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Leaders aren't born, they're made. This Monday show helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations. Independently produced weekly since 2011, Dr. Dave Stachowiak brings perspective from a thriving, global leadership academy, plus more than 15 years of leadership at Dale Carnegie. Bestselling authors, expert researchers, deep conversation, and regular dialogue with listeners have attracted 20 million downloads and the #1 search result for coaching on Apple Podcasts. Activate your FREE membership to search the entire episode library by topic at CoachingforLeaders.com

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Leaders aren't born, they're made. This Monday show helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations. Independently produced weekly since 2011, Dr. Dave Stachowiak brings perspective from a thriving, global leadership academy, plus more than 15 years of leadership at Dale Carnegie. Bestselling authors, expert researchers, deep conversation, and regular dialogue with listeners have attracted 20 million downloads and the #1 search result for coaching on Apple Podcasts. Activate your FREE membership to search the entire episode library by topic at CoachingforLeaders.com

    Help a Know-It-All Behave Better, with Mark Goulston

    Help a Know-It-All Behave Better, with Mark Goulston

    Mark Goulston: Talking to Crazy

    Mark Goulston is a Founding Member of the Newsweek Expert Forum and a Marshall Goldsmith MG100 Coach, who works with founders, entrepreneurs and CEOs in dealing with and overcoming psychological and interpersonal obstacles to realizing their full potential.



    He is the host of the My Wakeup Call podcast and was a UCLA professor of psychiatry for more than twenty years and is also a former FBI hostage negotiation trainer. One of his many bestselling books is Talking to 'Crazy': How to Deal with the Irrational and Impossible People in Your Life*.



    In this conversation, Mark and I discuss some of the key principles that are effective in diffusing difficult or irrational behavioral. When that behavior is coming from someone who seems to be a know-it-all, we explore three steps that will help you guide them towards better behavior.

    Key Points

    In his book, Mark writes about know-it-alls:

    They don’t say, “People think I’m a jerk, and I need to change my behavior.” Instead, they say, “People dislike me because they’re stupid and incompetent.” This convinces the know-it-alls that they need to double down on quashing the spirits of their victims.



    If you treat people like they are nuts are you are not, they will just bite down deeper on their thinking. Lean into their irrationality to change the dynamic.

    Most people react to know-it-alls by becoming defensive or sullen. You’re better to take to opposite approach.

    Start by genuinely recognizing the talents and know-it-all brings to the workplace.

    Lead a conversation about behavior change with them by first leading with a genuine compliment about their talents.

    Once that is established, describe how their actions are self-defeating in a way that reinforces the strength you’ve highlighted.



    Resources Mentioned



    Talking to 'Crazy': How to Deal with the Irrational and Impossible People in Your Life* by Mark Goulston

    My Wakeup Call podcast with Mark Goulston



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    Related Episodes



    How to Listen When Someone Is Venting, with Mark Goulston (episode 91)

    How to Manage Abrasive Leaders, with Sharone Bar-David (episode 290)

    Where You May Be Provoking Anxiety, with Erica Dhawan (episode 528)



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    • 32 min
    How to Engage a Remote Team, with Tsedal Neeley

    How to Engage a Remote Team, with Tsedal Neeley

    Tsedal Neeley: Remote Work Revolution

    Tsedal Neeley is a professor at the Harvard Business School. Her work focuses on how leaders can scale their organizations by developing and implementing global and digital strategies. She has published extensively in leading scholarly and practitioner-oriented outlets and her work has been widely covered in media outlets such as the BBC, CNN, Financial Times, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, and The Economist.



    She was named to the Thinkers50 On the Radar list for making lasting contributions to management and is the recipient of many other awards and honors for her teaching and research. She is the author of Remote Work Revolution: Succeeding from Anywhere*.



    In this conversation, Tsedal and I explore what the research shows us about productivity and fear around remote work. We highlight three key principles that leaders can lean in on in order to engage remote teams better. Plus, Tsedal provides practical examples on how almost any leader can put these principles into action.

    Key Points



    The research has been clear for decades that employees are more productive working remotely.

    Surveillance software and services are almost always a poor direction for leaders and organizations.

    Leaders should structure unstructured time for informal interactions — and should be the ones who initiate these conversations.

    Emphasize individuals and individual differences, even more so than you might in person. Avoid referring to people by their membership in subgroups.

    In addition to not shutting down conflict, leaders in remote settings need to force it, so the best ideas can emerge on the team.



    Resources Mentioned



    Remote Work Revolution: Succeeding from Anywhere* by Tsedal Neeley

    Tsedal Neeley’s website



    Interview Notes

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    Related Episodes



    How to Build Psychological Safety, with Amy Edmondson (episode 404)

    Transitioning to Remote Leadership, with Tammy Bjelland (episode 509)

    The Way Out of Major Conflict, with Amanda Ripley (episode 529)



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    • 36 min
    How to Make One-on-Ones Valuable, with Jonathan Raymond

    How to Make One-on-Ones Valuable, with Jonathan Raymond

    Jonathan Raymond: Good Authority

    Jonathan Raymond is the founder of Refound, where he and his team work with organizations to create a company culture based in personal growth. He’s the author of the book Good Authority: How to Become the Leader Your Team Is Waiting For*. He's also the creator of the Accountability Dial and the courses Good Accountability and Good Alignment.



    In this conversation, Jonathan and I discuss the importance of starting with the purpose for a role when considering how to approach one-on-ones. We frame the importance of elevation and linking professional activities with personal growth. Plus, we invite leaders to begin with a few, practical steps.

    Key Points



    Begin with the purpose of the role. Clarity on expectations and personal growth will both come from there.

    Utilize curiosity to begin to align on expectations and what’s next.

    Elevation is a key competency for managers in one-on-ones. Help employees link what the role needs and how their personal growth aligns to it.

    Be willing to stay flexible on how often and how long you meet for. There are times when more interaction may be wise, but one-on-ones should not take over your professional life as a manager.

    Few managers do this well. Even small movement to get better at supporting your employees can provide big returns in retention.



    Resources Mentioned



    Good Alignment course*

    Good Accountability course*

    Good Authority: How to Become the Leader Your Team Is Waiting For by Jonathan Raymond



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    How to Balance Care and Accountability When Leading Remotely, with Jonathan Raymond (episode 464)

    How to Define a Role, with Pat Griffin (episode 517)

    How to Help People Thrive, with Jim Harter (episode 532)



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    • 37 min
    The Art of Constructing Apologies, with Sandra Sucher

    The Art of Constructing Apologies, with Sandra Sucher

    Sandra Sucher: The Power of Trust

    Sandra Sucher is an internationally recognized trust researcher and professor of management practice at Harvard Business School. She studies how organizations build trust and the vital role leaders play in the process. Before joining Harvard, she was a business executive for 20 years, served on corporate and nonprofit boards, and has been Chair of the Better Business Bureau.



    As an advisor to the Edelman Trust Barometer, her research has been featured in several national publications. She is the author with Shalene Gupta of the book, The Power of Trust: How Companies Build It, Lose It, Regain It*.



    In this conversation, Sandra and I explore the three elements of a good apology in the professional setting. We also look at additional elements the research suggests may be useful in many places in our lives. Finally, Sandra highlights some ways we can do better on empathy in order to avoid situations where we destroy trust.

    Key Points

    Combine three elements for a good apology, especially in a professional setting:



    Acknowledgment of responsibility: The offender makes a statement that demonstrates they understand their part in the trust betrayal.

    Explanation: The offender describes the reasons for the problem.

    Offer of repair: The offender offers a solution for rebuilding trust.



    In addition, consider three more elements for apologies in any scenario:



    Expression of regret: The offender expresses how sorry they are.

    Declaration of repentance: The offender promises not to make the same mistake again.

    Request for forgiveness: The offender explicitly asks for pardon.



    To interrupt the reality that leaders tend to struggle with empathy:



    Reflect in writing with as much detail as possible about the people and situation in question.

    Ask yourself, “Am I being fair?”



    Resources Mentioned



    The Power of Trust: How Companies Build It, Lose It, Regain It* by Sandra Sucher and Shalene Gupta

    The Power of Trust website



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    Use Power for Good and Not Evil, with Dacher Keltner (episode 254)

    The Choice for Compassion, with Edith Eger (episode 336)

    The Way Into Difficult Conversations, with Kwame Christian (episode 497)



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    • 38 min
    How to Deal With an Unsupportive Colleague, with Bonni Stachowiak

    How to Deal With an Unsupportive Colleague, with Bonni Stachowiak

    Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed

    Bonni Stachowiak is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, a professor of business and management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, Bonni was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. She is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*.

    Listener Questions



    Mark asked our advice on how to navigate a sensitive situation with an unsupportive colleague.

    Geraldine wondered about how to implement management accountability with public sector employees.

    Samuel asked about building personal capacity.

    James asked if we were aware of resources for a leadership body of knowledge.



    Resources Mentioned



    7 Habits of Highly Effective People* by Stephen Covey

    Getting Things Done* by David Allen

    Center for Creative Leadership

    Greenleaf Center for Servant Leadership

    How to Win Friends and Influence People* by Dale Carnegie

    The Leadership Challenge: How to Make Extraordinary Things Happen in Organizations* by James Kouzes and Barry Posner

    Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM)



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    Eight Ways To Use Power For Good (episode 154)

    How to Balance Care and Accountability When Leading Remotely, with Jonathan Raymond (episode 464)

    How to Say No Without Saying No, with Lois Frankel (episode 471)

    How to Create Your Personal Vision (free membership required)



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    • 39 min
    How to Build Confidence, with Katy Milkman

    How to Build Confidence, with Katy Milkman

    Katy Milkman: How to Change

    Katy Milkman is an award-winning behavioral scientist and professor at The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. She hosts Charles Schwab’s popular behavioral economics podcast Choiceology, and is the co-founder and co-director of The Behavior Change for Good Initiative.



    Katy has worked with or advised dozens of organizations on how to spur positive change and her research is regularly featured in major media outlets such as The New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and NPR. She is the author of the book, How to Change: The Science of Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be*.



    In this conversation, Katy and I explore the research on confidence. We highlight some of the key tactics we can use to enhance our own feelings of confidence. Plus, we explore some of the ways that leaders may be able to support confidence-building in others.

    Key Points



    Self doubt affects our ability to take action.

    Our expectations shape reality. How we think about something affects how it is.

    Leaders can support those with less confidence by inviting them to be a mentor or coach for others.

    Set ambitious goals, but allow yourself a limited number of emergency passes when you slip up.

    Focus on personal experiences that make you feel successful or proud.



    Resources Mentioned



    How to Change: The Science of Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be* by Katy Milkman



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    The Way to Make New Behaviors Stick, with Marshall Goldsmith (episode 196)

    The Way to Be More Coach-Like, with Michael Bungay Stanier (episode 458)

    How to Change Your Behavior, with BJ Fogg (episode 507)



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    • 39 min

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Without question this is one of the best podcasts I have ever invested myself in listening to daily. I truly believe you can become a better leader, and overall person, by applying the principles discussed. I was referred to this podcast over a year ago after not being successful in interviewing for a new job. Dave’s stories and examples have been very helpful in getting my skillset where it needs to be in preparation for my next career opportunity. At the end of the day only the listener can improve themself through daily application. I highly recommend this podcast to anyone who wants to develop their leadership skills. You will not regret it!

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I've been listening to "Dave" since about episode 30 something and before he had kids. Every morning as I drive to work he and his guest speak into my ear about various elements of leadership. When Bonnie joins him once a month to answer questions it is a double pleasure. Her voice radiates sunshine (most of the time). Last fall my car radio wouldn't broadcast the podcast and I sensed the drought in my own approach to my ability to help shape future leaders.
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