11 episodes

Three romance writers explain it all - or at least give great advice about life, love, sex and work.

Relationship on the rocks? Crushing on your best friend? Not sure how to tell your partner a secret? Ask people who write happily ever afters for a living! Dear Romance Writer is an advice podcast by romance authors Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn, and Roan Parrish.

Are they formally trained? Nope. Successful in love? Er, sometimes. But they've written over fifty romance novels, so goddamnit they will answer the hell out of letters from the lovelorn!

Join Xio, Avery, and Roan as they answer all your questions about romance, relationships, and love.

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Three romance writers explain it all - or at least give great advice about life, love, sex and work.

Relationship on the rocks? Crushing on your best friend? Not sure how to tell your partner a secret? Ask people who write happily ever afters for a living! Dear Romance Writer is an advice podcast by romance authors Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn, and Roan Parrish.

Are they formally trained? Nope. Successful in love? Er, sometimes. But they've written over fifty romance novels, so goddamnit they will answer the hell out of letters from the lovelorn!

Join Xio, Avery, and Roan as they answer all your questions about romance, relationships, and love.

    When Does The Banging Start? Help!

    When Does The Banging Start? Help!

    Romance author Angelina M Lopez joins Roan Parrish, Xio Axelrod, and Avery Flynn as they answer a letter from a listener who just wants her partner (who is amazing in almost every way) to start showing some physical affection. And what do you do when your toxic family member wants you to kick out a roommate so she can live with you instead? They have many thoughts about that one, but yeah, they all boil down to change your locks and block her on your phone. 

    • 1 hr 10 min
    I'm Jealous My Husband Masturbates Instead Of Having Sex With Me (Plus Advice On How To Write Romance)

    I'm Jealous My Husband Masturbates Instead Of Having Sex With Me (Plus Advice On How To Write Romance)

    With the help of New York Times bestseller Sarah MacLean with the Fated Mates podcast, Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn & Roan Parrish answer a letter writer's questions about being a romance author and discuss the hard questions that come when you're jealous that your partner's masturbatory time seems to mean no sex for you. 

    • 55 min
    Episode 8: My Mom Won't Stop Misgendering Me. Help!

    Episode 8: My Mom Won't Stop Misgendering Me. Help!

    Mommy Issues Galore + Guest Kelly Reynolds from Boobies & Noobies! Roan, Xio, Avery and Kelly answer a letter writer whose mom keeps misgendering her and a too-over-the-top-for-fiction real life story about finding out a woman's long lost daughter is about to marry her son, has us talking about taboos. TW: Incest discussion, missing children

    • 1 hr 6 min
    Episode 7: Am I Over Romanticizing Love???

    Episode 7: Am I Over Romanticizing Love???

    Hopeless romantics unite!

    Avery, Roan, and Xio welcome their first special guest, Becky Burrier from Buzzing About Romance Podcast! The quartet offer advice to a listener who thinks her standards are too high to find love. Plus, they introduce a new segment - So What Would You Do? This episode, they discuss a couple whose sex life is so loud, it's disturbing their kids. Yikes.

    • 59 min
    Episode 6: I Want To Make My Romantic Triad A Duo. Help!

    Episode 6: I Want To Make My Romantic Triad A Duo. Help!

    Dear Romance Writer,


    I’m a queer in my 50s and I’ve been in a triad with the same two people for the last 12 years. They were a couple first (together for 10 years before they met me). Over the last couple years I’ve been growing apart with one of my partners, Q. Q’s politics are getting weird, our interests are diverging, and I’m not attracted to them anymore. Things with my other partner, P, are great. We still connect, have passion, and love spending time together.


    After quarantining with both of them I’m pushed over the edge — I don’t want to be with Q anymore (or live with them), but P is still committed to them. I definitely couldn’t bear to end my relationship with P and I’m at a loss. How can I keep P and lose Q?

    • 43 min
    Episode 5: I Want To Show Her How Special She Is, But I'm Tapped Out. Help!

    Episode 5: I Want To Show Her How Special She Is, But I'm Tapped Out. Help!

    Dear Romance Writer,


    Next month will be mine and my wife’s eight year anniversary. We have a pretty great relationship and I’m wild about her! We used mark our anniversary with adventures, thoughtful gifts and gestures and surprises galore. Cut to now...we have a two year old, work, are getting ready to move, juggling a million projects, and one year into the pandemic and we’re exhausted. I REALLY want to show her how special she is but I’m out of ideas or energy to pull something off. What do I do??? 


    Sincerely, Wrench in Romance

    • 50 min

Customer Reviews

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4 Ratings

4 Ratings

mburrier ,

A smart, funny and witty podcast.

Give a listen to these super smart Romance Writers as they give some great advise to all your romantic woes.

loquist ,

Smart, fun show from smart women!!

Listened to the inaugural episode of Dear Romance Writer Podcast and LOVED IT!! So obviously a show from three smart women who spend a lot of time thinking about how people can be both self-loving and in-love at the same time. Love Roan Parrish's silky smooth voice and super-wise love tips, Avery Flynn's supporting mom awwww's for people having a tough time of it, and Xio Axelrod's cool takes and music recs. Go listen!!!!!

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