31 episodes
Best Friend Therapy Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell
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4.8 • 50 Ratings
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Hello! We’re Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed-Turrell. And for over 20 years, we’ve been best friends. Elizabeth is a broadcaster and author. Emma is a psychotherapist. Best Friend Therapy is where we chat about what’s on our minds to get deeper in our minds.
Every week, we talk about how to tackle the challenges we face in daily life with honesty, compassion and practical wisdom. This is a podcast that holds your hand through the tough times and offers reassurance on the days you might need it. Feed your soul with nourishing conversations from two best friends, one therapist - and zero filter.
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S4, Ep 4 Best Friend Therapy: Self Worth - What is it? How can we improve our relationship with ourselves? Where do we start?
This week on Best Friend Therapy, we're tackling the thorny issue of self-worth, or the lack of it.
Emma explores the difference between self-esteem and "others-esteem" and why we can fall into the trap of outsourcing our sense of self to other people.
Elizabeth compares her self-worth to a solar panel and reveals why chunky socks are a better way to keep warm.
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Emma references the psychoanalytical theory of object relations and the work of Donald Winnicott: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Object_relations_theory
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp.
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Social Media:
Elizabeth Day @elizabday
Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
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S4, Ep 3 Best Friend Therapy: Friendaholic - What makes a friendship addict? Why was Elizabeth compelled to write a book about it?
This week on Best Friend Therapy, we are lucky enough to have an access-all-areas, behind the scenes pass to Elizabeth's brand new book, Friendaholic: Confessions of a Friendship Addict, published by 4th Estate on 30th March 2023.
She tells us why she felt this subject was one she had to write about, how the language of friendship has been lacking so far and left us ill-equipped to set boundaries and evolve our friendships into something more authentic.
Emma talks about the difference between being friendly and being friends, and Elizabeth explains why her previous friendship strategy was all about finding safety in numbers.
Friendaholic explores friendship break-ups, ghosting, the fetishisation of friendship in our culture, the impact of social media and why one size does not fit all. We chat about the masks and mirrors of friendship, why we shouldn't judge a friendship by text turnaround times and why we all have to be responsible for spending our friendship budgets wisely.
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Elizabeth references Glennon Doyle's podcast "We Can Do Hard Things", the work of Robin Dunbar on friendship numbers and Frederick Nietzsche on stars.
Friendaholic is available to pre-order here: https://amzn.eu/d/7TUbwYG
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp.
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Social Media:
Elizabeth Day @elizabday
Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
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S4, Ep 2 Best Friend Therapy: Inside the Therapy Room - How do you find a good therapist? What's involved? How do you become a therapist?
This week on Best Friend Therapy, we are responding to the many requests we've received for a conversation about therapy itself: when to seek therapy, how to find a therapist, how to become a therapist, where to start and what to expect.
Emma shares the path she took from selling perfume to private practice and Elizabeth shares some of her experiences as a client in therapy.
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We reference the work of Windy Dryden and you can read more here: https://www.windydryden.com
Emma trained at the following institutions: The Gestalt Centre https://gestaltcentre.org.uk, Peter Symonds College https://ahed.psc.ac.uk, Metanoia Institute https://www.metanoia.ac.uk
For anyone wanting a taster of Transactional Analysis, The Berne Centre offers a fantastic introductory course: https://theberne.com/ta101---introduction-to-ta
Mind has pulled together this comprehensive resource all about finding a therapist, including how to access NHS services, charities, workplace and educational services and private therapists: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/drugs-and-treatments/talking-therapy-and-counselling/how-to-find-a-therapist/
HIIT therapy sessions with Emma are bookable at emmareedturrell.as.me or for more on her work on people-pleasing, you can get a copy of her book Please Yourself here: https://amzn.eu/d/hiLPoRL
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp.
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Social Media:
Elizabeth Day @elizabday
Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
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S4, Ep 1 Best Friend Therapy: Grief - How can we cope with loss? What is the function of grief? How can we help people who are grieving?
TW: Trauma, miscarriage.
Welcome back to season four of Best Friend Therapy!
We wanted to open this new beginning with a conversation about ending because the two go hand in hand and because grief is a subject that touches us all.
It has been one of our most requested topics and we hope we can do it justice, as we discuss aspects of grief such as anticipatory grief, traumatic grief and collective grief, how to support others who are grieving, and how to parent children through loss.
Emma explains the the 'concertina' effect we can feel when past losses catch up with us in the present and Elizabeth shares the stories of people she has interviewed, that have helped her understand how to live alongside loss.
Not only dealing with bereavement, we cover the ending of friendships, the loss that comes with house moves and empty-nest syndrome, to understand how we can make meaning of grief and why its purpose is also positive.
And, if you're grieving right now - know that we see you and you're not alone.
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Elizabeth references these books that she has found to be helpful: "A Heart that Works" by Rob Delaney, "The Year of Magical Thinking" by Joan Didion, and "After You" by Natascha McElhone.
And you can hear Elizabeth interviewing Mo Gawdat on her podcast How to Fail here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-fail-with-elizabeth-day/id1407451189?i=1000436244962
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp.
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Social Media:
Elizabeth Day @elizabday
Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
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S3, BONUS EPISODE! Best Friend Therapy: Flexibility - How can it help? Why does balance matter? Is it about change or acceptance?
Happy New Year from Best Friend Therapy!
We're so delighted to be back with you for another year of conversations where we talk about what's on our minds, to get deeper in our minds.
And we're kicking off with this bonus episode on the timely topic of flexibility - from flexibility in exercise, to worklife and relationships. We explore how we can tune in to our emotional equalizers to tell us what we need and what we have to give, as we head into the new year.
Emma explains why a balance between acceptance and change is important and tells us why we need to drop the rope and get on the seesaw, and Elizabeth explains what happens when we hyperextend and shares some of the warning signs we can all look out for.
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You can learn more about Myers Briggs here: 16personalities.com or thepersonalitylab.org
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This episode is sponsored by Peloton – a fitness experience for your body and mind, so motivating and exhilarating that you’ll come back to it time and time again. Find out more by visiting https://www.onepeloton.co.uk
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp.
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Social Media:
Elizabeth Day @elizabday
Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
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S3, Ep 8 Best Friend Therapy: Festive Hangovers - Why can Christmas feel complicated? How can we support ourselves? What can we learn?
Merry Christmas from Best Friend Therapy!
Or not. Because, however your festive season has been this year, and however you chose to celebrate, you’re welcome in this conversation. So join us, as we ease our festive hangovers together (both literal and metaphorical).
Special occasions and holidays can be a flashpoint for emotions, and expectation can be the thief of joy. We’re not responsible for other people’s enjoyment of Christmas and yet the pressures to shop, socialise, cook, dress, eat and drink in festive form, can overwhelm even the most hardened people-pleasers among us.
Emma and Elizabeth share their best and worst Christmasses and offer advice if you’ve had a tough one this year. And we look forward by looking back, because the Christmas run-up can be one big set-up, and it’s something we can learn from for the future.
*genuine hangover advice also provided*
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp. To contact us, email contact@bestfriendtherapy.co.uk
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Social Media:
Elizabeth Day @elizabday
Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
Best Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy
Customer Reviews
Stopped me in my tracks
A girlfriend introduced me to this podcast on a whim. I chose an episode at random about a topic I thought I was well versed in - attachment styles. And I was blown away with the insights and warmth they shared. Many times I felt their comments resonate so deeply inside me it brought me to tears. Very much forward to listening to the rest of the episodes! Thank you!!
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Isn’t it ironic that I feel more “seen” through this audio podcast than through any other form of media? These two women offer insightful commentary on topics that have emotional pull in all types of relationships: work, romantic, platonic. I’ve had so many ah-ha moments and mini breakthroughs while listening. It’s like being on the therapist chaise — minus the bill at the end! Thank you, Elizabeth + Emma. Bravo!
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I love to hear these two best friends talking about several topics.
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