39 min
Choosing Happiness with Joe Kavanagh The Good Mood Show with Matt O'Neill
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- Mental Health
How do you choose happiness even in the most frustrating moments?
In this episode, happiness expert Joe Kavanagh describes an exercise you can use in any challenging situation to brighten your mood. Throughout the conversation Joe and Matt dive into topics such as the ego's need to be right, the concept of shifting perspectives, embracing a positive mindset, and choosing happiness.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
The ego’s need to be right
Embracing a positive mindset
The concept of shifting perspectives
Choosing peace over ego
Why listening is the key to happiness
[04:54] The Ego's Need to Be Right
The ego tends to assert the notion of being right and others being wrong. This urge to validate one's beliefs stems from a desire to prove oneself superior. The fear of losing value or worthiness compels individuals to cling to this idea. In childhood, mistakes were acceptable, and there was no concept of right or wrong. However, as we grow older, societal expectations begin to influence us, making us feel inadequate and unworthy. We start to believe that our worth is tied to being right, and we must continually prove ourselves to be valuable.
[16:23] The Concept of Shifting Perspectives
Material possessions, societal pressure to conform, and attachment to money can create an illusion of happiness, which is a con game. The discussion emphasizes that true happiness comes from being in the present moment and choosing to be happy. The conversation also touches upon how a calamitous event that may seem like a significant loss to the ego could be a massive gain for the soul with a shift in perspective. The speaker shares their personal experience of a big calamity in Q4 of last year and how it led to massive awakenings when they shifted their perspective.
[23:05] Choosing Peace Over Ego
In moments when someone cuts you off in traffic, you face a decision. You have a moment between the urge to respond impulsively and the opportunity to choose a peaceful response. The ego may want to assert itself and prove something, but it's up to you to make a conscious choice.
[25:43] Why Listening is the Key to Happiness
The secret to happiness lies in listening. We all have an innate desire to be heard, seen and understood. When we truly listen to others, they feel validated and uplifted. The key is not just to focus on our own happiness, but also to make those around us feel better. As the saying goes, "a rising sea raises all ships". By elevating others, we elevate ourselves. So let's strive to bring everyone up a little bit and create a rising tide of positivity and happiness.
Notable quotes:
[11:37] We started out with nothing. This could be a failure, we end up with nothing. But if you don't try, it's not going to happen. [11:44]
[14:44] Be in the present. And that's where I was going wrong. I was always living for the future, thinking things would get better. [14:53]
[26:05] It starts by making others feel better, because when they feel better, you feel better. [26:10]
Resources Mentioned:
Kavanagh Appraisal Company
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Or, reach out on our contact page at GoodMoodShow.com/Contact and we will email you a copy of any free resource you request.
About the Guest
Joe Kavanagh is the owner of Kavanagh Appraisal Company. Having been in the real estate space for 35 years, Joe takes all of his life and business experiences as he fulfills his purpose as a business coach, a mentor, and a trainer. He spent all this time learning how to be successful, and now, he is pouring it into the next group of people that are coming up.
How do you choose happiness even in the most frustrating moments?
In this episode, happiness expert Joe Kavanagh describes an exercise you can use in any challenging situation to brighten your mood. Throughout the conversation Joe and Matt dive into topics such as the ego's need to be right, the concept of shifting perspectives, embracing a positive mindset, and choosing happiness.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
The ego’s need to be right
Embracing a positive mindset
The concept of shifting perspectives
Choosing peace over ego
Why listening is the key to happiness
[04:54] The Ego's Need to Be Right
The ego tends to assert the notion of being right and others being wrong. This urge to validate one's beliefs stems from a desire to prove oneself superior. The fear of losing value or worthiness compels individuals to cling to this idea. In childhood, mistakes were acceptable, and there was no concept of right or wrong. However, as we grow older, societal expectations begin to influence us, making us feel inadequate and unworthy. We start to believe that our worth is tied to being right, and we must continually prove ourselves to be valuable.
[16:23] The Concept of Shifting Perspectives
Material possessions, societal pressure to conform, and attachment to money can create an illusion of happiness, which is a con game. The discussion emphasizes that true happiness comes from being in the present moment and choosing to be happy. The conversation also touches upon how a calamitous event that may seem like a significant loss to the ego could be a massive gain for the soul with a shift in perspective. The speaker shares their personal experience of a big calamity in Q4 of last year and how it led to massive awakenings when they shifted their perspective.
[23:05] Choosing Peace Over Ego
In moments when someone cuts you off in traffic, you face a decision. You have a moment between the urge to respond impulsively and the opportunity to choose a peaceful response. The ego may want to assert itself and prove something, but it's up to you to make a conscious choice.
[25:43] Why Listening is the Key to Happiness
The secret to happiness lies in listening. We all have an innate desire to be heard, seen and understood. When we truly listen to others, they feel validated and uplifted. The key is not just to focus on our own happiness, but also to make those around us feel better. As the saying goes, "a rising sea raises all ships". By elevating others, we elevate ourselves. So let's strive to bring everyone up a little bit and create a rising tide of positivity and happiness.
Notable quotes:
[11:37] We started out with nothing. This could be a failure, we end up with nothing. But if you don't try, it's not going to happen. [11:44]
[14:44] Be in the present. And that's where I was going wrong. I was always living for the future, thinking things would get better. [14:53]
[26:05] It starts by making others feel better, because when they feel better, you feel better. [26:10]
Resources Mentioned:
Kavanagh Appraisal Company
Download this week’s free resource instantly when you sign up for The Good Mood Show newsletter here!
Or, reach out on our contact page at GoodMoodShow.com/Contact and we will email you a copy of any free resource you request.
About the Guest
Joe Kavanagh is the owner of Kavanagh Appraisal Company. Having been in the real estate space for 35 years, Joe takes all of his life and business experiences as he fulfills his purpose as a business coach, a mentor, and a trainer. He spent all this time learning how to be successful, and now, he is pouring it into the next group of people that are coming up.
39 min