Bonus Ep8 ~ Dirty Details of When You Meet Your Person You Will Know Man Shopping with Stacie
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- Relationships
When I started planning this episode, I started thinking back on how I was able to come up with such a long, clear description of the qualities I hope to find in a future partner in the original Ep16. As I reflected, I decided that it was because of two things - 1. I've examined my past relationships and learned from them. 2. I've experienced a tremendous amount of self-discovery in the past couple of years.
In this episode, I begin by taking you back in time to 1993. I share the story of my first love and the evolution of our relationship. I draw comparisons between my very first boyfriend and the two men who I married. In examining these relationships, it's easy to see tendencies I have to want to control, nurture, and provide emotional support for my significant others.
Then, I discuss dealbreakers and red flags. I talk about my personal dealbreakers (babies, young children, difficult exes) and encourage you to know what yours are and avoid them. I also talk about red flags and how I have a tendency to recognize them but a harder time avoiding them.
Lastly, I talk about the idea of settling. Settling and compromising are two different things. I discuss how it pains me to hear of divorced people settling for a relationship where they are mistreated or unhappy simply because they would rather be in a mediocre relationship than be alone. I caution that if you do settle for a relationship you know is not fulfilling you are not only compromising your happiness but you're denying yourself the opportunity to meet someone who could potentially be a better partner.
When I started planning this episode, I started thinking back on how I was able to come up with such a long, clear description of the qualities I hope to find in a future partner in the original Ep16. As I reflected, I decided that it was because of two things - 1. I've examined my past relationships and learned from them. 2. I've experienced a tremendous amount of self-discovery in the past couple of years.
In this episode, I begin by taking you back in time to 1993. I share the story of my first love and the evolution of our relationship. I draw comparisons between my very first boyfriend and the two men who I married. In examining these relationships, it's easy to see tendencies I have to want to control, nurture, and provide emotional support for my significant others.
Then, I discuss dealbreakers and red flags. I talk about my personal dealbreakers (babies, young children, difficult exes) and encourage you to know what yours are and avoid them. I also talk about red flags and how I have a tendency to recognize them but a harder time avoiding them.
Lastly, I talk about the idea of settling. Settling and compromising are two different things. I discuss how it pains me to hear of divorced people settling for a relationship where they are mistreated or unhappy simply because they would rather be in a mediocre relationship than be alone. I caution that if you do settle for a relationship you know is not fulfilling you are not only compromising your happiness but you're denying yourself the opportunity to meet someone who could potentially be a better partner.