Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Molly Stillman | Speaker, Author, Loud Laugher
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Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

  1. 1D AGO

    #437 From Resentment to Repair in Marriage with Dr. Morgan Cutlip

    This week on the podcast, I’m joined once again by the brilliant Dr. Morgan Cutlip- author, psychologist, and relationship expert. She is known for equipping individuals and couples with practical, down-to-earth tools to navigate the most challenging parts of relationships. She has a true gift for turning psychological research into relatable, real-life strategies, and she shares her wisdom through her books, courses, blog, podcast, and social media platforms. Morgan first joined us to talk about her book Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, and now she’s back with her brand-new release, A Better Share, which just dropped last week.  In this episode, we talk about the “invisible load” so many of us carry in marriage and relationships. From emotional labor and intimacy to resentment and repair, Morgan helps us understand what’s really going on beneath the surface- and how to stop feeling like you're carrying it all alone. Heads up: we touch on some adult topics, so this one might be best saved for when little ears aren’t around.  I know you’re going to love Morgan’s wisdom, insights and message of hope today! 4:01 – Morgan 201 •    Life in a book-writing hole •    Kids getting older •    The bob is bobbing! 6:56 – Morgan’s Expertise And Book Launch •    Morgan’s background in psychology •    Helping women stay connected to themselves •    How Morgan’s experience and others’ experiences influenced this book 11:28 – The Mental Load •    Defining “the mental load” •    The weight on women  •    The emotional work of home and family  15:00 – Challenges In Modern Relationships  •    Why couples end up in imbalanced relationship dynamics  •    How women are socialized to self-sacrifice •    Breaking under the weight of assumed responsibility 20:43 – Repairing Resentment and Rebuilding Intimacy •    Talking about these issues without defensiveness •    Externalizing the problem and setting up conversations well •    5 key conversations couples should be having  •    Practical tools for improving relationships •    Getting your copy of Morgan’s book   FEATURED QUOTES “If we just point the finger at our partners, it's not going to get us to a better place.” “Everybody has a mental load…However, in home and family life, research shows us time and time again, even when women work full time, part time or stay at home parents, it doesn't matter, we tend to carry the bulk of it.” “When couples stop talking about the little things, they stop reaching for the big things, like intimacy.” Learn more about Morgan: https://drmorgancutlip.com/ My Love Thinks: https://www.mylovethinks.com/ My Love Thinks Podcast: https://www.mylovethinks.com/relationship-podcast/ Get Your Copy of A Better Share: https://drmorgancutlip.com/bs-preorder/ Get your Copy of Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself https://drmorgancutlip.com/book/ Morgan on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmorgancutlip/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/mylovethinks/

    40 min

  2. APR 9

    #436 - Shatterproof - Pain to Purpose with ESPN's Lauren Sisler

    This week, I am so excited to be joined by the incredible Lauren Sisler. She is an Emmy Award-winning sports broadcaster, ESPN sideline reporter, author, keynote speaker, and the queen of the sideline shimmy. After landing her dream career with ESPN and reporting on college football and gymnastics, she began to open up about a story she once kept hidden: losing both of her parents to opioid addiction.  Through sharing her journey, Lauren has not only shed light on the stigma surrounding addiction, but she’s also found a powerful way to help others navigate their own struggles. Whether on the sidelines or speaking on stages, her mission is to help people find the courage to tell their own stories and live more resilient lives.  I can’t wait for you to hear this conversation, and to learn more about Lauren's powerful new book, Shatterproof. 3:11 – Lauren 101 •    Residing in Brimingham, Alabama •    Lauren’s career in sports broadcasting •    Wife and mom 5:53 – Shatterproof  •    The “why” behind Shatterproof  •    The process of writing this book •    Lauren’s journey to acceptance  12:04 – Healing In Layers •    The challenges of writing this book •    Greif and healing are not linear  •    How Lauren’s perspective shifted over time 18:02 – Understanding Addiction and Stigma  •    The stigma surrounding addiction  •    Finding compassion for those battling addiction  •    Having open, honest conversations  27:22 – Holding The Whole Story •    Honoring legacy through honesty  •    The lessons Lauren learned from her parents’ lives •    We shouldn’t be defined by our hardest chapters  •    The difference between helping and enabling  34:08 – The Power Of Sports And Storytelling •    The resilience that sports builds •    How Lauren’s career has shaped her own storytelling   •    The power of storytelling •    Getting Lauren’s book Shatterproof  FEATURED QUOTES “Growing up, society tells us what addiction looks like, who it affects, who it impacts. And I felt like my parents were none of those things.” “The good Lord will free you when you stare something in the face and say, you know what? This is what it is. And now we gotta work through it and move through it.” “I hope anybody that's listening that has walked through addiction or is actively walking through it knows there's absolutely hope and recovery. There are… so many amazing stories out there and testimonies- but it's a journey.” Learn more about Lauren: https://www.laurensisler.com/about Get your copy of Shatterproof: https://www.laurensisler.com/my-book-shatterproof-lauren-sisler Lauren on socials: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurensisler Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LaurenSisler/ X: https://x.com/LaurenSisler/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurensisler/

    51 min

  3. APR 2

    #435 - The Sacred Order of the Underestimated with Mary Marantz

    I’m thrilled to welcome back my dear friend Mary Marantz for her third appearance on the show! If you’ve been here a while, you already know how incredible Mary is- she’s a powerhouse in every sense of the word. As a podcaster, author, speaker, photographer, and coach, she truly does it all. Today, we’re diving into her latest book, Underestimated, which releases later this month. We’re talking about what it means to be underestimated, why fear is a boring liar, and how playing small was never part of your purpose. This conversation was so good and I’m so excited to share it with you! 4:23 – Mary 301 •    Catching up since Mary’s second book •    The experience writing Underestimated •    The journey leading up to this book 6:25 – The Starting Line •    Starting over in your 40s •    It’s never too late to achieve your goals •    Untangling limiting beliefs  13:32 – Fear Is A Boring Liar  •    Fear often repeats the same lies •    Fear’s jealousy of creativity •    How the enemy uses deception  •    Flipping the fear narrative  27:31 – The Power of Naming Fear •    How unaddressed fears can lead to burnout •    Having an accountability partner •    Mirrors and microscopes •    Learning and growing from your mistakes 50:09 – Closing Thoughts  •    Who this book is for •    Mary’s prayer for her readers  •    Pre-ordering your copy of Underestimated  FEATURED QUOTES “What does it look like for us to quit playing small on the good work that's been prepared for us in advance?” “This book is for the one who feels like they're being called up to greatness. They're being called up to more, but at the very same time, you simultaneously doubt that someone like you could ever get there.” “God did not call you to play small. He did not call you to shrink back. He made you for more than you realize.” Learn more about Mary: https://marymarantz.com/ Grab a FREE chapter of Mary’s book, Underestimated: https://marymarantz.myflodesk.com/underestimatedch1 The Mary Marantz Show: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mary-marantz-show/id1478272407 Achiever Type Quiz:  https://www.marymarantz.com/quiz Mary on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marymarantz/?hl=en Mary on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marymarantz/ Mary on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarantz/

    59 min

  4. MAR 26

    #434 - Celebrating One Year of "If I Don't Laugh, I'll Cry"!

    It’s been one whole year since If I Don’t Laugh, I’ll Cry made its way into the world, and today, we’re celebrating! In this special anniversary episode, I’m reflecting on the journey of writing and releasing this book- what it was like to put my story on paper, the emotional highs and lows, and the incredible messages from readers that have reminded me why I wrote it in the first place. Whether you’ve read the book or are just hearing about it for the first time, I hope this episode makes you laugh, reflect, and feel a little less alone in your own beautiful mess. Thank you for being part of this journey with me! 0:47 – Intro •    My 1-year bookaversery! •    A big thank you to my readers  3:06 – Behind The Pages •    What was it really like to write a book? •    The cathartic and terrifying writing process  •    Reader messages that moved me 5:33 – Embracing The Messy & Real •    Offering presence, perspective and hope •    The anticipation leading up to release day •    Honoring my mom’s storytelling 11:08 – Future Plans & Final Thoughts •    Is another book on the horizon? •    Staying true to my voice FEATURED QUOTES “One of the goals that I had in this book is to just make someone feel seen, make you feel seen, to know that your mess is not too much for God- that you're not too far gone.” “This year taught me that this story, my story, this book, didn't end with the last chapter. It has kept going in the conversations, in the tears that were shed at book signings, in the emails from strangers, in the quiet mornings on the farm, when I remember why I wrote it.” “There's something really beautiful that happens when you let people see the cracks. Because what happens is light gets in, and you'll be able to watch other people shine too.”

    14 min

  5. MAR 19

    REPLAY | A Special Conversation with MY DAD!

    This week, I'm thrilled to welcome the most special guest ever on my show- my dad. With the release of my book just around the corner (coming out next week- can you believe it?!) I couldn’t think of a better time to have him on the podcast. Together, we dig into some of the stories that are (and aren’t) talked about in my book.   Join us as we laugh, reminisce, and share stories of the joys, the challenges, and everything in between. My dad has such powerful things to say about gratitude, slowing down, choosing love, and finding joy in the darkest of moments. This conversation is so special to me, and I am so excited to share it with you today.   Without further ado, let’s jump into this conversation with Tom Buckley.   3:34 – Tom 101   Tom’s upbringing + challenging relationship with religion Going to college, joining a fraternity, and career as a teacher Difficulties in marriage, battles with alcoholism and homelessness Tom’s journey to sobriety + spiritual growth   26:49 – Parenting Perspectives   Reading the memoir Watching children make mistakes and learn from them   36:28 – Choosing Love   Tom and Lynda’s marriage that defied the odds Prioritizing sobriety, God, and the good of the family The importance of love, respect, and kindness   48:28 – Rule 62   Looking for the good throughout Lynda’s sickness Not taking yourself too seriously Appreciating what life has taught you Tom’s favorite chapter in the book   48:28 – Life lessons at 80   Tom’s life today with Cindy Slowing down and appreciating the present Trusting that things will work out when you get out of your own way   FEATURED QUOTES   “That's what life is about. It isn't about failure, it's about getting back up.”   “If you take yourself too seriously, you just lose sight of all the things that really are important.”   “In the ‘getting through it’ stage, you gain experience and knowledge that you can use to get out of it. You can find places for help and guidance that will work.”   “You want to see who the winners are? Follow the laughter.”   Connect with me:   http://www.stillbeingmolly.com   http://instagram.com/stillbeingmolly   http://instagram.com/canilaughpod   http://twitter.com/stillbeingmolly   http://facebook.com/stillbeingmolly   http://facebook.com/canilaughpod   http://tiktok.com/@stillbeingmolly   Preorder my book:   PREORDER YOUR COPY TODAY:   Barnes & Noble: https://bit.ly/IIDLICbn   Amazon: https://amzn.to/48VYFkG   ChristianBook: https://bit.ly/IIDLICcb   Target: https://bit.ly/3Shh3Q2   Walmart: https://bit.ly/3MmGVpJ   Indie Bound: https://bit.ly/IIDLICib   About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

    1h 3m

  6. MAR 12

    REPLAY: Until the Streetlights come on with Ginny Yurich, 1000 Hours Outside

    I'm under the weather this week, so I'm sharing one of my favorite episodes!   This week, I’m excited to welcome Ginny Yurich, a homeschooling mother of five and the founder of 1000 Hours Outside- a global movement reclaiming childhood and fostering family connections through nature-based play. Alongside her husband, Josh, Ginny is the brilliant mind behind the 1000 Hours Outside lifestyle brand, featuring an online store, app, podcast, a brand new book, and much more. Whether you have kids or not, this episode is an absolute must-listen. We dig deep into issues that resonate, especially for those of us stuck behind desks and indoors all day. This conversation was deep, thought-provoking, and left me feeling challenged and convicted in the best way. It’s easily one of my top 10 favorite episodes of all time, and I’m so excited to share it with you! 3:36 – Ginny 101 Struggles of early motherhood A playdate that changed everything  Transformation through outdoor time Writing about this experience 15:07 – The Power of Outdoor Play The challenges of modern parenting Making small, intentional changes in daily routines Building outdoor habits as a family The power of friends and community with outdoor activities 34:11 – Embracing All Seasons The magic of winter Leaning into the unique experiences each season brings Cultivating grit and resilience  41:55 – Parenting in a Changing World Balancing structured and unstructured activities  Encouraging self-discovery and independence Rethinking the college-centric path  1:01:21 – Takeaways + Words of Encouragement The power of pre-ordering books The long-term impact of parenting choices  Celebrating real-life, hands-on experiences FEATURED QUOTES “If all that time, all those memories, all that relationship building, all of that connection, all of those moments of exhale- if those had gone to screens, our life would be so much less full….This is about bringing balance back to childhood.” “What I’ve learned over the past decade is that this is a step that you take as a family. And the step is awareness. It’s about knowing that, when we play outside, it benefits every single member of your family, from your newborn to your grandmother to your great grandmother.” “There are long-term effects to the choices that we make. And this is their life, this is their childhood. And it’s important to understand, at least to a small degree, what self-directed childhood play does for kids. And it does an immense amount.” Learn more about Ginny: https://www.1000hoursoutside.com/ https://www.1000hoursoutside.com/about-us

    1h 8m

  7. FEB 26

    #433 - The Theology of Wine // Wine in the Word with Randy Frazee and Gisela Kreglinger

    Oh MAN, you are in for a treat this week! I have not one, but two incredible guests joining me: Randy Frazee and Gisela Kreglinger. Randy is the lead teaching pastor at Westside Family Church in Kansas City and a visionary in Bible engagement, spiritual formation, and building biblical community. He’s the architect behind The Story and Believe church engagement campaigns and the author of books like The Joy Challenge and Think, Act, Be Like Jesus. Gisela grew up on a winery in Franconia, Germany, where her family has been crafting wine for generations. She holds multiple degrees in Biblical Studies and a PhD in Historical Theology from the University of St Andrews. Her passion lies at the intersection of food, faith, and joy, which she explores through her writing, teaching, and wine pilgrimages. Together, they are the brilliant minds behind Wine in the Word, a Bible study that explores the theology of wine, its biblical significance, and how it connects with the Christian life.  This conversation was unlike anything I’ve ever had on the show. It was thought-provoking, eye-opening, and honestly, I could’ve talked to these two for hours! Get ready for a super fascinating discussion! 4:27 – Randy 101 • Lead pastor for 36 years • Writer and author  • Husband, father and grandfather • Working on this project with Gisela 6:03 – Gisela 101 • Growing up on a winery • Theologian, teacher, and writer  • Wine tastings and pilgrimages  7:24 – The Story Behind “Wine In The Word”  • Randy and Gisela’s backgrounds • How this collaboration came to be • Wine as a bridge builder  13:55 – The Role Of Wine In The Bible • The historical context of wine in America • Wine consumption in Christian context • Reclaiming wine as a gift from God • Teaching your children to have a healthy relationship with wine 26:54 – “Holy Tipsiness” • Wine as a social lubricant • An invitation to community + sharing God’s gifts • Addressing opposition to wine consumption  45:25 – Takeaways  • Teaching about wine in a healthy, biblical context  • Learn more about Wine In The Word • Randy and Gisela’s prayer for this study FEATURED QUOTES “I just feel like it's time that we stop looking at wine through the lens of our culture.” - Randy Frazee “Wine is really an invitation to community, to sharing the gifts of God. You know, wine and bread and all food that the earth brings forth are gifts from God. They are not just things out there that we need to eat. They're actually God's love language.” – Gisela Kreglinger “You don't even have to drink or like wine, but you should know about what wine is teaching us in God.” - Randy Frazee “We as the church have always been called to show how to live and how to live well as God has intended it, and I think we need to do that.” – Gisela Kreglinger +++ Wine in the Word: https://www.randyfrazee.com/wine-in-the-word Learn more about Randy: https://www.randyfrazee.com/ Randy’s Books: https://www.randyfrazee.com/books Westside Family Church: https://www.westsidefamily.church/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RandyeFrazee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/randyfrazee LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/randy-frazee-43bb1545/ Learn more about Gisela: https://www.thespiritualityofwine.com/ Gisela’s Books and Articles: https://www.thespiritualityofwine.com/publications Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gisela.kreglinger Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/giselakreglinger/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gisela-h-kreglinger-615a2910/ Connect with me:  http://www.stillbeingmolly.com  http://instagram.com/stillbeingmolly http://instagram.com/canilaughpod http://twitter.com/stillbeingmolly http://facebook.com/stillbeingmolly http://facebook.com/canilaughpod http://tiktok.com/@stillbeingmolly    GET YOUR COPY of ‘IF I DON’T LAUGH, I’LL CRY” TODAY: Barnes & Noble: https://bit.ly/IIDLICbn  Amazon: https://amzn.to/48VYFkG  ChristianBook: https://bit.ly/IIDLICcb  Target: https://bit.ly/3Shh3Q2 Walmart: https://bit.ly/3MmGVpJ Indie Bound: https://bit.ly/IIDLICib Audible: https://amzn.to/3ITcdm8  Kindle: https://amzn.to/3ITaSvv  About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

    58 min

  8. FEB 19

    #432 The Power of Small Wins: Why Every Tiny Victory Matters

    Hey, friend! Today, we’re talking about something that has been on my heart a lot lately- the power of small wins and why they actually matter more than we realize. We live in a world that constantly celebrates the big, flashy milestones- the promotions, the six-figure businesses, the book deals, the dream homes. And those things are great! But what about the small victories? The little moments of progress that quietly shape our lives? In today’s episode, I’m sharing why shifting our mindset to celebrate small wins- whether it’s folding laundry the same day it's washed (yes, that counts!), drinking more water, or just showing up when it feels hard- can truly transform how we approach life, business, faith, and our relationships. Plus, I’ll share some practical ways to start recognizing and celebrating these moments in everyday life. So, if you’ve ever felt like you’re falling behind because your wins don’t seem big enough- this episode is for you. Let’s reframe our thinking, embrace progress over perfection, and start finding joy in the little things! 1:52 – Reframing “Success”  •    Moving away from hustle culture  •    Celebrating incremental progress •    The power of small wins  •    How hustle culture can overshadow small victories   9:23 – Practical Tips For Celebrating Small Wins •    Keeping a gratitude or prayer journal  •    Writing down one accomplishment a day •    Texting a friend 11:27 – Takeaways  •    Life is made up of tiny moments  •    Examples of incremental progress  •    Taking a moment to share a tiny win  FEATURED QUOTES “Things like social media and that hustle culture I was talking about, all of that has fed into why we don't tend to celebrate the tiny victories, the tiny steps, because we are constantly bombarded with everyone else's big wins.” “Sometimes we have to remember that when we get to the end of the day and we have done the best that we can with what we've been given… that is a win.” “Incremental progress, day-by-day matters, because here is the deal- our lives are made up of the tiny moments. Yes, the big milestones are great- the marriages and the having kids, the big career wins- they are wonderful, but they don't happen overnight.”   Connect with me:  http://www.stillbeingmolly.com  http://instagram.com/stillbeingmolly http://instagram.com/canilaughpod http://twitter.com/stillbeingmolly http://facebook.com/stillbeingmolly http://facebook.com/canilaughpod http://tiktok.com/@stillbeingmolly    GET YOUR COPY of ‘IF I DON’T LAUGH, I’LL CRY” TODAY: Barnes & Noble: https://bit.ly/IIDLICbn  Amazon: https://amzn.to/48VYFkG  ChristianBook: https://bit.ly/IIDLICcb  Target: https://bit.ly/3Shh3Q2 Walmart: https://bit.ly/3MmGVpJ Indie Bound: https://bit.ly/IIDLICib Audible: https://amzn.to/3ITcdm8  Kindle: https://amzn.to/3ITaSvv  About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

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Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

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    Molly Stillman | Speaker, Author, Loud Laugher
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2025
  • Episodes
    444
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