21 min

The Power of "NO‪"‬ Courage Queen- Christian Entrepreneur, Sales Confidence, Faith & Growth, Devotionals for Women

    • Entrepreneurship

This weeks topic is strategy, verbiage and harnessing the power of "NO". Whether a friend is asking you for a personal favor, declining a social gathering you’d rather not attend,  boss is asking you to take on extra work and so many more examples, Justine gives you her power words to feel confident in your NO and have the courage to put YOU first. 
Following these strategies help:
Be clear when saying no. Saying things like “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” comes across as wishy-washy and uncertain.

Be honest about saying no. Lying about why you’re saying no to someone’s request can make you feel guilty and nothings worse than getting caught in it.

Don’t procrastinate. By telling someone no right away, you allow the other person to make other plans, just do the right thing girl.

Don’t make excuses or defend yourself. Remember that you have the right to say no.
Stop asking permission. An assertive no is not preceded with “Do you mind if I don’t . . . “ or “Will you be mad if I say no?, "Is this okay?"

Strengthen your no. If you’ve been saying yes to most requests for a long time, people likely won’t accept your refusal the first time you say no and they may push for a yes. Respond with a strong refusal, such as, “No, as I’ve said, I’m not willing to do that”.
As children we are also taught not to go against authority, we fear that if we don’t obey we will be punished so that starts the cycle of desire to please and be loved and we carry  into adulthood. 
Psychologically the inability to say no is directly linked to the need to seek this approval from others. Somewhere along the line we did not feel we could get love simply by being ourselves. 
Inability to say no it can lead to” Bad relationships (manipulation), passive aggressive behavior.
Is a person who always says yes healthy themselves? codependent? 
Lets Normalize no without feeling guilty or saying Sorry. 
Justine's verbiage...
“I’m so excited for you, have a fabulous time, I’ll be thinking of you even though I’m not able to be there”  OR I won’t be able to make it, Im grateful for the invite and its not a no forever but it is a no for right now. 
“That sounds amazing, its just not something I can commit to right now” OR “Im not comfortable doing that”
Setting Boundaries at work, To your boss: 
“Thank you so much for thinking of me for the project, i was planning on spending the rest of week working on the other two projects you’ve given me that are due really soon but Im happy to re-prioritize if you let me know which is most urgent"
To a co-worker:
Thanks for thinking of me to help plan the work fundraiser, it sounds really fun. Unfortunately Im at my capacity for the week but maybe one of the other coworkers is free to help
When someone says something racist or hateful: “No, thats not ok. Or just "WOW" with silence. Don’t waste words on someone who deserves your silence. Sometimes the most powerful things to say are nothing at all. 
OR  "Lets choose something else to talk about”
If this is a repeated matter :“As I have shared before the answer is no, I thank you in advance for respecting my wishes to Not bring this up again. “
Last tips: 
-Practice Saying “no” in small; unimportant situations like not buying something at a store.
-Before you say yes , “ I would like a couple days to pray/think on this and assess my priorities and schedule so I can give it my absolute best, may I will let you know within 24 hours."
- Ask yourself how bad the anxiety, guilt and disappointment etc you might feel if you don’t do what is being asked of you? Can you tolerate them? 
-Seek a healthy mentor to share the decision 

Podcast Photography: Captured by Jenilee
Music: Laura Eister

This weeks topic is strategy, verbiage and harnessing the power of "NO". Whether a friend is asking you for a personal favor, declining a social gathering you’d rather not attend,  boss is asking you to take on extra work and so many more examples, Justine gives you her power words to feel confident in your NO and have the courage to put YOU first. 
Following these strategies help:
Be clear when saying no. Saying things like “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” comes across as wishy-washy and uncertain.

Be honest about saying no. Lying about why you’re saying no to someone’s request can make you feel guilty and nothings worse than getting caught in it.

Don’t procrastinate. By telling someone no right away, you allow the other person to make other plans, just do the right thing girl.

Don’t make excuses or defend yourself. Remember that you have the right to say no.
Stop asking permission. An assertive no is not preceded with “Do you mind if I don’t . . . “ or “Will you be mad if I say no?, "Is this okay?"

Strengthen your no. If you’ve been saying yes to most requests for a long time, people likely won’t accept your refusal the first time you say no and they may push for a yes. Respond with a strong refusal, such as, “No, as I’ve said, I’m not willing to do that”.
As children we are also taught not to go against authority, we fear that if we don’t obey we will be punished so that starts the cycle of desire to please and be loved and we carry  into adulthood. 
Psychologically the inability to say no is directly linked to the need to seek this approval from others. Somewhere along the line we did not feel we could get love simply by being ourselves. 
Inability to say no it can lead to” Bad relationships (manipulation), passive aggressive behavior.
Is a person who always says yes healthy themselves? codependent? 
Lets Normalize no without feeling guilty or saying Sorry. 
Justine's verbiage...
“I’m so excited for you, have a fabulous time, I’ll be thinking of you even though I’m not able to be there”  OR I won’t be able to make it, Im grateful for the invite and its not a no forever but it is a no for right now. 
“That sounds amazing, its just not something I can commit to right now” OR “Im not comfortable doing that”
Setting Boundaries at work, To your boss: 
“Thank you so much for thinking of me for the project, i was planning on spending the rest of week working on the other two projects you’ve given me that are due really soon but Im happy to re-prioritize if you let me know which is most urgent"
To a co-worker:
Thanks for thinking of me to help plan the work fundraiser, it sounds really fun. Unfortunately Im at my capacity for the week but maybe one of the other coworkers is free to help
When someone says something racist or hateful: “No, thats not ok. Or just "WOW" with silence. Don’t waste words on someone who deserves your silence. Sometimes the most powerful things to say are nothing at all. 
OR  "Lets choose something else to talk about”
If this is a repeated matter :“As I have shared before the answer is no, I thank you in advance for respecting my wishes to Not bring this up again. “
Last tips: 
-Practice Saying “no” in small; unimportant situations like not buying something at a store.
-Before you say yes , “ I would like a couple days to pray/think on this and assess my priorities and schedule so I can give it my absolute best, may I will let you know within 24 hours."
- Ask yourself how bad the anxiety, guilt and disappointment etc you might feel if you don’t do what is being asked of you? Can you tolerate them? 
-Seek a healthy mentor to share the decision 

Podcast Photography: Captured by Jenilee
Music: Laura Eister

21 min