7 episodes

Three romance writers explain it all - or at least give great advice about life, love, sex and work.

Relationship on the rocks? Crushing on your best friend? Not sure how to tell your partner a secret? Ask people who write happily ever afters for a living! Dear Romance Writer is an advice podcast by romance authors Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn, and Roan Parrish.

Are they formally trained? Nope. Successful in love? Er, sometimes. But they've written over fifty romance novels, so goddamnit they will answer the hell out of letters from the lovelorn!

Join Xio, Avery, and Roan as they answer all your questions about romance, relationships, and love.

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Three romance writers explain it all - or at least give great advice about life, love, sex and work.

Relationship on the rocks? Crushing on your best friend? Not sure how to tell your partner a secret? Ask people who write happily ever afters for a living! Dear Romance Writer is an advice podcast by romance authors Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn, and Roan Parrish.

Are they formally trained? Nope. Successful in love? Er, sometimes. But they've written over fifty romance novels, so goddamnit they will answer the hell out of letters from the lovelorn!

Join Xio, Avery, and Roan as they answer all your questions about romance, relationships, and love.

    I Want To Make My Romantic Triad A Duo. Help!

    I Want To Make My Romantic Triad A Duo. Help!

    Dear Romance Writer,


    I’m a queer in my 50s and I’ve been in a triad with the same two people for the last 12 years. They were a couple first (together for 10 years before they met me). Over the last couple years I’ve been growing apart with one of my partners, Q. Q’s politics are getting weird, our interests are diverging, and I’m not attracted to them anymore. Things with my other partner, P, are great. We still connect, have passion, and love spending time together.


    After quarantining with both of them I’m pushed over the edge — I don’t want to be with Q anymore (or live with them), but P is still committed to them. I definitely couldn’t bear to end my relationship with P and I’m at a loss. How can I keep P and lose Q?

    • 43 min
    I Want To Show Her How Special She Is, But I'm Tapped Out. Help!

    I Want To Show Her How Special She Is, But I'm Tapped Out. Help!

    Dear Romance Writer,


    Next month will be mine and my wife’s eight year anniversary. We have a pretty great relationship and I’m wild about her! We used mark our anniversary with adventures, thoughtful gifts and gestures and surprises galore. Cut to now...we have a two year old, work, are getting ready to move, juggling a million projects, and one year into the pandemic and we’re exhausted. I REALLY want to show her how special she is but I’m out of ideas or energy to pull something off. What do I do??? 


    Sincerely, Wrench in Romance

    • 50 min
    Episode 4: Kiss Off

    Episode 4: Kiss Off

    Sometimes you want to kiss and sometimes you want to tell someone to kiss off—especially a friend who has become a TERF.

    • 42 min
    Episode 3: Getting Back To Love

    Episode 3: Getting Back To Love

    Xio, Avery, and Roan answer questions from a widow wondering how to find her way back to love and a letter-writer whose partner emotionally disappears into her work.

    • 32 min
    Episode 2: Dating Myself

    Episode 2: Dating Myself

    Xio, Avery, and Roan answer questions about asexuality and desire, and what it might look like for a serial monogamist to date themselves.

    • 28 min
    Episode 1: Looking for Love

    Episode 1: Looking for Love

    Xio, Avery, and Roan answer questions from an anxious newlywed and someone ready to enter the dating pool for the first time in a long time.

    • 34 min

Customer Reviews

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4 Ratings

4 Ratings

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Smart, fun show from smart women!!

Listened to the inaugural episode of Dear Romance Writer Podcast and LOVED IT!! So obviously a show from three smart women who spend a lot of time thinking about how people can be both self-loving and in-love at the same time. Love Roan Parrish's silky smooth voice and super-wise love tips, Avery Flynn's supporting mom awwww's for people having a tough time of it, and Xio Axelrod's cool takes and music recs. Go listen!!!!!

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