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Chief Dream Chaser Aimee J. brings to the show people you never knew you needed to meet. Aimee talks to fellow dream chasers who share the story of their chase, the lessons they've learned, and have a good time doing it. Life is too short to live with regrets. You need to make moves, take a chance, and chase your dreams.

Chasing Dreams with Aimee J‪.‬ Aimee J.

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Chief Dream Chaser Aimee J. brings to the show people you never knew you needed to meet. Aimee talks to fellow dream chasers who share the story of their chase, the lessons they've learned, and have a good time doing it. Life is too short to live with regrets. You need to make moves, take a chance, and chase your dreams.

    Carolyn Yates – Give Yourself Permission To Put Yourself First

    Carolyn Yates – Give Yourself Permission To Put Yourself First

    The time used to invest in yourself reflects on the quality of relationships you engage in.
    In this episode, Carolyn Yates shares her expertise and advice for people struggling with their mental health. Our mental health condition is often affected by a lot of factors; the people around us, social media, and personal pressures but the best way to deal with this is to prioritize self-care.
    WHAT DID YOUNG CAROLYN WANT TO BE WHEN SHE GREW UP?
    Carolyn wasn’t sure what she wanted to be when she grew up. But as a young kid, she’s always been fascinated with how people think and behave. She explored a few different routes, but eventually, she became a psychology major in college.
    Through this, her interest in the human personality further developed. Then she finished her grad school and became a therapist.
    Although her journey started out with not being sure about what to be when she becomes older, there was a specific interest she kept in her heart that lead her to who she is today.
    Carolyn’s advice for people who are afraid of making a pivot in their lives, “be open-minded to different ideas.” When she graduated in 2008, she entered the workforce but unfortunately, the economy collapsed.
    Our situations may seem like adversity initially, but they can become a blessing in the end. Because of the economic crisis, she decided to go back to school and explored new ways of life.
    TWEETS
    “Be open-minded to different ideas.” #chasingdreams
    QUOTES
    "Things that feel like adversity in your path may ultimately be blessings in the long term."
    GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
    Most of us are raised to believe that we always have to put the needs of others first. This notion is deeply embedded in our culture that we think that by putting ourselves first, we are committing a crime.
    This thinking made some of us resentful toward life. There’s lingering guilt of not being able to do what we’ve always wanted to because we put others first. When Carolyn was asked if it’s possible for us to take care of ourselves first, she answered, “it’s about giving yourself the permission to take care of yourself.”
    She adds, “to have a bit of time for yourself means you can show up in better ways.” There may be a lot of guilt involved in doing this, but this is actually not a bad thing.
    Some people may label this as being selfish but Carolyn reframes this. She makes people understand that spending time on yourself is always a worthy investment.
    When you prioritize yourself, you also get to evaluate how you are towards others and how you treat yourself. It allows you to be more patient and present.
    TWEETS
    "Take time for yourself." #chasingdreams
    QUOTES
    “To have a little bit of time for yourself means you can show up in better ways.”
    WAYS TO PERFORM SELF-CARE
    Your self-care methods don’t have to be grand and expensive. When people think of self-care, they equate it with going on splendid vacations, spas, or shopping. These can be forms of self-care, but they can also be meditating, going for a walk, enjoying nature, journaling, exercising, or nourishing your body with a healthy meal.
    https://www.verywellmind.com/self-care-strategies-overall-stress-reduction-3144729 (Self-care) can be the simple things you do that give you joy, help you calm down, and re-center. It doesn’t have to break the bank. It’s not always a one-size-fits-all, so you have to explore what self-care methods work for you.
    As you engage in self-care, you see the world from a different perspective. You become more in tune with your thoughts, and emotions and begin to understand what it is that you need. You learn that you can be capable of achieving things if you nurture yourself first.
    TWEETS
    "Take some time to go outside, there's something about it that's calming and soothing." #chasingdreams
    QUOTES
    “Self-care is a way to manage stress.”
    WHY YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
    The

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    Aimee J - Let’s Talk Mental Health

    Aimee J - Let’s Talk Mental Health

    Mental health is not something we openly talk about and yet it greatly impacts how we live our lives. A lot of us perceive mental health as an essential topic we should be talking about. However, we all know that it’s difficult to take action when we suffer from mental health issues.
    In this episode, in celebration of Mental Health Awareness month, Aimee tackles a topic close to her heart and something she supports fully - mental health. Through this episode, Aimee shares how she handles mental stress and recommendations for people undergoing the same experience.
    It’s not easy to discuss mental health struggles, but Aimee believes that how we handle it in the present times influences the next generation. When we normalize these conversations, we also create safe spaces where people can freely talk and look for help regarding their conditions.
    THE NEED TO TALK ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH
    We may not recognize it, but there is a rising need to talk about mental health. As Aimee stated, “we millennials should understand what we’re doing and how we treat mental health is impacting the generation next.”
    This is the right time for us to take a stand and find the help that we need. However, with this thought, it’s also important to recognize that finding help is a challenge in itself. Aimee adds, “what we need to do most importantly is acknowledge that we need help for mental health.”
    TWEET
    "What we're doing and how we treat mental health is impacting the generation next." #chasingdreams
    "What we need to do most importantly is acknowledge that we need help for mental health." #chasingdreams
    QUOTE
    "Finding help is also a challenge and one that is also being worked on."
    THE IMPORTANCE OF TALKING TO A THERAPIST
    Aimee is a big advocate of talking to therapists, in fact, Aimee shares that she has a wonderful therapist. “She understands what I’m going through.” Her advice for people with mental health struggles is, “find the right therapist for you.”
    Being able to find someone who understands what you’re going through is very helpful because you can easily relay your message. Once you find the right therapist, stick with it.
    This is not to say that you should see the therapist every week, figure out the number of sessions that you need.
    Although going to a therapist has always been labeled as taboo, we should be breaking this stigma so more and more people are encouraged to find the help they need.
    Aimee says, “a therapist is a third party who doesn't necessarily have a vested interest in the decisions you make.” The best thing about having a therapist is that they root for you, they want what’s best for you, but they allow you to make the choices.
    Therapists see you and what you’re going through from a different perspective. They give valuable and reasonable advice that you can do to make changes in your life.
    TWEET
    "Therapists want what's best for you, but they allow you to make that choice." #chasingdreams
    "A therapist is an outside, objective person who can give you feedback." #chasingdreams
    QUOTE
    "It's a normal thing to get help, to talk to someone that is not your family."
    "A therapist is a third party who doesn't necessarily have a vested interest in the decisions you make."
    PANDEMIC SIDE EFFECTS ON MENTAL HEALTH
    The pandemic has had unfortunate side effects on people, especially on mental health. A lot of professionals from different industries were affected including medical frontliners, first responders, teachers, employees, and even business owners.
    Their mental health was affected because of the immense stress and pressure that was placed upon them. Some of them have been forced to do things that they’re not comfortable doing. While some of them have risked and are continuously risking their lives for others.
    In the last few years, we have seen an increase in suicide and depression. Therefore, as a community, we should make sure that they are getting the help that they deserve and this...

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    Aimee J - You Can Do Hard Things

    Aimee J - You Can Do Hard Things

    We tend to think that life is hard, and it is but what we fail to realize is that we’re capable of improving our lives, we have the power to pivot and deal with hard things.
    In this episode, Aimee explores something that she’s always been afraid to do - speak to her listeners directly. She shares her thoughts and insights about various topics and this episode, it’s about the hard things in life and why we should be empowered to handle them.
    Life is not always going to be a smooth ride, there will be bumps ahead but when you choose to look at it positively, you’re bound to enjoy and appreciate it more.
    THE DANGERS OF COMPARISONITIS
    We’ve all heard the term midlife crisis, society expects us to undergo a dilemma as we enter a certain age. But for Aimee, it’s better to call it “comparisonitis.” We live through the dangers of constantly comparing our lives with others, but this can be cured with time and good practice.
    Comparisonitis normally happens when we don’t feel secure with our lives or when we’re not happy with what’s going on. It’s easy to succumb to this phenomenon if we consistently engage in social media and compare other's “perfect” life with ours.
    What makes this worse is being surrounded by people who are judging you of where you are in life, this pressure leads us to believe that we are failing but in reality, everyone goes through hard things, but it’s not always broadcasted on social media. We have to take realize that we can do something about it.
    WHY OUR LIVES ARE BEYOND SOCIAL MEDIA
    We have to realize that we can do something about comparisonitis. This begins with the acknowledgment that what we see on social media has been perfectly curated, it’s not always a 100% accurate depiction of other’s real life.
    All we see is the end result, we don’t see the struggles and work they put in to get to where they are. You also have to kick the notion that you are failing just because your life is different from others.
    You have to accept that life is full of hard things, you may think that you’re a failure because you don’t have it easy, but that’s just how life is. Moreover, you are here because you can do hard things.
    You need to have your own success scale, so you’re not measuring success through the scale of others. What other people think of as success may not be what you deem as success. Figure out what you want and what you need in life to categorize your success scale.
    Life is hard, but you’re here, don’t waste your time comparing your life to others. Think about what makes you feel successful and do it.
    TWEET
    "You have to kick the notion that you are failing at life." #chasingdreams
    "You can do hard things." #chasingdreams
    "Don't use someone else's scale to measure your success, you have to come up with that scale." #chasingdreams
    "It is hard to be here, but you did it." #chasingdreams
    QUOTE
    "Just because something is difficult or hard doesn't mean you're failing at life."
    "You are here because you can do hard things."
    "What other people deem success may not be what you deem success."
    "Don't judge your life based on someone else's scale and criteria."
    LIFE IS A JOURNEY NOT A DESTINATION
    We have to keep in mind that life is a journey, it’s not a destination or a goal. Aimee has said this a couple of times, but it sure is worth repeating, “it’s all about the dream chase not the dream end goal and result.
    The ups and downs that we experience stay with us, they become core memories that eventually help us navigate life. We often look for shortcuts, but the problem with this is we miss out on the growth from working to get to our dreams.
    Just like in the butterfly analogy, butterflies have to go through the tough time of developing their wings while in the cocoon. This struggle helps them become strong and prepares them to take off. The same can be said for us humans, the difficulties we go through prepares us to course through...

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    Drew & Sylvia Nixon – Know You and Walk in it!

    Drew & Sylvia Nixon – Know You and Walk in it!

    Tap into yourself, figure out who you really are, and embrace that.
    In this episode, Sylvia and Drew Nixon, share the value of knowing who you really are and walking in your purpose. Life can get too noisy that we often miss the very thing that we would like to do, but we are given the opportunity to recognize our strength and learn the process of chasing our dreams.
    WHAT YOUNG DREW AND SYLVIA WANTED TO BE
    It’s always an interesting question when someone asks us what our dreams are when we were younger. Some of us may have varying dreams like Drew or one specific dream that will stay all throughout like Sylvia.
    Young Sylvia always knew she wanted to be an actress or a talk show host. She was even considered to be most likely to have a talk show like Oprah in her senior yearbook. Life eventually took a different turn for Sylvia but deep in her heart, she still has that dream.
    While for Drew, he was (on his own terms) “all over the place but not indecisive” when it comes to his dreams. He’s done a lot of different things thus his background is so colorful.
    Although he’s always believed that he can do anything, Sylvia has taught him how to hone a specific skill and know who he really is. It helped build his knowledge and his character.
    Now, Drew tells their daughter Chloe that he appreciates every single thing he ventured out when he was younger because it gave him the back-end knowledge and strategies in situations that demanded it.
    DREW and SYLVIA’S JOURNEY TO WHERE THEY ARE NOW
    When Sylvia was 19 years old she moved to New Jersey in the hopes that her dream of becoming an actress or a talk show host will come to pass. She’s always had the confidence that when she shows up, everything will change.
    There wasn’t a single negative thought in Sylvia’s mind during that time. She didn’t think that it was a very competitive world where it was difficult to get in. Sylvia knew that her dream was very natural for her and she just showed up. All she was thinking was that somebody was going to sign her up for projects.
    But as Sylvia mentioned, “it didn’t happen that way.” She came from a small town went to a big city with big dreams and big goals. It sure was a chasing dream moment, but Sylvia added, “it was a chasing dream moment without structure and planning.”
    This grandiose event in her life served as an eye-opener. Sylvia realized that she didn’t have to give up on her dreams, she just needed to go in a different direction.
    She started learning the ropes of the corporate sector and came back to Florida. Although not everything happened according to how she wanted it to be, it brought her acceptance that “without that dream coming to pass, it doesn’t mean that it’s not going to happen.”
    While Drew looks at life from a faith-based standpoint. For him, every encounter he had with life happened for a reason. He uses the turbulence analogy whenever we go through a crisis.
    Drew states that “turbulence is a constant reminder that there’s a movement happening and that there’s a destination you’re going to get to.” He embraces all the turbulence that he experiences and believes in the power of pivoting.
    Sylvia equates turbulence to new beginnings in our lives. The best example is when someone starts with a new job, she advises, “give yourself the grace to learn and to go through the process.”
    A pivot is a learning curve and we don’t always learn instantly, there has to be a process. We go through different seasons in our lives and when we know that a big change is imminent, we have to give ourselves time to comprehend the whole process.
    The process may feel uncomfortable but it’s necessary. Don’t be scared of the change because it allows you to go to a destination where you can cruise and roll with everything that comes your way.
    We’ve become so acquainted with movies or societal expectations that we’re led to believe that change is easy but in reality, it’s not. We..

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    Don’t Take For Granted There Is A Next Time

    Don’t Take For Granted There Is A Next Time

    We always believe that we have time to do things. We focus too much on the future that we forget to enjoy the present.
    In this episode, Aimee shares a personal experience with loss, grief, and the learnings she got from losing two people close to her heart. It is during the dark moments in our lives we realize that life shouldn't be taken for granted, and we need to make the most of it.
    THE PERSONAL EFFECTS OF WORLD-CHANGING EVENTS
    A few months ago, a friend of Aimee's passed away suddenly. This event threw her off, not even sure how, when, or what is happening. Then, another family member has passed around two and a half weeks ago.
    These personal and out-of-the-body experiences have brought her to a point of reflection. It felt weird because as she was getting updates from a family member fighting for her life in the hospital, everybody else was going about their normal, daily routines.
    With these situations, Aimee had a taste of reality that our lives can end instantly, and yet we still manage to take a lot of things for granted. She didn’t see these events coming, and her life has made a 180 degrees turn.
    But the thing is, we humans don’t dwell on the idea of death so when it happens, we and our family members are taken aback. This devastating event can be disastrous to our families, but we need to start thinking about how to make the most of our lives and not take things for granted.
    TAKING FOR GRANTED THAT THERE IS A NEXT TIME
    During the eulogy for their beloved family member, Aimee’s sister mentioned a compelling statement, “We mistakenly thought we had all the time in the world. We took for granted that there would be a next time.”
    Hearing this at a time when you just lost someone dear to you hits hard. We always think that we’ll always have time for the things that we’re putting off. You may know someone so dedicated to working and yet has no plans of enjoying the fruits of his labor until retirement.
    Instead of looking for a job that satisfies our soul, we stick to one that’s just okay because we believe that we have time for that in the future. Our mindset is always at having time to do the things we want in the future and not at this moment, at the present.
    As cliché as it may sound, we really don’t know what tomorrow will bring that’s why we need to enjoy our lives now. We’ll never know if we’re going to be as healthy as we are now than tomorrow.
    Don’t wait until you're old and regretful to try new things, to take the vacation you’ve been wanting, or to live the kind of life you’ve always wanted to live.
    TWEET
    “We don't know what tomorrow will bring.” #chasingdreams
    "If there's a trip you want to take, do it now when you can enjoy it." #chasingdreams
    QUOTE
    “We mistakenly thought we had all the time in the world. We took for granted that there would be a next time.”
    “We think that there will be a time for the things that we're putting off.”
    “I'm not saying it's easy, but I'm saying it's possible.”
    AIMEE’S TIPS FOR DREAM CHASERS
    With the sudden death of two loved ones, Aimee has had deep reflections that can help prepare for this distressing event. She gives a couple of tips to dream chasers.
    The first one is having a will. This is one way of giving your family peace at the time of a sudden demise. Depending on the state you’re in, there will be different rules and regulations on how a will is constructed.
    Also, find a lawyer that’s going to make the will legally binding and update it from time to time. You may meet different people or be under different circumstances and your will may need to be updated. This is a great recommendation, especially for people who have children since their last wishes have been defined.
    By having your will ready, you’re preventing family members from the problem of going through a difficult process. Indeed, it makes life easier because everything is filled out, and they just have to carry out your wishes.
    The second piece.

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    Daree Allen Nieves – Follow Your Multi-Passions

    Daree Allen Nieves – Follow Your Multi-Passions

    Chasing our dreams will demand persistence to learn and explore various options and oftentimes, it will call for multi-passion experiences.
    My good friend Daree Allen Nieves is back on Chasing Dreams. She was on episode 77 and now she’s here to tell us about her multi-passions. Daree has been doing a wide variety of things in her life and she encourages people to do the same. She shares how it helped her relationships, perspectives, and life in general.
    ONE THING THAT CHANGED IN DAREE’S LIFE and SHE’S HAPPY ABOUT
    Looking back on the five years since Daree has graced the Chasing Dreams podcast, she’s asked about one thing that has changed in her life that she has no complaints about.
    In a heartbeat, Daree answered, “I am allowing myself to do things or not do them and be okay with it.” She used to have a perfectionist mindset where everything she does should be excellent. Although this is perfectly okay, Daree realized that she’s become so rigid and there’s no more room for flexibility and enjoyment.
    One of Daree’s life examples is her podcasting journey. There was just too much pressure of releasing an episode. She needed to be committed to the hustle and prove to everybody else that she is indeed working hard.
    Until she came to a point in her life where she became at peace in not being too hard on herself, that she’s not going to beat herself up for not going through all the hassle to finish something.
    However, Daree’s actions are not an indication that she’s lost accountability. What she expresses is giving herself the freedom to loosen the chains of perfectionism and you don’t have to bombard yourself with information and sensory overload.
    Daree added, “just because you can do something, doesn’t mean that you necessarily should.” You don’t have to keep up with everybody else. This means that you need to evaluate what you need to prioritize and focus on it.
    QUOTES
    “Just because you can do something doesn’t mean that you necessarily should. You don't have to do all the things.”
    THE OUTCOMES OF THE HUSTLE CULTURE
    Glorifying the hustle culture has affected people’s mental health. We become so pressured about doing all things at once and doing them perfectly. People call themselves failures if they’re not able to follow the same exact path that others used to reach success.
    With the hustle culture, people wear themselves out to make sure they get everything accomplished. Others may say that an individual is not hustling because of having a day job.
    As Aimee stated, “my day job allows me to take care of my family, have insurance, and have these passions.” For someone who does a lot of things in her life, Daree declares that certain people in life will make you feel that “you’re not a legit entrepreneur unless you do it full-time.”
    She recognizes all the struggles and challenges that full-time entrepreneurs go through to ensure their business is successful. But for her, it’s important to go outside the business and learn new skills. She does this by broadening her horizons and committing to knowledge that can help her in future endeavors.
    WHY WE NEED TO BE MULTI-PASSIONATE
    In the two decades that Daree has stayed with her job, she wasn’t just working. She also became busy learning new skills such as podcasting, voice-over, writing a book, getting certified as a life coach, speaking engagements, and lots of other things.
    These skills became exceptional highlights when it came to looking for another job. It allowed her to showcase that she’s not a one-trick pony; too skilled in only one area yet doesn’t have anything else to offer.
    Daree acknowledges that it’s fine to not have all these side hustles, if a person wants to continue with his ways of making money, it’s perfectly okay.
    What she advises us is that there is beauty in trying new things and deciding whether it’s for you or not. If you’re starting as an entrepreneur, the first advice you will get i

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Customer Reviews

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57 Ratings

Joe V from Elmhurst ,

Inspiration through the power of belief

Aimee J has created a powerful platform that really gives the listener encouragement and inspiration through the unique stories. A wonderful channel to subscribe .. Aimee is so talented and has such a wonderful personality that she draws out thought provoking and inspirational points that applies to our everyday lives.

ltato ,

Great podcast!

Aimee J is inspiring, interesting and fun to listen to! This is just what I needed to get motivated to peruse my own dreams!

JoshCrist ,

Great podcast! Highly recommend!

This podcast is absolutely incredible! Regardless of whether you're an entrepreneur chasing your dreams or not - Aimee does a great job of sharing the truth behind what it takes to live the life you truly want and the mindset needed to transform ideas into reality. I highly recommend digging into this show if you're interested in personal growth, leveling up and joining a community committed to building a life you’re proud to call your own. Thank you Aimee!

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