16 min
Dealing with a conflict averse boss The Strategic What Podcast
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In this episode, we discuss how to deal with an extremely appeasing boss, often called overly democratic or even conflict adverse leader.
This is the boss who struggles with conflict and often tries to manipulates his team to achieve his own objectives. This type of manager believes that they need to have approval and consensus of their team to implement any changes. However, they use “consensus” as a way to achieve their own goals, manipulating the team until they reach his desired outcomes.
Usually, this type of manager has some very interesting characteristics. First, they need to be on good terms with everyone, and don't accept confrontations and fights, being extremely averse to conflict.
Then, they tend to be very confused when delegating work to his team. "Do this, but also do that" - they say, giving conflicting instructions to his subordinates.
Finally, they have difficulty managing team work, ending up with enormous to-do lists that keep growing, but never get resolved. This is because of their enormous difficulty to say “no”, making impossible to prioritize, classify and plan their team work.
But, how do you deal with this manager? Here are a few pointers:
Understand and accept that that it's their way of operating in the world. It’s not your job to change their behavior. Understand that this is a person who deals well with relationships, but has enormous difficulty saying “no” and dealing with details. Understand that this person constantly struggles to manage the expectations of their executive and is always under pressure for their inability to deliver what is important. Learn to limit your availability and identify what is really important from your own point of view. So, you can build your own track record. In the end, what counts are the results you are bringing to the company and your team. THE ONE TAKE AWAY FROM THIS EPISODE
How to identify and deal with conflict adverse managers. LINKS & TOOLS FROM THIS EPISODE
Listen to more episodes: https://rodrigocaetano.com/podcast Send me a message: podcast@rodrigocaetano.com Schedule a Mentoring Session with Rodrigo: https://rodrigocaetano.com/schedule-session/
In this episode, we discuss how to deal with an extremely appeasing boss, often called overly democratic or even conflict adverse leader.
This is the boss who struggles with conflict and often tries to manipulates his team to achieve his own objectives. This type of manager believes that they need to have approval and consensus of their team to implement any changes. However, they use “consensus” as a way to achieve their own goals, manipulating the team until they reach his desired outcomes.
Usually, this type of manager has some very interesting characteristics. First, they need to be on good terms with everyone, and don't accept confrontations and fights, being extremely averse to conflict.
Then, they tend to be very confused when delegating work to his team. "Do this, but also do that" - they say, giving conflicting instructions to his subordinates.
Finally, they have difficulty managing team work, ending up with enormous to-do lists that keep growing, but never get resolved. This is because of their enormous difficulty to say “no”, making impossible to prioritize, classify and plan their team work.
But, how do you deal with this manager? Here are a few pointers:
Understand and accept that that it's their way of operating in the world. It’s not your job to change their behavior. Understand that this is a person who deals well with relationships, but has enormous difficulty saying “no” and dealing with details. Understand that this person constantly struggles to manage the expectations of their executive and is always under pressure for their inability to deliver what is important. Learn to limit your availability and identify what is really important from your own point of view. So, you can build your own track record. In the end, what counts are the results you are bringing to the company and your team. THE ONE TAKE AWAY FROM THIS EPISODE
How to identify and deal with conflict adverse managers. LINKS & TOOLS FROM THIS EPISODE
Listen to more episodes: https://rodrigocaetano.com/podcast Send me a message: podcast@rodrigocaetano.com Schedule a Mentoring Session with Rodrigo: https://rodrigocaetano.com/schedule-session/
16 min