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This podcast is about the childless not by choice demographic on a global level. If like me, you are childless not by choice, this podcast, my platform, is a place for you to find community and understanding.

Childless not by choice women and men can many times be misunderstood or ignored by society, and I want to change that.
I invite everyone to listen and to realize we are not all living the same lives. When we realize this, our minds will open up to the fact that we can treat each other with understanding, empathy, and grace.

Childless not by Choice Civilla M. Morgan

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    • 4.5 • 22 Ratings

This podcast is about the childless not by choice demographic on a global level. If like me, you are childless not by choice, this podcast, my platform, is a place for you to find community and understanding.

Childless not by choice women and men can many times be misunderstood or ignored by society, and I want to change that.
I invite everyone to listen and to realize we are not all living the same lives. When we realize this, our minds will open up to the fact that we can treat each other with understanding, empathy, and grace.

    Episode 142 -Seven Year Podcastiversary

    Episode 142 -Seven Year Podcastiversary

    Intro:
    What is today’s show about?
    My Podcastiversary!
     
    Hello Guys and Dolls, welcome to episode 142! And seven years! I had no idea I would still be podcasting. I had no idea I would still like it, never mind the fact that I absolutely still love it! 
    That clip you just heard, was me responding to the question of the month on The School of Podcasting podcast. It is one of the podcasts for podcasters that I listen to on a regular basis. In fact, I interviewed the host of that show a while back. I will put the link in the show notes.
     So, about the podcast: hearts are healing, minds are being refreshed, new people are finding the show, and childless not by choice people are boldly exploring new ways to live the childless not by choice life. 
    For instance: in episode 141 I spoke with Triathlete Rob Hutchings for our Father’s Day episode.  We talked about his journey to adoption and how that journey ended without a successful adoption. But he and his wife have decided to live their best most relevant lives hiking, swimming, and traveling. Oh, and I will be interviewing Rob’s wife for a future episode! 
    In episode 140, Hiding in plain sight? One of my long-time listeners posted in our Childless not by Choice with Civilla Morgan Facebook group that this episode spoke to her.  I really loved hearing that!  
    Over the past year we have discussed, the need for hope, in episode 139, pre-and peri-menopause, episode 138, and episode 137 where I spoke to Sheri Johnson about worth. Our worth as childless not by choice people. By the way, if you want to hear Sheri interview me, check out her podcast Awakening Worth, episode 57! Whew! I got some serious feedback on that episode. I really enjoyed it! 
    Going all the way back to January of this year, 2022, there were two episodes that month. Episode 136 where I stop by to say Happy New Year! And episode 135, Where I speak to the one and only Sarah Roberts, founder of The Empty Cradle. That was a lovely episode and a wonderful way to start the new year! 
    It’s been a fabulous year so far! But there is so much more coming! I am not even sure I will take my two-month hiatus! If I decide to, I will stop by to let you know. Stay tuned!   
    So look, I would like to say a great big THANK YOU to all of you who tune in every month. For those who are just finding the podcast and the platform, for those who tell others about the podcast. Thank you. 
    Spreading the word is what I really want to happen now. I want more childless not by choice people around the world to feel hopeful about their lives although things did not turn out as expected.  
    I want you to know that even when you are feeling down or negative about life, those feelings are fleeting. You are worthy. You have as much right to be here as anyone else.  Those thoughts and feelings come to the best of us. The key is to recognize them, but not entertain them. Don’t let them hang around for too long.  Manage your mind and your heart regularly. What you entertain and allow to hang around, is what can overwhelm you. So look to be overwhelmed in a positive way.  
    I want to tell you a couple more things: one, I am on Tik Tok! I fought it for so long, but I finally joined the platform. I am slowly building content and I already have a small following! I will tell you that I get so many jokes from that platform. I can be having a really bad day, but if I tune in just before bedtime, I will definitely get a laugh or two! What I like about the platform is that it really picks up on what I like, so I will seldom get any craziness in my feed. If you are on Tik Tok, please do follow. I would love to hear from you! Drop a hello from time to time!
    Also, one of the ways I really feel that getting the word out to every part of the world is using a podcast app that acts like a phone. And acting like a phone means the listener has the option to tune into the podcast by dialing in. The only app I am aware of that doe

    • 27 min
    Episode 141--Downriver Nomad, my Conversation with Rob Hutchings

    Episode 141--Downriver Nomad, my Conversation with Rob Hutchings

    Intro:

    Hello, and welcome to episode 141 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you, us, that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.   Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!    
    What is today’s show about?
    Rob Hutchings: ‘Downriver Nomad–A Triathlete’s Adventures and Adversities Into The Rapids’ 
     
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform on a monthly basis, my Patreon Contributors. 
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
    If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!
     
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice
    Jordan Morgan The Knights Your Name Here
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice

    Questions or comments? Contact me at:  
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.
     
    Intro (for guest episodes):
    Rob’s intro
    Triathlete and marathon swimmer, Rob Hutchings takes us on a whirlwind journey from triathlons and his first marathon swim in his home country of Canada, to Ironman competitions across the pond. Then down under to Australia and New Zealand where he embarked on marathon adventures off the beaten track, on land, and in the water, which led to his biggest challenge – an unprecedented attempt at swimming the turbulent 256 km Clutha River.
    In Downriver Nomad, Rob shares his story of adventures and adversities not only in the water, on the racecourse, and off the beaten track, but also his struggles with an alcoholic father and his own unsuccessful path to fatherhood.
    His is a story of humor, heartbreak, and challenges that will inspire the absolute beginner in adventure sports to the seasoned endurance athlete. Join Rob on his nomadic adventures in triathlon, marathon swimming, and adventure sports, packed with hairpin bends, whirlpools, rock dodging, and white-water rapids.
    Body of episode:
    Questions for Rob Hutchings: 
    ‘Downriver Nomad–A Triathlete’s Adventures and Adversities Into The Rapids’ 
     
    I thoroughly enjoyed your book and how you were able to combine your infertility journey with your passion for triathlon. It was beautifully done.  
    Tell us a little about the Australian adoption process, and how it is the way it is due to the history of ‘The Stolen Generation.’ (Pg 167)  
    So because of the Stolen Generation issue, Thailand is suggested. The process was harrowing! Then, not to give away too much of the book, you were advised to try adopting from Colombia (pg 169…). The whole process must have been more than stressful?


    Those unsolicited questions and suggestions. My goodness, a number of years ago I interviewed the founder of Waiting Wombs. She is out of Kenya. As I read some of the suggestions you all were given to try to have a baby, I thought back to that episode. It occurred to me that suggestions, unsolicited suggestions are global! How did you and your wife deal with this?  (Pg 147)  
    That trick question on the psych eval (pg 171). That was terrible! Every time I think about the grilling potential adoptive parents go through, I think about people who have kids naturally. They go through noth

    • 57 min
    Episode 140--Hiding In Plain Sight

    Episode 140--Hiding In Plain Sight

    Intro:

    Hello, and welcome to episode 140 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you, us, that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice lives.  
    Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!  
     What is today’s show about?
      Hiding in plain sight
     
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform on a monthly basis, my Patreon Contributors. 
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
    If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!
     
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice
    Jordan Morgan The Knights Your Name Here
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice

    Questions or comments? Contact me at:  
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.
    Read my social media post for the month of May. 
     
    Body of episode:
    This year I decided not to concentrate so much on Mother’s Day, but instead to concentrate on how those of us who are childless not by choice show up in the world, especially around days like Mother’s Day.   
    I would be remiss if I did not wish those listeners who are moms a Happy Mother’s Day. And of course, a very Happy Mother’s Day to our own moms, whether they are still with us or not. 
    As many of you know, my mom, my best friend, and favorite person ever; passed the week of Mother’s Day, 2019.  Talk about making a grand exit.  I miss her so much I still cry myself to sleep some nights. 
    Her birthday is at the end of March, but I promise you as soon as February hits my whole outlook on life changes. It’s like the sky just goes dim.  April, no biggie. And then comes May. 
    I miss trying to figure out what to buy her for Mother’s Day. She loved scarves and brooches. And she loved a certain perfume that I won’t bother to mention. She also loved all the music by The Gaithers, so I usually tried to get her their latest CDs. I loved shopping for her. 
    Happy Heavenly Mother’s Day mommy. I love and miss you. 
     I would also like to say Happy Mother’s Day Mexico as Mother’s Day Mexico is on May 10th. 
     Well, if your mom is still here, and you are able to reach out, please try to do so. I know some relationships are frayed, I get it. I will leave that to you. 
    Either way, this time around, this episode is for those of us who are childless not by choice during the month of May. 
    Those of us who may be hiding in plain sight, or maybe deciding to do something different on Mother’s Day. In fact, one of the ladies in our Facebook group for women only, the Childless not by Choice with Civilla Morgan Facebook group; asked what everyone does to get through Mother’s Day. The responses were varied. I loved that she asked the question. 
    Some responses included spending time with their own mothers, celebrating mothers in their lives, etc. If you have been listening long enough you know I stopped attending church on Mother’s Day. I had started going to my mom’s church with her to celebrate her. But now that she’s gone, I don’t go at all. Although I will probably watch online.           
    You know, when I think about hiding in plain sight, I think ab

    • 27 min
    Episode 139--More Hope Please! And Other Things!

    Episode 139--More Hope Please! And Other Things!

    Intro:

    Hello, and welcome to episode 139 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. It’s me, Civilla Morgan. Well, this is a minisode.  I had other plans for this episode, but since I had no plans to skip April, I decided to just go ahead with what I had. So if you will give me just a few minutes of your time, I promise it will not be a waste of time.    What is today’s show about:
    More Hope Please! And a few other things.
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform every month, my Patreon Contributors. 
     
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
     
    If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!


     
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice 
    Jordan Morgan The Knights Your Name Here
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice

    Questions or comments? Contact me at:  
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.



    Body of episode:
     
    I was interviewed by Sheri Johnson on her podcast Awakening Worth. Episode 57. Link in the show notes. I was asked by the Not a Momma Life Podcast to hijack them for one episode! How cool, right. You got it, link in the show notes. Have you read the quarterly newsletter? It’s the first newsletter of 2022. Do check it out. Subscribe for free on the website, www.childlessnotbychoice.net.   I’ve been trying to decide if I should get transcripts done for this podcast. I was advised by one listener that transcripts would be nice as English is a second language and some things got lost in translation when listening. I never thought about that. The initial reason I considered transcripts was for those who are hearing impaired. I have had one episode transcribed so far: episode 137. I will place the transcripts for episodes where I create transcripts, at the bottom of the show notes for said episodes. I may create a section on the website for transcripts at a future date. But for now, they will be in the show notes for said episode.   
    I am also going to be quite transparent with you: transcriptions are an additional cost to the platform. If you would like to make a contribution to the platform either for general costs or if you want to contribute specifically for transcripts, let me know. You may Paypal me at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. And of course, if you would like to give monthly, visit https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice thank you!     
    Reviews for good–podchaser.com, leave a review for this podcast and .25 cents will be donated to World Central Kitchen. If you are not familiar with WCK, they go to wherever in the world there is conflict and feed people. They put themselves in harm's way to feed people. They are currently in Ukraine. Thank you!  



    Transition to talk about hope: 
     
    Did we talk about hope in a prior episode? Maybe. But I think we can all use more hope, right? 
    What’s going on in the world–Have you thought of the fact that almost every country has some type of drama or conflict going on? I mean is it because we are more connected so that we know right away when something happens around the globe? Most likely. 
     
    Do you believe we can be stressed by other people’s stress?  Is there such a thing? I think so. I mean I have been glued to the news and to Twitter follow

    • 14 min
    Pre and Peri Menopause, Signs we may have missed!

    Pre and Peri Menopause, Signs we may have missed!

    Intro:

    Hello, and welcome to episode 138 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you that you can live a joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, life.  
    Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!  
     
    What is today’s show about?
    Pre- and peri-menopause 
     
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform on a monthly basis, my Patreon Contributors. 
     
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
    If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!


    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice 
    Jordan Morgan The Knights Susie Tiffany Your Name Here  
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice (Pull up site while I’m talking and go over the levels) 
    Jordan Morgan The Knights Your Name Here
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice

    Questions or comments? Contact me at:  
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.
     
    Body of episode:
    So, pre-and peri-menopause. I’ve been wanting to talk about this for quite some time. I hope this content helps you recognize signs you may have ignored or missed.  And how to deal.
    As I did the research for this episode, I realized this content might be quite triggering, so please know that upfront, and maybe wait to listen until you are in a good place. Maybe tomorrow you will feel better than today, for instance. Just FYI. 
    Remember to check the show notes for all of the links I used in the research for this episode.
     
    Let’s get started: 
    According to Let’s Get Checked:
    ‘Hot flashes, night sweats, mood changes, and difficulty having a good night's sleep; the signs and symptoms of menopause in women are all too well known by most but aren’t believed to be experienced by many until they hit their 50s; with 51 being the average age in the United States, according to Mayo Clinic [1].
    To set the record straight, menopause doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, your body can take a significant period of time before menopause to transition, this is known by experts as perimenopause or premature menopause by some. So if you’re experiencing menopause symptoms at a ‘not so’ menopausal age, this might be why; some women will notice certain shifts in their 40s and some might notice perimenopausal symptoms as early as their 30s.’
     
    Perimenopause, which translates to ‘around menopause, includes symptoms such as: 
    Vaginal dryness Irregular menstrual cycles or heavy periods Hot flashes A shift in cholesterol levels Sleep problems Other emotional symptoms can include:
    Irritability Lack of motivation Fatigue Mood swings or changes I don’t know about you but I never attributed fatigue to the possibility of peri-menopause. Probably because like many of you, my daily to-do list is as long as the day. We all have so much to do every day right? 
    Now the hot flashes, I can write a book! I take a supplement that seems to help. Because I am not a clinician, I will not mention any names. I will say that it is something I get from my local health food store. 
    I did a lot of research, taking many different types until I found one that actually worked. I went t

    • 24 min
    Episode 137--What is your worth? My conversation with Sheri Johnson

    Episode 137--What is your worth? My conversation with Sheri Johnson

    Intro:

    Hello, and welcome to episode 137 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you that you can live a joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, life.   Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!   What is today’s show about?
    What is your worth?
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform on a monthly basis, my Patreon Contributors. 
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
    If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!


    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice 
    Jordan Morgan The Knights Susie Tiffany Your Name Here https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice 
    Jordan Morgan The Knights Your Name Here
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice

    Questions or comments? Contact me at:  
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.
     
    Intro (for guest episodes):
    Sheri Johnson turned the pain of three miscarriages and six years of an infertility journey into a passion to inspire childless not by choice women to live full, unconventional lives of meaning. 
    She made the decision to use her coaching background to create a process for navigating the triggers. She teaches her process in 1x1 coaching and in her membership program. 
    Sheri says that women leave the program feeling empowered with practices they can use throughout their lifetime.  
     
    At the end of our discussion today Sheri will tell you how to obtain a free gift created just for you!  
     
    Hello Sheri, welcome to the show!
     
    You say that many women do not realize they are grieving, tell us what you mean by that?  
    Now this in itself may be triggering, but you say ‘Triggers can be a part of grieving’, how so?
    Tell us about some of the tools we can use to heal…           
               Mindfulness 
                Journaling
                Meditation
                Nutrition
                Essential oils
                The Bible
     
    When we spoke before recording, you said something that really intrigued me, that ‘women seem to just be waiting to get better…’
    Guess what you all? Sheri has a gift for you! 



    Sheri’s information:
    Free gift from Sheri: 
    www.sherijohnson.ca/quiz
    Contact info:
    @Awakening.worth 
    Podcast: Awakening Worth
     
    Quotes from Sheri:
    ‘...I’m open to the healing that’s meant for me.’
     ‘I’m responsible for building my self-worth.’
    ‘It’s not the person bringing the baby into the office that causes the pain, that person is triggering the pain.’
    ‘It’s like pressing on a wound that’s already there. They didn’t cause the wound, they are reminding you the wound is there.’
    ‘...we can try to educate the world about childlessness. There's a tendency to want to educate, but it’s like playing a game of whack a mole…it doesn’t matter how much we educate…the healing comes when we focus on healing our pain.’ 



    Articles/links of interest:
    https://www.rt.com/news/545233-pope-childless-pet-owners-selfishness/
    https://childlessnotbychoice.net/product/blueprint-for-your-goals-and-visio

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