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What You Are Made For
When I was in college, one of my classmates shared the fact that he suffered from Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.). For years, as autumn turned to winter his moods would swing, his energy would sap and he'd have low-grade depression. Some people talk about the "winter blues", a seasonal funk that kidnaps motivation or displaces energy. For sure, dark late-afternoons that limit time outside can deprive you of outdoor exercise, gardening or other COVID-safe experiences. Maybe this is why Christmas lights, decorated trees and holiday TV specials get us in a good mood- they counterbalance the gloomier feelings. But unless you are sidelined by these feelings, what if you took the time and created the space to listen to them? I hope you know feelings won't kill you, even if they could disturb you; sometimes inner disturbance isn't a bad thing: it often offers vital information. C.S. Lewis once wrote: You have stood before some landscape, which seems to embody what you have been looking for all your life … All the things that have deeply possessed your soul have been but hints of it– tantalizing glimpses, promises never quite fulfilled, echoes that died away just as they caught your ear. But if it should really become manifest– if there ever came an echo that did not die away but swelled into the sound itself–you would know it. Beyond all possibility of doubt you would say "Here at last is the thing I was made for." Rather than a dark, dreary disposition, experiencing the fullness of this season could open up all sorts of possibilities and opportunities. Hear the echo from your deepest, truest self- a place that is always filled with the most brilliant light and sacred goodness. THAT'S the place where there can never be SADness nor meanness. Negativity is ultimately incompatible with the truest you. Know this and live this. If you are looking for some ways to fight loneliness this winter, click here. Have a good day and make it a good day for someone else!
You Are Quite Becoming
While Alice is in charge of doing most of the research of quotes and posting for "Daily Dose", every now and then I come upon a maxim that speaks volumes by itself and yet invites application for today. For instance, recently I came upon this quote from Henry David Thoreau: "What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals." It makes me think of how often people make resolutions (at New Year's, when turning 30 or 60, etc.) and what happens when the goal is thwarted by some distraction, weakness or "second thought." What's vital is to remember that the process of goal-setting can be truly liberating. You are in a real sense seeing beyond what you are now into a future that looks and feels better- otherwise, you wouldn't be setting the goal in the first place. You are... becoming. In evolutionary terms, we've graduated from lizard brains to the limbic system to the amazing 3 lbs that we have now between our temples . Trouble is, the lizard brain doesn't know what delayed gratification is and the limbic system is all about emotions and memory. But when you place a good higher than other things, your "stretching" for that goal becomes you. In a nut shell, this is what coaching is about: holding up the best of you reminding you it is true and real and then assisting you in formulating concrete steps to reach your goals.
Valentine's Day Joint Podcast with Alice
An Inside Job
We are now one month into this new year. With the promise of COVID-19 vaccination (we know a few people who have received their first ""jab"") and increased production and shipment, hope is in the air. There's a house for sale in our neighborhood. Out front is the usual sign with the realtor's name, number and agency. But underneath the sign is an alluring message inviting people to take a look around, boasting: ""I'm beautiful inside."" How many of us believe that? I can assure you that if you live knowing yourself to be beautiful and worthy of love, you probably have less stress than most, need fewer pills and take more risks. If you operate from a deep certainty that you are lovely inside and out, chances are you don't worry about what others think, cannot bruise easily and find it easy to accept others' imperfections. The new year is still young and this week has just begun. If you've made some resolutions and have slipped, start again after asking yourself what happened? If you haven't articulated any goals yet, consider this (from a blog I receive) as you write them: What you say matters less than what you do. New goals won't get you different results. Different actions can. Change what you're doing to change where you're going.
If you want to see what really matters to you, look at how you spend your time. Let's make these years the Roaring '20s. Not wild or unruly but filled with joy and expectancy and gratitude. Disease, disaster, dissension or disagreements will not define us. We are made for more than these- higher and brighter. If a house for sale can proclaim itself to be beautiful, what is stopping you? Alternatively, near the gas station is a placard that says ""I buy ugly houses." "Beauty is in the eye of the re-builder."
Too Many Too Few
A Time to...