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Driven women have a hard time balancing their self-care and personal life with their professional goals. Each week join Alexandra Jamieson, master coach, professional creative, mom, and author, as she interviews guests who share tools, inspiration, and creative solutions while pulling back the curtain on how they run their own lives and overcame their own obstacles. If you're a driven woman, want to share your unique voice and talents with the world, and stay sane, healthy, and grounded while doing it, this is the podcast for you.

Her Rules Radio Alexandra Jamieson

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Driven women have a hard time balancing their self-care and personal life with their professional goals. Each week join Alexandra Jamieson, master coach, professional creative, mom, and author, as she interviews guests who share tools, inspiration, and creative solutions while pulling back the curtain on how they run their own lives and overcame their own obstacles. If you're a driven woman, want to share your unique voice and talents with the world, and stay sane, healthy, and grounded while doing it, this is the podcast for you.

    261: End Shame & Imposter Syndrome with the All-In Method

    261: End Shame & Imposter Syndrome with the All-In Method

    Ever struggle with shame?
    Imposter Syndrome? 
    Yeah, me too. 
     
    When a client experiences shame, they live in constant fear of being rejected. And they become trapped in the avoidance strategies they create to escape the pain.
    However, shame left untreated grows more powerful. And it can often lead our clients into behaviors that invite even greater shame.
     
    I’m going to show you the ONE thing that has been studied and shown to dissolve them BOTH - the ONLY studied method used by professional trauma therapists and researchers…
     
    AND I’m going to show you how the All-In Method, the tool at the heart of our book Radical Alignment, works to dissolve BOTH.
     
    HUGE new info coming to my attention:
    Bessel Van Der Kolk, author of the body keeps the score, in a special course from The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine
     
    The one counterintuitive technique that removes the fear of rejection from shame… it’s the same one that dissolves imposter syndrome…SHARING YOUR SHAME AND FEAR OF BEING SHAMED WITH SOMEONE SAFE, IN A NON-JUDGMENTAL SPACE.
     
    Impostor syndrome is often comorbid with depression and anxiety and is associated with impaired job performance, job satisfaction, and burnout 
     
    Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, fraud syndrome, perceived fraudulence, or impostor experience) describes high-achieving individuals who, despite their objective successes, fail to internalize their accomplishments and have persistent self-doubt and fear of being exposed as a fraud or impostor.1 People with impostor syndrome struggle with accurately attributing their performance to their actual competence (i.e., they attribute successes to external factors such as luck or receiving help from others and attribute setbacks as evidence of their professional inadequacy.
     
    People with impostor syndrome had fears that were significantly related to maintaining their social standing and not wanting to display imperfection to others
     
    The only studied method for helping people with Imposter Syndrome is sharing your fears and concerns in a safe space.
    A 1985 paper by Matthews and Clance qualitatively described their experiences in private practice caring for 41 people with impostor feelings.53 They recommended validating patients’ doubts and fears, directly addressing fears of failure, and providing group therapy since these patients often feel isolated and that they alone experience impostor feelings;
     
    SO: HOW can you start to implement this in your life?
    Use the All-In Method from our new book, Radical Alignment:
    Intentions
    Concerns
    Boundaries
    Dreams
     
    I’ve seen it work again and again in my marriage and in parenting my son.
    We now have a safe structure and habit of communicating our fears.
    Order your copy of Radical Alignment and share your receipt number at RadicalAlignmentBook.com to get a bonus workshop with me and co-author/hubby Bob Gower!
     

    • 23 min
    260: Tough Talks Challenge! All-In Method for your emotional conversations

    260: Tough Talks Challenge! All-In Method for your emotional conversations

    Need to have a talk about a tough topic? This show is for you!
    Welcome back to Her Rules Radio where you come to learn how to live life by your own rules!
    Today’s show is brought to you by my new book, co-authored with my incredible husband Bob Gower, Radical Alignment, how to have game-changing conversations that will change your business and your life!
     
    SOOO excited to be back here with you, talking again - I took a little summer break and now we are basically back here in Season 6 (yes, coming up on our 6th anniversary of this show!)...
     
    If you’re listening for the first time, or the first time in a long time, I grew up in a radio station - my mom had her own organic gardening radio show for 10 years, and every once in a while I would go on the show and do a “children’s gardening” episode with her! My older brother brendan was her sound engineer, so it was a family affair!
     
    Even though we were a creative, often collaborative family, there’s one thing I didn’t really learn growing up with my fam:
     
    How to have tough, emotional, or high-stakes conversations that felt safe, where everyone could be bravely vulnerable.
     
    It’s part of why Bob and I finally wrote this book - RAdical Alignment.
     
    You know those skills you wish you'd mastered earlier in life?
    ME too.
     
    I didn't learn how to gracefully talk about emotional topics until well into adulthood. Important conversations would veer wildly from where we started, and it felt so dangerous.
     
    Maybe you grew up in a family where any past mistake could be brought up again. Maybe you didn't have space to talk. Maybe one person would dominate conversations so you felt like "what's the point?"  


    Emotional conversations were hard for me until my late 30s because I always felt I had to argue my points and “win” - and that never felt right to me. I would show up to conversations with people I cared about, friends or family or even business colleagues, and I would feel like I was trying to be fair and generous, and maybe the other person was out for blood! The heart of our book Radical Alignment is The All In Method, which helps each person commit to sharing their intentions, concerns, boundaries and dreams about a topic. It’s not about arguing points, or “winning” - it’s a format to collect information so you don’t avoid talking about really valuable emotional stuff that sits underneath all important things. YES - emotions matter and they’re always present! I grew up thinking emotions were bad, or invalid or even unfair to bring into conversations. But we are all human! EVERYONE has emotions. So our AIM helps you share them in a respectful, safe way where people are able to listen to each other better than ever before. Another thing that kept me from bringing up tough topics? Things going off the rails! Has this ever happened to you? You start talking about one tough topic, and the other person brings up something completely different that happened in the past, and now you’re arguing about something completely different. 



    In our book Radical Alignment we show you how to set up a conversation with another person or people so that you all agree in the beginning on the topic, so you can come back to it if things feel like they’re getting off course. It's such a relief!  I like to think of it as a linear process for emotional topics. When you have a shared map - ok, everyone we are agreeing at the start to share our intentions, then our concerns, then our boundaries, and then our dreams, and everyone gets the same amount of time, and no one will talk over each other - we are just hear to listen to each other … With THAT roadmap? Totally new outcomes are possible. 


    One of the tough conversations we are in as a family, and that’s me and my husband, my son, and his dad and step-mom, is wha

    • 18 min
    How To Design A Better Future with Angie Lee

    How To Design A Better Future with Angie Lee

    Today’s show will be the last one for a couple of months. I’m taking a summer break before the August 2020 release of my new book, Radical Alignment, co-authored with my husband, Bob Gower. Today’s show has everything to do with design--and we are going far beyond kitchen remodels.

    Angie Lee is an architect, partner, and Design Director of Interiors at FXCollaborative in NYC. Angie knows the importance of design and how it is a part of everything in our lives.

    • 52 min
    Dr. Anna Cabeca Going Keto Green for Womxn

    Dr. Anna Cabeca Going Keto Green for Womxn

    Today’s guest is my gold star doctor guest and one of my favorite people. Her philosophy is that being healthy and vital involves the whole human being, and it’s not all about weight loss.

    Dr. Anna Cabeca is “The Girlfriend Doctor.” She works with thousands of women to help them understand and improve their health and manage their hormones. She’s written two books and done exhaustive research to find solutions to help women reclaim their vibrancy, sexuality, health, and happiness. 

    • 32 min
    The Kids' Book We All Need Right Now: Rebekah Borucki and Zara’s Big Messy Bedtime!

    The Kids' Book We All Need Right Now: Rebekah Borucki and Zara’s Big Messy Bedtime!

    Today, we’re very happy to have Rebekah (Bex) Borucki joining us on the show. Bex’s mission in life is to make mental-health support and stress-management tools accessible to everyone. For the last ten years or so, she has been doing this in several powerfully creative (and sometimes exhausting) ways. In recent years, however, she has felt moved to pivot most of her work and become a writer of children’s books. Bex has a powerful message to share. Her inspiring story is sure to uplift and encourage yo

    • 37 min
    Creating and Community with Artist Lindsay Katt

    Creating and Community with Artist Lindsay Katt

    Lindsay Katt is a brilliant example of what it means to be unapologetically yourself, as well as a colorful illustration of an artist. As a musician, filmmaker, painter, and master of doing things, Lindsay shares what it means to use your voice unapologetically in a way that resonates with others. She discusses how to use art to improve the lives of those around you, strategies to deal with creative blocks, and how to know when we should violate social rules. 

    • 57 min

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