37 episodes

A bite-sized podcast for women who wish to use the difficult relationship they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth

Reveal patterns. Heal shame. Transform legacies.

Dear Adult Daughter Karen C.L. Anderson

    • Self-Improvement
    • 4.8 • 8 Ratings

A bite-sized podcast for women who wish to use the difficult relationship they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth

Reveal patterns. Heal shame. Transform legacies.

    MYTH: apologies and forgiveness are necessary

    MYTH: apologies and forgiveness are necessary

    Decide how you want to show up in the relationship. How often do you want to see and talk to her (if at all)? What boundaries are needed? How will you communicate them?

    Ask yourself how you need to feel in order to show up that way. Do shame, guilt, and anxiety help? Probably not, so what emotions, when felt intentionally, will help you show up as the grown-ass adult daughter you want to be (if that is how you want to show up)? What emotions will help you establish and maintain healthy, mature boundaries?

    Ask yourself what you need to believe in order to feel that way. Your thoughts and beliefs, and the identity you've created with those thoughts and beliefs, may not serve your goal. Knowing the story you have about who you are in relation to her allows you to change it.

    Everything else flows from there.

    That's it.

    This is totally doable on your own.

    If you'd like to speed up the process and have some compassionate accountability as you go, hire me as your guide and witness. The Mother Lode is a six-month 1:1 program designed to be a safe, compassionate container for you to do the most powerful and life-affirming work there is...and for me to see you as the person you want to be, not just in your relationship with your mother, but in your life. Reply to this email with questions or click here to set up a call to discuss working together.


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    • 7 min
    Anger & Revenge

    Anger & Revenge

    The Lima Bean Story (podcast or blog)

    Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal

    Email me and I'll send you four of my favorite somatic practices

    Click here to schedule a clarity call. What happens on a Clarity Call? You share your story with me, you get clarity on your situation, and we identify next steps and obstacles that might be in the way. If appropriate, we can discuss working together.


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    • 17 min
    To be able

    To be able

    Click here to schedule a clarity call. What happens on a Clarity Call? You share your story with me, you get clarity on your situation, and we identify next steps and obstacles that might be in the way. If appropriate, we can discuss working together longer term.


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    • 3 min
    A brave, middle path

    A brave, middle path

    A Woman Is No Man by Etaf Rum

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    Click here to schedule some time for a virtual coffee date (via Zoom) so we can explore what you’re wanting to accomplish.


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    • 5 min
    The most life-affirming thing you've ever done

    The most life-affirming thing you've ever done

    My clients are successful, creative women who establish and maintain healthy, mature boundaries; no longer rush to the less-than position in their relationships; and choose to express themselves clearly and cleanly. They have achieved a significant level of success by following the rules and now they’re choosing to be more authentic and vulnerable in public knowing they can handle haters and critics (even their mothers).

    There are two ways to do the work with me:

    The Mother Lode: is a six-month deep dive into your maternal lineage and more with the goal of revealing and healing painful patterns and stories, and transforming your legacy so you can show up in your life as the magnificent woman you are. This offer is for women who want to use the troubled relationship they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth.They want to take their time and lay a solid foundation for their future selves.

    Boundaries For Life: is an 8-week intensive with the goal of establishing and maintaining healthy, mature boundaries. This offer is for women who want to get it done (and now is a perfect time, with the holidays right around the corner) especially if you tend to shrink back, crumple, fold, or hide the minute someone challenges your boundaries.

    Click here to schedule some time for a virtual coffee date (via Zoom) so we can explore what you’re wanting to accomplish.


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    • 5 min
    How to handle it when your brain thinks horrible thoughts

    How to handle it when your brain thinks horrible thoughts

    This episode in response to questions asked about this episode: When you're accused of the thing you're most afraid of being accused of.

    Mentioned: The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris

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    My name is Karen C.L. Anderson and I am an adult daughter, with the emphasis on adult. I am also the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns.

    In this podcast I answer questions from readers, tell stories, give advice, and share the tools and processes I’ve used to heal my relationship with my mother.

    What started out as one of the most painful aspects of my life, something I saw as permanent and forever limiting, has turned into the greatest catalyst for my growth, wisdom, creativity, and joy.

    I did that. I do it every day. And so can you.

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    On the surface, you think it’s about your mother.

    Underneath, where it counts, it’s about you and your self-respect, self-trust, self-agency, and self-expression.

    Your grown-ass-womanhood.

    Your power, your choice, your creativity.

    When you own that (and owning it is a life-long process . . . not a one-and-done-flip-of-a-switch), you will realize that no matter what the status of relationship with her, your relationship with yourself will change in ways you can’t even imagine.

    Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.


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    • 5 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
8 Ratings

8 Ratings

SophieInOhio ,

Incredible. Indispensable.

Karen, you are (& this podcast is) a gift. You somehow know exactly what I’m thinking, and exactly what I need to hear. You talk about the feelings and thoughts that are most painful & most shameful for me—the ones I need to look at and explore the MOST. From this adult daughter: thank you thank you thank you.

Simply Jewelle ,

A must listen if you are a daughter with mom troubles

Karen is brilliant. Her podcast helped me look at my relationship with my mom in a whole new way. I actually think it is now better than ever thanks to Karen’s in depth questioning, new radical ideas that make oh so much more sense than your typical self help advice. Listen! It will be worth your time and will transform your identify.

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