Choosing Friendships: Being Accepted Heart & Soul

Martin: You're listening to Heart And Soul, a podcast from the Iglesia Ni Cristo Church of Christ. I'm your host, Martin Zerrudo, and I'll be interviewing young adults from across the world who are living Christian lives, but are also dealing with real world problems. This is Heart And Soul.







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Martin: Hey guys, you're about to listen to part two of "A Friend In Need." In part one, Vince and Amanda talked about how it's gotten harder to find the right kind of friends the older they get. We went over some articles that tackled the difference between online connections, their social media, versus the physical friendships that we can make in person. Now in part two, Vince tells us about the loneliest moment of his life, and how Amanda found the one place where she feels she can be her true, authentic self. Hope you enjoy.







Amanda: I said, “No, I can't. I can't do those things. I feel like it's wrong. And who knows what could happen to us, right?” And they’re just like, “No, nothing will happen. You'll just have fun.” And then I just kept saying no. And then, after a while, I could feel like they were being distant with me. And I was thinking in my head, “Did I say anything wrong, did I do anything wrong?” But I didn't approach them about it. I didn't bring it up. I just focused on what my priorities were, which was school and Church. And friends, people come and go in your life. And if they stay, that's great. If they don't, just move on, keep going forward. 







Martin: What was in your prayers during those times when they were really on you?







Amanda: During my prayers, I would always ask God for guidance and help in finding those friends who are true, who are genuine, and who won't tarnish my faith and won't tarnish my duties. 







Martin: Vince,was there ever a time that you prayed for the right kind of friends? Or to find friends?







Vince: Yes. Definitely, when I joined the Navy, and I had to essentially leave a lot of the things I had built behind. Granted, there's social media, right? So you can still maintain that. But that face, what we talked about before, that face-to-face interaction really plays a huge role in that. And so I had to leave all that behind. And once I moved to my duty station in Virginia Beach, it was just me. I had to try to find rides to go to Church, and didn't really have a ride because I just came out from boot camp. I was alone for the most part. I did have a friend out in Virginia Beach, who I grew up with when I was in Japan, and I thought I could count on her since I was there. And we were there, we had this connection back in childhood. But due to her own circumstances though, that didn't end up working out. 







Martin: What were you hoping she was going to be for you? 







Vince: I was hoping she was gonna be there for me, be my friend be able to be that medium to integrate me into the social life at Church, but it didn't happen. And so I felt really alone for the first year I was there, just because I didn’t have a ride. Sometimes the KADIWA (youth group in the Church Of Christ) would ask me to hang out. But I didn't have a ride, and I was still in school for my job. That's what I had to focus on. So I would just go home right after Church, and go home right after the meeting, because my ride was waiting for me. And so I didn't really have that much of an opportunity to hang out with anyone. It just continued on like that. 







Martin: How long?







Vince: About a year, until I was finally able to bring myself to these a href="https://incmedia.org/?