With only 25 shows, we have rebranded the 15 Minutes of Giving No F*cks Podcast into the new Attentive While Oblivious Podcast. We felt that it gives the show a broader appeal with a more positive vibe. Don’t get it twisted - the show is still the same as our Divorce Devil Podcast, funny, witty, in-your-face, crazy, entertaining, innovative and sometimes out of control. The show’s premise has not changed and the goal is still the same - this special podcast is one that is not in the business of making you not care about things but getting you to take a step back and articulate to yourself what is important and what matters in your life. You still attentively care and are aware of everything but the oblivious side allows you to organize your life while pushing the 'fluff' aside. That's what everybody wants in life - less chaos. Every podcast will feature my co-host or a special guest, usually a friend of mine. We will discuss how the art of being attentive while oblivious is incorporated into their daily life.
5 MORE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN CARING AND WORRYING AND WHY YOU SHOULD KNOW THEM! || ATTENTIVE WHILE OBLIVIOUS PODCAST #035 || David and Rachel
Welcome back to the differences between caring and worrying and how to understand them. Rachel and I are back on the mic hitting 3 more points to make your life smoother.
What if, in parenting and in life, caring could triumph over worrying? We're coming at you with an intriguing conversation about how caring can inspire positivity and change versus how worrying often leads to paralysis. We'll put under the microscope the fine line where caring ends and worrying begins, and guide you on how to give people room to grow while setting the essential boundaries.
Walk the f*ck homeGet an ulcerPhysical symptomsToo much anxietyThe Chronic - that’s differentMental stressesFunerals turn into reunionsSmall winsPositive speak is importantThat cheeseburger is going to kill meSeek professional help if you need itWe'll also shine a light on our own self-talk and its impact on our mental and physical health. Navigating through this sensitive topic, we'll share insights on transforming worries into motivations and victories into productivity. The episode will wrap up with a unique perspective on parents' role in the sports scenario, encouraging them to step beyond being just a sideline heckler. So, brace yourself for a highly engaging discussion that serves as a guide to care more, worry less, and set healthy boundaries.
OUR TOP 5 DIFFERENCES BETWEEN CARING AND WORRYING || ATTENTIVE WHILE OBLIVIOUS PODCAST #034 || David and Rachel
Are you constantly bogged down by worry? What if we told you that the power to replace that worry with care is completely within your control? This is not just some abstract theory—we're laying down practical advice to help you conquer your fears by taking ownership and focusing on solutions. We discuss the dangers of over-parenting and how it can lead to an entitled mindset in children. We also shed light on why allowing children to learn from their own experiences is a more effective way of caring.
But it doesn't end there. We're also diving deep into the concept of acceptance versus fear. We're exploring the liberating power of taking action, of not letting the fear of the unknown paralyze us. Fear is a part of life, but it needn't be the driving force. We discuss how to stay in the present, focusing on the now, and not worrying about the future. Remember, the power to make positive changes in your life is in your hands, and every step you take towards your goals, no matter how small, is a victory. Let's embark on this journey together and learn how to care more, worry less, and take control of our lives. Tune in, and let's transform our mindset
Nate and his story of drug addiction / recovery and methods to keep that straight and narrow of caring and not caring || Attentive While Oblivious Podcast #33 || David and Nate
So far on this podcast, we have focused on helping people not care so much so that it doesn’t interfere with their everyday life. Well, we’re throwing you a curveball - my friend, Nick, is a warrior having and still recovering from early drug addiction and psychosis. His story and struggles of deviating from the ‘normal’ path of a school-aged kid to getting his ‘shit’ together and start caring about what eventually mattered - himself is amazing. He had to take care of himself in order to take care of the most important person in his life, his young son. With a new lease on life and a mission of getting his body and mind right, Nate obtained his certificate for personal training, started working with at-risk youth, and forged a partnership with a professional counselor. With all those irons in the fire, he still has room for teen court and youth summer camp. With one book under his belt, Nate has just finished his second one. He is a big believer that it is the intervention that God has put in front of some of his youth and, hopefully, his bond, resources, and sharing his journey will assist some of them to make better choices. Great job Nick!
Would you believe that a traumatic childhood encounter could spark a life-threatening addiction? Prepare to be taken on a rollercoaster of emotions as our guest, Nate, courageously opens up about his harrowing journey from trauma to triumph. Listen in as Nate paints a vivid picture of his downward spiral, from casual marijuana use to the deadly grip of crystal meth, and how it wrecked his life. Hear his raw account of hitting rock bottom and the pivotal moment that sparked his desire for recovery. Through rehab interventions and dealing with the pain of losing friends, Nate recounts his brave fight against the chains of addiction and his journey toward recovery.
But it's not all doom and gloom, our conversation gracefully transitions into an insightful discussion on mentoring children. The world of a child is a complex one, filled with various priorities, developing brain functions, and influences both genetic and environmental. As mentors, how can we effectively guide them? This is where the power of motivational interviewing comes in. By helping the child find their own answers, we can better understand what's really going on beneath the surface. Take part in this enlightening exploration of young minds as we discuss how to comprehend, connect, and care for them in the best way possible. This episode is not just a tale of recovery but a rich exploration of understanding and nurturing the future generation
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10 WAYS TO STRADDLE THE CARE / NOT CARE CONCEPT OR FENCE || ATTENTIVE WHILE OBLIVIOUS PODCAST #032 || David and Rachel
Do you ever feel caught between caring too much and not caring at all? Struggling to find balance in your relationships and emotions can be exhausting. Join us as we uncover the secret to being attentive while oblivious – the art of balancing caring and not caring in our daily lives.
We'll discuss the importance of developing emotional intelligence, setting boundaries, and detaching from situations and people that can harm our mental health. Learn how to create long-lasting relationships and friendships that are mutually satisfying. Plus, we offer tips on handling grudges, practicing mindfulness, and embracing self-care to maintain your sanity.
In this enlightening episode, we also explore how to differentiate between caring and worrying within relationships and when to let go. Find out how to practice acceptance, set boundaries, utilize mindfulness, and seek professional help when needed. Don't miss this opportunity to transform your approach to caring, ultimately improving your emotional well-being and the quality of your relationships.
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The best ways to deal with the Veruca Salts of the world || Attentive While Oblivious Podcast #031 || David and Rachel
Ever wondered how we can put an end to the entitlement and ingratitude plaguing our society? In Episode 31 of the Attentive While Oblivious Podcast, we examine the concept of "Veruca Salt Syndrome" inspired by Veruca Salt from the beloved children's novel Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. Uncover the ways in which this character represents unchecked greed, entitlement, and the negative consequences of not being grateful, and how it is all too prevalent in both children and adults today.
So, we are taking the Veruca Salt syndrome to task with our top ways to battle it. Discussions of:
Veruca Salt is not a spiceThe difference between a want and a needSounding boardStress can be a factorBoundaries are healthyGreed and entitlementMen or women, kids or grown-assed adultsSociety of instant gratificationWe all want to be happySelf-reflection and personal growthProvide constructive criticismPromote accountabilitySeek support from othersJoin us as we reveal strategies for combating this spoiled behavior, such as setting clear boundaries, fostering empathy, and nurturing self-awareness. We'll also delve into the vital role of perspective-taking and understanding how our actions and words impact others. Plus, we'll discuss entitlement in relationships, the importance of constructive feedback, and how genetics might play a part in our behavior. Don't miss this eye-opening, thought-provoking episode that will guide you toward a more mindful and conscious way of living.
BATTLE OF THE SEXES - WHAT IS OBLIVIOUS AND NOT SO OBLIVIOUS IN THE BATTLE? || Attentive While Oblivious Podcast || David and Rachel
Rachel is back from vacation and we are back in the studio. How fitting to welcome her back and talk about all her faults being a woman! LOL… So, we decided to have a little fun. But seriously, we are discussing quite gender-specific differences between us with a personal flair. Discussions of:
Men never admit they are lostWhatever direction she is facing is northFashionably lateProcrastinationGrocery shoppingElectronicsBuy it even if you don’t need itVibratorsPocket puppiesLikes a man in a truckSubaruGlampingTV showsVacationsSleep number beds are like a threesomeGirls rule60 without the 9Abbot Elementary is the best show on TVLost control of the TV remoteNational parksSeafood and sushiOnline shoe shoppingThis was a fun and witty podcast. It was a nice departure for us. We will be back at it next week considering our caring / non-caring subjects. Enjoy.