In the Authentic Singles Dating Podcast we interview authors and other personalities in the Conscious Relationships, Man/Woman and Dating world
05 – Authentic Dating & Sexual Communication 101 (full course)
This is the full “Authentic Dating & Sexual Communication 101 Course”, which is derived from a series of lectures given by Rebekah and Marco at Authentic Singles. It is also available as a Udemy course and on Youtube below.
Table of Contents
(min 0:00) Introduction
(min 6:32) Our Story
(min 7:40) Authentic Relating & Dating
(min 19:13) Sexual Polarity
(min 39:58) Authentic Dating Mindset
(min 55:50) Authentic Dating Strategy
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04 – I have a dream
This article is part of a an unpublished memoir. I present it here as an addendum to the What Women Want article, as it goes more deeply into the political theory or ideology that underlies much of my work around sexuality. The basic idea is that the fastest way to end patriarchy — and maybe even the ONLY way — is the reconciliation of men and women, leading to a lot more good sexual loving. Of course, we must first wake up to our essential nature, and understand that Western culture has us all hood-winked (duped) about the mature of our humanity and the causes of authentic happiness and success. My fundamental thesis is that increasing good sexual loving, will not only make us all much happier but will end patriarchy.
Original article here
03b – What Women Want (audio version)
This is the podcast version of the article What Women Want: Towards a New Psychology of Love, Sex and Gender Relations.
This paper is an attempt to redefine the concepts as “masculine” and “feminine” not as gender roles, but as psychological archetypes that affect all human relationships whether we are aware of them or not. It extends David Deida’s ideas on sexual polarity into the realm of human loving: because if it is true, as per Deida, that people have a preferred sexual polarity; and if it is true, as per Jerry Jud, that “love is a response to need”, then masculine and feminine people have different needs and therefore must be loved differently.
Once the fundamental sexual polarity model is explained, the paper goes on to present actionable strategies for men and women to increase love and attraction with their partners. The ideas presented here are eminently practical and have the power to dramatically transform a person’s relationship to the opposite sex. They also have the power to finally fulfill on the promises of feminism, but much faster and more pleasurably for everyone: that women should have the same respect and opportunities that men have; that women should not be subject to male violence; and that women should not be shamed for being sexual beings. The reason these ideas are so powerful is that they carry the potential, for maybe the first time in human history, for men and women to become true partners by truly understanding each other and connecting through their differences.
02 – Online Dating and the Man/Woman Game: My Story
This is the audio version of the article Online Dating and the Man/Woman Game: My Story
It is the introduction chapter to my next book, Online Dating for Conscious Men. It tells my personal story, of how I came into this information, and gives a summary (the “30,000 foot view”) of my dating strategy and developmental model.
01 – Steven Fearing on Evolutionary Psychology, Mate Selection Science, and its impact on modern-day men and women
inaugural edition of the Authentic Singles Dating podcast, I am
interviewing Steven Fearing, author of the “Mating Straight Talk” blog,
on his decades of research on evolutionary psychology and mate selection
science, and the impact of this research on man/woman dynamics in the
21st century. This has been a most delightful conversation for me, in
part because Steven and I are some kind of intellectual soul brothers,
not to mention aging horny dudes, and in part because we were able to
find large correlations between my work as both a philosopher of love
and sex and now a dating coach and trainer, and Steven’s research in
cover too many topics to summarize in this introduction to the podcast,
but I will say we go quite deeply into this paradox of female sexual
attraction called the “double bind”, which is that women tend to be
attracted to alpha males, or dominance, but they also want their men to
be kind and present and generally serve them or take care of them. We
also talk quite personally about some of mine and Steven’s mentors that
include David Deida, Victor Baranco, Nicole Daedone, Esther Perel and