91 episodes

Betrayal nearly destroyed us, but we found ways to rebuild the trust and restore our relationship--and we did it without splitting up! Now our marriage is much better than before.



We'll use our 20+ years of researching best practices to give helpful techniques for your own relationship.



***The (S) after the Episode number means it shouldn't trigger women who are hurting from betrayal. Even still, please use your best judgment.



--Lori and Jay, Relationship Mentors

Coffee with The Couple Cure Jay & Lori Pyatt

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.7 • 11 Ratings

Betrayal nearly destroyed us, but we found ways to rebuild the trust and restore our relationship--and we did it without splitting up! Now our marriage is much better than before.



We'll use our 20+ years of researching best practices to give helpful techniques for your own relationship.



***The (S) after the Episode number means it shouldn't trigger women who are hurting from betrayal. Even still, please use your best judgment.



--Lori and Jay, Relationship Mentors

    The 2nd Path SECRET (lessons learned to EASE your PAIN) – 5.12S

    The 2nd Path SECRET (lessons learned to EASE your PAIN) – 5.12S

    Struggling with tips that don’t help you HEAL? Maybe God has a unique plan for you, one that is key for long-lasting and UNBREAKABLE FREEDOM and JOY. Learn why your journey is different… and why that’s to your greatest ADVANTAGE. Watch to reveal this EXTRA-ordinary path.





    Timestamps:

    0:00 Welcome! Let’s get moving…



    0:47 Solution: A proven strategy for Trauma Healing



    0:59 Exploring the backstory (fun, deep and CREEPY)



    3:45 The first answer revealed (how to live)



    4:35 The Ultimate Answer revealed & The FIRST PATH



    5:44 The SECOND PATH: Going for it



    9:43 What sparks it? Understanding the trigger



    10:51 Faster Relief (from my journey to 4 key lessons)



    12:35 Can you relate? How to move forward





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    https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ - Jay and Lori's website

    https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ - Lori's site for betrayed partners

    https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery





    #betrayal

    #betrayaltrauma

    #betrayalrecovery

    #relationships

    #pornaddiction

    #marriageadvice

    He Relapses with No Remorse. What Steps Should You Take? – 5.11S

    He Relapses with No Remorse. What Steps Should You Take? – 5.11S

    This video offers a compassionate and practical approach to navigating an addicts relapse and lack of remorse, providing you with ways to foster healthier relationships. Join in and discover what JV does to find strength and resilience in the face of adversity.





    Timestamps:

    0:00 Intro & Question

    1:33 Main Answer Explained

    2:55 First steps

    3:25 When intuition suggests success

    4:10 Rejecting this... (if he won't talk to you)

    4:57 A needed type of physical touch

    5:37 Steps for your toughest questions

    5:57 Do this with your love... (outside the dynamic)

    6:27 Expanding your world

    6:56 Her most important move (extremely well, despite him)

    7:35 When you feel distant from God...

    8:06 Motivating positive change (this isolation)

    9:28 Sparking change in addicts (it doesn't have to mean...)

    11:16 Increase this healthy action

    11:40 More intimacy for a s-x addict?

    12:23 An alternative for lasting peace



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    https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ - Jay and Lori's website

    https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ - Lori's site for betrayed partners

    https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery



    #betrayal

    #relationships

    #pornaddiction

    #marriageadvice

    • 13 min
    Is He Using His PAST TRAUMA as a STALLING TACTIC? (Signs / 3 Solutions) – 5.10S

    Is He Using His PAST TRAUMA as a STALLING TACTIC? (Signs / 3 Solutions) – 5.10S

    If someone in your life says THEY CAN’T HELP HOW THEY ACT in relationship because of what happened to them in the past, we cover one way to tell, and offer a few solutions.

    Note: while this video is in response to someone’s question about their husband [after a CSAT said ‘disclosure would be a waste of time,’] the concepts can be used in your other relationships as well.





    Timestamps:

    0:00 Intro

    0:07 Question: Disclosure a WASTE OF TIME due to…? (“EMOTIONAL INVALID”)

    0:55 I explain EMPATHY Daily / I carry the load

    1:15 Answer on having to explain EMPATHY

    1:42 Solution: If counselor says DISCLOSURE is a waste of time

    2:05 Solution: HOW TO KNOW if his past trauma halts your healing

    3:00 Jay used past trauma to deflect (EMOTIONAL HIJACKING)

    3:24 The more he feels REAL FEELINGS…

    3:54 Answer regarding If he does have childhood trauma

    4:31 Solution & THE KEY SIGN for Lori



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    https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ - Jay and Lori's website

    https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ - Lori's site for betrayed partners

    https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery



    #betrayal

    #relationships

    #pornaddiction

    #marriageadvice

    • 5 min
    REBUILDING TRUST: 15 SIGNS Your Relationships are HEALING from Betrayal – 5.09S

    REBUILDING TRUST: 15 SIGNS Your Relationships are HEALING from Betrayal – 5.09S

    Ever wonder if your relationship has (or if your relationships have) healed from the trauma you’ve experienced?



    *Note that, while this video mainly talks about marital relationships, the concepts APPLY TO YOUR OTHER RELATIONSHIPS as well. If a well-meaning but uninformed friend, family member, counselor or church didn’t understand what you were going through, we'll share some signs to know it might be safe to trust the relationship again.*



    While this video is not a definitive list, it covers 15 signs we noticed in our own marriage, as well as things our clients exhibit as trust is rebuilt.



    Timestamps:

    0:00 Introduction & Disclaimer

    0:40 (1) This thinking changes

    2:07 (2) “I’m gonna do this no matter what!”

    2:54 (3) Accepting he is an addict (and what Lori used to think)

    4:20 (4) Allies

    5:01 (5) When he appreciates…

    5:46 (6) Triggers

    7:21 (7) Treating you as an equal, not as…

    8:28 (8) His engagement in the relationship (not abdication, but also not…)

    9:45 When Jay elbowed his way into our spiritual life together

    10:08 Solution: Guys do this to help her heal

    10:32 (9) Taking your feedback

    11:24 (10) An early sign the relationship is healing—and the ‘her pain’ word picture that makes Lori cry

    13:56 (11) When bad conversations are rare because of this…

    15:32 (12) Recovering after bad conversations

    16:12 (13) Peace, here

    16:37 (14) He burned your life down, but…

    17:27 (15) The ultimate thing that can give you peace in your relationship



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    https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ - Jay and Lori's website

    https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ - Lori's site for betrayed partners

    https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery



    #betrayal

    #relationships

    #pornaddiction

    #marriageadvice

    • 18 min
    15 Signs You’re Healing from Betrayal Trauma – 5.08S

    15 Signs You’re Healing from Betrayal Trauma – 5.08S

    ***Disclaimer: You may have signs of healing that are not on this list. This list is not definitive; it’s just what we have seen in our work with betrayed partners of porn addicts / sex addicts.***



    Ever wonder if you’ll know when you’ve healed from the trauma you’ve experienced? This video covers many signs Lori noticed in her own life, and that our clients exhibit as they recover as well.



    Timestamps:

    0:00 Intro and *Disclaimer* (and what to expect)

    1:04 1-Your creativity will…

    3:05 2-Techniques that work for you

    3:35 3-Playing again

    4:36 4-Regarding the brain fog

    5:22 5-Problems with computers/phones

    6:43 6-Regarding your household tasks

    7:31 7-When you sleep at night

    8:35 One thing that increases brain fog

    9:05 8-You and Grace

    10:01 9-When you say, “I matter”

    10:39 10-Happiness or manic-ness (I used to fake it)

    11:21 11-The smaller joys

    12:33 12-Your triggers

    12:44 13-New experiences (a client story)

    13:53 Your triggers, revisted

    16:01 14-Things that concerned you before…

    16:31 15-Getting excited about… (and our cat, Morgan)



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    https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ - Jay and Lori's website

    https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ - Lori's site for betrayed partners

    https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery



    #betrayal

    #relationships

    #pornaddiction

    #marriageadvice

    • 18 min
    Does He Really Not Know? (‘I have to ask the right questions) – 5.07S

    Does He Really Not Know? (‘I have to ask the right questions) – 5.07S

    Sometimes addicts answer with “I don’t know” to questions like, “when did it start?” “how often?” and “did you ever see ___?” And his not knowing can leave the betrayed partner feeling very skeptical. Is it possibly he really doesn’t remember? This video dives into that question.



    Timestamps:

    0:00 Intro

    0:07 Question: Do porn addicts really not remember some specifics?

    0:23 What one CSAT said (it IS possible)

    1:21 Jay’s memories

    1:44 When betrayed partners have to ask just the right question (openness)

    2:37 One caution to porn/sex addicts



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    https://thecouplecure.com - Jay and Lori's website

    https://pornpainhealed.com - Lori's site for betrayed partners

    https://porniskillingme.com - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery



    #betrayal

    #relationships

    #pornaddiction

    #marriageadvice

    • 3 min

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