32 min
Ambiguous Expectations of Womanhood Ambiguity with Ambi
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- Self-Improvement
Have you ever struggled with expectations? Expectations can be burdensome and it can lead to a lot of disappointment when the desired outcome is not being met. We don’t have control of the desired outcome but we can focus on the things we can control, like showing up, putting in the effort and be consistent. Eventually consistency will get you to your purpose or desires.
In this episode, my guest, Debora Smiles talks about expectations, the uncertainty that comes with it and how best to navigated those spaces. Debora loves to make an impact. Her purpose is to make an impact, through her words, written and spoken to do just that. She’s self-published on Amazon two motivational books (Love Every Black, My Silence is Killing Me) and is working on her third book at the moment. She is also host a weekly podcast called Naked Words.
Join me and listen to Debora as he shares her journey of having expectations and how she navigated those spaces of ambiguity and uncertainty.
· (01:19 – 14:45) Get to know a little bit more about Debora and her love for all things Caribbean.
· (16:06 – 19:49) How she navigated the process of breaking apart from the social expectations of marriage and the societal expectations of women.
· (20:41 – 25:50) Debora’s advice for listeners that's struggling to have their expectations and it is not being met or will possibly never be met.
· Let your purpose just flow through and be consistent in every facet of your life, whether it's in your relationship, work, your passion, or your desire.
· (26:54 – 29:42) Wrapping Up!
· Debora’s final advice for listeners engaging uncertainty and ambiguity is to love you by peeling off all the layers and all the things that you feel about yourself, that you do not love and put it on the table and address it and ask yourself why and then finding your way towards loving that part of you which will enable you to create consistency and balance.
· Don’t be self-absorbed but allow yourself to listen to outside opinions and put everything on the table.Key quotes
“Your future is in your today. You need to take ownership of your future to let it not be so uncertain, so that you can look at your now and see your future.” Debora
“The future that you want has to be from what you do, what you decide to do. If you do nothing then the future will hold nothing, if you do something in your today, then the future will hold abundance The choice is up to you”. Debora
“I have given you the body, I gave you the mind, the intellect, I gave everything to you. Now, you are waiting and sitting on me to dictate your future”. Debora
“Don’t have any expectations because having expectations puts a burden on your purpose” Debora
“Consistency trump's expectations because you can have expectations and not have fulfillment, but if you stay consistent, you’ll reach your goal or purpose eventually.” Debora
“Having too much expectations causes you to rush things”. Debora
Let’s connect
You can connect with our guest Debora Smiles on all social media platforms at Naked Words and on twitter at naked words live. IG: @ nakedwordspodcast
You can connect with our host Amber Latrece on Instagram. Head to https://amberlatrece.com/ambiguity-with-ambi, and join us on this journey as we discover how to navigate the uncertain on Ambiguity with Ambi! Be sure to subscribe on Apple and Spotify, so you never miss an episode!
LEAVE A REVIEW! Your ratings and reviews help get the podcast in front of new listeners. Your feedback also lets me know how I can better serve you.
Have you ever struggled with expectations? Expectations can be burdensome and it can lead to a lot of disappointment when the desired outcome is not being met. We don’t have control of the desired outcome but we can focus on the things we can control, like showing up, putting in the effort and be consistent. Eventually consistency will get you to your purpose or desires.
In this episode, my guest, Debora Smiles talks about expectations, the uncertainty that comes with it and how best to navigated those spaces. Debora loves to make an impact. Her purpose is to make an impact, through her words, written and spoken to do just that. She’s self-published on Amazon two motivational books (Love Every Black, My Silence is Killing Me) and is working on her third book at the moment. She is also host a weekly podcast called Naked Words.
Join me and listen to Debora as he shares her journey of having expectations and how she navigated those spaces of ambiguity and uncertainty.
· (01:19 – 14:45) Get to know a little bit more about Debora and her love for all things Caribbean.
· (16:06 – 19:49) How she navigated the process of breaking apart from the social expectations of marriage and the societal expectations of women.
· (20:41 – 25:50) Debora’s advice for listeners that's struggling to have their expectations and it is not being met or will possibly never be met.
· Let your purpose just flow through and be consistent in every facet of your life, whether it's in your relationship, work, your passion, or your desire.
· (26:54 – 29:42) Wrapping Up!
· Debora’s final advice for listeners engaging uncertainty and ambiguity is to love you by peeling off all the layers and all the things that you feel about yourself, that you do not love and put it on the table and address it and ask yourself why and then finding your way towards loving that part of you which will enable you to create consistency and balance.
· Don’t be self-absorbed but allow yourself to listen to outside opinions and put everything on the table.Key quotes
“Your future is in your today. You need to take ownership of your future to let it not be so uncertain, so that you can look at your now and see your future.” Debora
“The future that you want has to be from what you do, what you decide to do. If you do nothing then the future will hold nothing, if you do something in your today, then the future will hold abundance The choice is up to you”. Debora
“I have given you the body, I gave you the mind, the intellect, I gave everything to you. Now, you are waiting and sitting on me to dictate your future”. Debora
“Don’t have any expectations because having expectations puts a burden on your purpose” Debora
“Consistency trump's expectations because you can have expectations and not have fulfillment, but if you stay consistent, you’ll reach your goal or purpose eventually.” Debora
“Having too much expectations causes you to rush things”. Debora
Let’s connect
You can connect with our guest Debora Smiles on all social media platforms at Naked Words and on twitter at naked words live. IG: @ nakedwordspodcast
You can connect with our host Amber Latrece on Instagram. Head to https://amberlatrece.com/ambiguity-with-ambi, and join us on this journey as we discover how to navigate the uncertain on Ambiguity with Ambi! Be sure to subscribe on Apple and Spotify, so you never miss an episode!
LEAVE A REVIEW! Your ratings and reviews help get the podcast in front of new listeners. Your feedback also lets me know how I can better serve you.
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