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Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch iHeartPodcasts
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I’m Lori Gottlieb, author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. And I’m Guy Winch, author of Emotional First Aid. We’re both advice columnists, TED speakers, and of course therapists in clinical practice who want to bring the lessons of the therapy room outside the therapy room… to all of you. Each week on DEAR THERAPISTS, we invite you to be a fly-on-the-wall in these personal, raw, transformative sessions with everyday people and then hear what happens when we give concrete, actionable advice and have them report back to let us know how things went after the session ended. We’re sharing these real sessions because we believe that everyone can benefit from hearing how people just like them get through their struggles and grow and change. So sit back and come into the therapy room with us… and prepare to learn a lot about yourself in the process.
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Encore: S04 Ep 09 - Alexis’s Controlling Family
This week, we’re in session with Alexis, whose parents are pressuring her to get married and have children on their timeline instead of hers. We help her to set healthy boundaries with her family.
If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
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Encore: S04 Ep 08 - Grace and Finn’s Escalating Arguments
This week, we’re in session with Grace and Finn, a young married couple who struggle to keep their disagreements from turning into full-blown arguments they later regret. We help them identify what goes wrong and give them practical tools for substituting faulty assumptions and accusations with openness and vulnerability.
If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.
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Encore: S04 Ep 07 - Vanessa’s Parental Betrayal
This week, we’re in session with Vanessa, whose father insisted she take out a huge loan she could not repay and give him all the money, then disowned her when she refused. We help her to process the loss of her entire family, and start to create a trusted, compassionate family of choice who treats her the way family should.
If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.
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GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch
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Encore: S04 Ep 06 - Andrew’s Shared Ex-Boyfriend
This week, we’re in session with Andrew, who met his current partner because they shared the same ex, and worries that his new relationship is therefore built on a shaky foundation. We help him remove the ghost of the ex and trust the important lessons he learned from that relationship in this new one.
If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.
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LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author
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Encore: S04 Ep 05 - Emily’s Shaky Marriage
This week, we’re in session with Emily, whose relationship with her long-distance fiance blew up the moment they got married. We help her to see how her impatience to not “waste time” prevents her from making sound choices, and why slowing down is the key to making healthy decisions.
If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.
Follow us both online:
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Encore: S04 Ep 04 - Elise’s Angry Sister
This week, we’re in session with Elise, who wants to have a better relationship with her angry older sister. We help Elise to see her sister’s perspective so she can approach her with empathy–and how to know when repair might not be possible.
If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.
Follow us both online:
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Customer Reviews
So insightful
Thank you for putting on such a thorough, well-balanced and insightful show. I can tell you really care about helping your guests and appreciate the homework and follow ups. Despite not having the same issues as your guests, I somehow walk away each and every time learning something new about myself and thinking of ways I can better my life or gain a more nuanced and empathetic understanding of those around me.
I love this podcast!
This is a fascinating insight into human psychology, and both therapists offer step by step advice to create better personal awareness and manageable steps to help navigate life. Thank you for sharing seemingly unique situations that benefit so many of us!
Emily March 12, 2024
In the middle of listening to the Emily Encore episode. The therapists are way off. When a partner says “I think we are done,” they speak the truth as to what they really feel and the relationship has likely ended before that. Unless they use it to control the other partner, which is abusive and an even bigger reason to leave. The man likely never wanted a new baby with Emily, he had a child and wanted Emily to be a mother for his existing child (he probably thought: “Oh great, she wants children, she wants to be a mother, good thing I already have a child”). If he might have toyed with the thought of having a new baby with Emily, the cancer diagnosis most likely put a death knell into that. The partner first facetiming a full hour every day with Emily and then retreating because he needed more time for his son (allegedly) was a clear bait and switch. Stonewalling is another relationship-ender/a sign that the original stonewaller never wanted to be in that relationship. It’s in general never a good idea to move into an existing living space of one partner when you start a relationship. Both partners best move into a new place. The only mistake I see Emily making is to rush too quickly into new relationships. That’s how she ended up with drug users and alcoholics. She had a low bar before meeting this husband but realistically, it’s slim pickens out there, particularly at her age. And with regards to new husband, her friends warned her: don’t you first want to live with the man before you marry him? They may have picked up on something she didn’t want to see. As to moving out while he was away, she may have had her reasons for that. Wanting to limit drama is a good enough reason imo but if he was controlling and emotionally abusive (bait and switch, stonewalling) she may have simply not felt safe to move out while he was present. Emily’s wish for a baby puts way too much pressure on her decision-making as well as on the men she picks. Maybe they feel reduced to a sperm donor and that’s why there is no emotional connection. Emily might have to say goodbye to that babywish and calm down a bit. And stop plunging into relationships so fast. But criticizing Emily for leaving a relationship “too soon” when it’s clearly toxic and more than over is very much off the wall. Women in general way too often stick “it” out for way too long and Emily has learned that lesson. Good for her. The guy showed up for therapy way too late, it was probably a last ditch effort to get her to change her mind but he will most likely never change.