Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries is a weekly podcast hosted by Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal and Creatrix of The Radiant Threefold Path. Beyond Bitchy dispels the common misperception that boundaries are selfish, rigid, and controlling, and offers a fresh vision of personal limits as a source of freedom and liberation. Get expert information about how to identify, create, and establish effective personal and relationship boundaries so that you can get the space you need, and the connection you crave.
#143 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part II)
Last week, I talked about the first two of the four essentials for mastering boundaries: “Who’s Got the Power?” and “Stinkin’ Thinkin’.” (If these don’t sound familiar, I recommend going back to listen to Episode 142.) This week, I’ll cover the third and fourth essentials: “Live and Let Live,” and “Change (So That I Can Feel Better).”
But before we begin, I want to share a big announcement: this will be the final episode of the Beyond Bitchy podcast. This has been a productive and
#142 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part I)
I’m lucky enough to have been able to give myself the gift of a 27-day sabbatical, which gave me so much clarity into both my personal and professional life. And now that I’m back, I’m inspired to offer some insight about the four common challenges I see across all sorts of boundary questions in various situations. I’ll cover the first two challenges today, and the third and fourth next week.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #142:
Even if it’s only a few minutes a day, please carve out a few
#141 - Are Boundaries a Sign of Disapproval?
People have a lot of misconceptions about boundaries. You may hear people say that boundaries are harsh, rigid, a punishment, or even selfish. Some people even believe that sharing boundaries is a way to control others or tell them what to do. Recently, I’ve heard another misconception: setting a boundary with someone is a sign that you disapprove of them. Tune in to learn why this isn’t the case, and how your boundaries are all about you.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #141:
Whether you disapprove o
#140 - ENCORE - Rest, Don't Quit
Lately, have you noticed a sense of collective exhaustion, sadness, and impatience? Right now, it may feel like there’s not a lot to celebrate. This is especially true with the holidays coming up, since they're going to look much different than usual this year. With everything going on, you might feel like you want to quit, because what’s the point? If this resonates with you, it may be time for you to take a rest. Tune in to learn what this may look like for you.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #113:
#139 - ENCORE - Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries
At some point, all of us will have experiences that require us to focus our attention on ourselves in an intense way. For example, an advanced cancer diagnosis, an accident, or shocking news may require you to go into extreme self-care. This is the kind of self-care I’ve been practicing for the last several weeks, and why there was a gap between Episode #49 and #50. I’m so glad to be back!
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #50:
At certain points in our lives, each of us needs to go into what Vicki calls
#138 - ENCORE - Rest, Rejuvenation, & Boundaries
Today’s episode is all about rest, rejuvenation, and boundaries, which absolutely relate to one another! I’ll explain why rest is so important and why it’s so difficult to unplug in our uber-connected, device saturated world. I’ll also give you some tips on how to truly rest and enter into states of being rather than doing, and why rest is crucial for health, creativity, and even productivity.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #31:
To create spaces of time off—whether for a few hours or a few weeks
This podcast has been so transformative in my healing process. Thank you so much for making this information so accessible. I recommend this show to so many girlfriends who need this empowerment too! Thanks so much! ❤️
No, that’s NOT what triangulation is
I was excited to listen to my first episode and happened to choose #137. I could not finish the episode because of the incorrect way triangulation was being discussed. Triangulation is not a method of communication where you use someone else as a messenger instead of speaking directly to them. Triangulation is about coming to a decision using 3 sources of information, analogous to how physicists do. Ray Dalio explains it well in “Principles” and gives some solid examples.
Glad to be here
For far too long I’ve considered myself to be a timid people pleaser. This podcast (along with regular therapy) have helped me realize I too can stand up for myself and use boundaries in a way that serve me. Thankful to be a part of this community.