Choosing to Feel the Bad and the Ugly Loving On Purpose

Part of being human is being willing to feel all of our emotions; being an emotional adult is being willing to feel" the good, the bad, and the ugly" parts of our lives.  The Model is the most amazing tool.  By using it, you can feel any feeling you want to feel just by intentionally choosing to think thoughts that cause you to feel the feeling you want to feel.   But it can be misused.  First we have to feel the negative feeling.   Allow it to sit with us for a bit instead of resisting feeling it by drinking alcohol or going for a run.  If will do this, then the intensity of the negative emotion decreases.  I share with you my week this week of choosing to feel "the bad and the ugly" and  why it's not helpful to think a new thought before you give the negative feeling some attention.  I had trained my brain so well to default to thinking empowering thoughts so quickly that when a new crisis came into my life this week, I was consumed with negative emotions and my empowering thoughts had lost their power.  I had no choice but to hang out with all the negative feelings for several days.


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