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Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries is a weekly podcast hosted by Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal, and the creator the 5-Step Boundary Solution process. Beyond Bitchy dispels the common misperception that boundaries are selfish, rigid, and controlling, and offers a fresh vision of personal limits as a source of freedom and liberation. Get expert information about how to identify, create, and establish effective personal and relationship boundaries so that you can get the space you need, and the connection you crave.

Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW

    • Relationships
    • 4.8, 236 Ratings

Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries is a weekly podcast hosted by Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal, and the creator the 5-Step Boundary Solution process. Beyond Bitchy dispels the common misperception that boundaries are selfish, rigid, and controlling, and offers a fresh vision of personal limits as a source of freedom and liberation. Get expert information about how to identify, create, and establish effective personal and relationship boundaries so that you can get the space you need, and the connection you crave.

    #96 - Listener Questions Marathon!

    #96 - Listener Questions Marathon!

    This special episode is a little different than usual! Last week, I did a live call to answer the massive backlog of listener questions from the podcast, and this episode is a recording of that call. If you’ve ever submitted a question, tune in since I might have answered yours directly. And if you haven’t, I’m going over such a broad range of questions that you’ll still find something relevant to you. So settle in with a cup of tea, and enjoy!
    Biggest Takeaways From Episode #96:
    There are themes

    • 1 hr 28 min
    #95 - Don't Bite the Bait! How to Respond When You're Feeling Baited

    #95 - Don't Bite the Bait! How to Respond When You're Feeling Baited

    From time to time, everyone struggles with biting the bait. And usually the people we feel most baited by are the people we care about the most. But there’s really no benefit to biting the bait, especially if we want to stay connected. Today, I’ll dig into what exactly bait is, and share 11 ways to avoid biting it.
    Biggest Takeaways From Episode #95:
    The dictionary definition of bait causes us to focus on the wrong thing in interpersonal reactions: the other person’s intent. Instead, think of bait a

    • 34 min
    #94 - How Far Can You Go? Sometimes, Boundaries Are Not the Answer

    #94 - How Far Can You Go? Sometimes, Boundaries Are Not the Answer

    This is a scary time. So many of us are dealing with fear about what’s happening and what may happen, as well as not knowing what’s going to happen or what the future will look like. So let’s talk about something uplifting, forward-thinking, and expansive, that will stretch us beyond our limited mindset, beliefs, or fears. How far can you go?
    Biggest Takeaways From Episode #94:
    The future has always be

    • 17 min
    #93 - Listening When Trauma Speaks (Dedicated to the Memory of George Floyd)

    #93 - Listening When Trauma Speaks (Dedicated to the Memory of George Floyd)

    Right now, in the United States, trauma is speaking. Prejudice and racism wounds, and are potentially traumatizing to anyone who experiences them. But listening to another person’s trauma is a challenging thing to do, especially if we perceive that we may have played a part in their experience — even when remaining silent or looking away. Let’s talk about how to listen when trauma speaks.
    Biggest Takeaways From Episode #93:
    The listening boundary is the most challenging boundary for most of us. When

    • 41 min
    #92 - How Face Masks Became Patriotic & Sexy

    #92 - How Face Masks Became Patriotic & Sexy

    The title may be wishful thinking, but I want to make a case for it! Boundaries are about protection, and in boundaries terms, wearing a face mask is about protecting other people. I want to dig into this today, and talk about wearing a mask as an act of compassion, courage, honor, strength, and patriotism.
    Biggest Takeaways From Episode #92:
    Two factors, among many, that contribute to our COVID-19 death rate in the US are our failed healthcare system and our rugged individualistic mindset. In the US, we

    • 20 min
    #91 - Are Boundaries Optional?

    #91 - Are Boundaries Optional?

    Last week, I had a totally new realization about a new boundaries framework. I stumbled on another way to conceptualize the way we experience boundaries or limits, and that’s what I want to share with you today. This is all about the hierarchy of boundaries, and whether or not boundaries are optional. Do some of us get a pass on boundaries, or get to decide that boundaries don’t apply? Tune in as I talk about anyone is “above the law” as it comes to boundaries.
    Biggest Takeaways From Episode #91:

    • 20 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
236 Ratings

236 Ratings

s. wolff ,

Not just for women...for everyone

When I tell my friends about the Beyond Bitchy podcast, many roll their eyes. Another women’s podcast complaining about men and how they screw their lives up.

But no, the BB podcast is for everyone!! I learned about this wonderful boundary learning resource at a one week retreat at the Meadows in Arizona. I admit I was skeptical at first, but WOW, what a useful podcast this is!! If you want to learn about boundary setting skills, this is the only place to go. Each episode brings a fresh look at boundaries and a variety of settings.

I’ve listened to episodes over and over to learn the basic skills and how to use the boundary setting tools. I’ve gained confidence and more self esteem as I work through life’s situations. I grew up in a dysfunctional family where there were no boundaries and no one to model healthy behavior. At 62, I’m a man, finally getting healthy and “growing up”.

I highly recommend Vicki and the BB podcast. Try it, you’ll see!!

peacebirdNov ,

Very good

I love this podcast. I’ve learned a lot new insights about boundaries.

Papa fan!! ,

Best Podcast on Boundaries

While trying to heal betrayal trauma I have struggled learning about boundaries. This podcast gives you every detail you need to know about what boundaries are, and what they aren’t. And how to set boundaries and then hold them. I would have been lost if it wasn’t for Beyond Bitchy.

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