15 min

Bribes & Allowance Don't Work! How to Motivate Kids to Do Chores Without Power Struggles! | 34 The Mom Psychologist Show

    • Parenting

Ah, chores! Similar to mealtime, bedtime, and potty training, chores are a perfect breeding ground for power struggles!  

Now I actually like to frame chores as family contributions because it helps set the stage for why we do these things in the first place. 

It's important we establish routines around family contributions because it sends our kids the clear message that they matter! Our kids come to learn that they play a huge role in keeping the family running smoothly and their contributions make a difference (which boosts their self esteem and feelings of significance).

It also teaches them:   



Life skills 



Work ethic 



Appreciate the work of others 



Curbs entitlement 



Teaches independence  



I'm a huge fan of beginning to teach this practice during the toddler years because again, it sends a strong message that everyone contributes to the family (all year long) no matter how young or busy you are.

But I get it, it's not always so easy to motivate our kids to actually want to do their chores so in this week's episode, I discuss:



The best (and easiest) way to enlist more cooperation when it comes to chores



Simple ways to start a chore routine



3 tips for enlisting more cooperation during chores



Don’t forget to download my free chore checklists for a list of age appropriate chores and a chore chart to help you get started! - www.themompsychologist.com/chores

Ah, chores! Similar to mealtime, bedtime, and potty training, chores are a perfect breeding ground for power struggles!  

Now I actually like to frame chores as family contributions because it helps set the stage for why we do these things in the first place. 

It's important we establish routines around family contributions because it sends our kids the clear message that they matter! Our kids come to learn that they play a huge role in keeping the family running smoothly and their contributions make a difference (which boosts their self esteem and feelings of significance).

It also teaches them:   



Life skills 



Work ethic 



Appreciate the work of others 



Curbs entitlement 



Teaches independence  



I'm a huge fan of beginning to teach this practice during the toddler years because again, it sends a strong message that everyone contributes to the family (all year long) no matter how young or busy you are.

But I get it, it's not always so easy to motivate our kids to actually want to do their chores so in this week's episode, I discuss:



The best (and easiest) way to enlist more cooperation when it comes to chores



Simple ways to start a chore routine



3 tips for enlisting more cooperation during chores



Don’t forget to download my free chore checklists for a list of age appropriate chores and a chore chart to help you get started! - www.themompsychologist.com/chores

15 min