Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 42: Birth Father Roles & Their Impact
Many times birth fathers and birth mothers have broken up and are not longer together and without his support; emotional, physical, financial and mental- a birth mother decides adoption is in the best interest of both her and her unborn baby. The birth mother may have realized that her relationship is incredibly unstable and wants stability and longevity for her child.
Other times, birth mothers may continue to be in a relationship with their unborn baby’s birth father and he is not in support of her adoption plan. He will argue with her about her plan, and she sticks to her plan and they will break up and get back together and the focus becomes on him rather than her adoption plan. In her mind, she has made her decision and her knees are locked. This situation is very difficult on a birth mother and one way to assist her is to build up her support system.
Sometimes a birth mother has multiple potential birth fathers. They may have broken up and gotten back together and they don’t know which one is the actual birth father. Other times there are situations where all of the birth fathers are very cooperative.
Sometimes, in the best case scenarios; the birth father is very supportive of the birth mother, regardless of whether or not they are in a current relationship. He attends all of the adoption meetings, helps choose the adoptive family, meets with them and develops his own relationship with them. This situation is so positive for the birth mother, it not only establishes a support structure but gives her further assurance in her adoption choice.
Adoption is a beautiful choice and studies have shown us that birth fathers can be a very valuable asset in their support of an adoption plan.