some of his same intersections. We also discuss how he pushed back in his grad school program because he learned from white professors who talked about white theorists and had white supervisors while seeing white clients. Despite that, he did gain two incredible mentors and friends for life. Ra Ra reclaims his energy by practicing boundaries, which did not come naturally to him, including by shutting down nearly all of his social media. There's also some discussion around rules and how he liberates himself from rules that don’t work or honor him. Resources, references, and full transcripts are available at ⁠www.allyshipisaverb.com/episode/ra-ra-rollins⁠ Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature an allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack⁠.

    59 min

  8. 02/27/2024 · BONUS

    Do you check in on your relationships? feat. Trystan Reese (Replay)

    Check out the ⁠wearable merch⁠! You can also help me close the gap on my ⁠$757 goal⁠. I'm 76% of the way there at the time of writing this! Please note: I'm bringing back a fan-favorite episode from season one, especially for those of you who are new to the podcast! Just a heads up, you will hear my previous name. Why am I doing this? I'm burnt out. I need more support to keep this podcast going strong into season four. Anything you can do helps - whether it's snagging some merch, becoming a monthly donor, sponsoring an episode, or even sharing episodes. I'm incredibly grateful for those who've been supporting me, and the reality is each episode takes me over 20 hours to put together. It's overwhelming and has become unsustainable, especially in the current anti-LGBTQ+ political climate of both the US and globally. Your support means the world to me and helps so many feel seen, heard, and validated through the podcast. Plus, it's a crucial part of some people's LGBTQ+ allyship journeys. Thank you all so much for being a part of this community 🌈 New episodes will be coming, though I may do one more replay for my mental health 💜 I appreciate your patience and understanding. In this week’s episode, Trystan Reese (he/him) shares about his days of being a drag king and how he's been performing as a man since he was a kid. Learn about some of the practices he's adopted to check in with his colleagues so that they're in a continuous feedback loop, including addressing power dynamics and microaggressions. We also discuss a bit of what it's like to be trainers and consultants and the work that goes into it, including figuring out our boundaries and doing the work to know how to facilitate conversations. Trystan talks about how moved he was by ALOK's talk on the podcast Man Enough and how well they were able to articulate thoughts that have been circling in his own mind.  Resources, references, and full transcripts are available at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.allyshipisaverb.com/episodes/trystan-reese Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature an allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

    58 min
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People want to do better, but they don’t always know how. Allyship is a Verb is a 4x award-nominated (and now award-winning!) podcast featuring conversations with LGBTQ+ community members of various lived experiences and backgrounds who share their stories and an allyship tip. The host is a silly, warm human who offers self-reflection questions and voiceovers to help deepen the learning for listeners. The host is Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), who has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work.

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  • Creator
    Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them)
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2024
  • Episodes
    74
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them)
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    Allyship is a Verb

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