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When my husband died in November 2019 from a respiratory disease, I felt extreme anxiety, fear, loneliness, depression, and isolation. To cope, I immediately turned to dark comedy. It was what my husband and I had used throughout most of his illness to make the tough times bearable. Now, I want to share this coping skill with you on my podcast, Death Is Hilarious. Join me, Tawny Platis, my co-host Sam Peterson, and our guests as we talk about using stories, friendship, and lots of really dark jokes to cope with grief, loss, and trauma. For more information and to listen now, visit deathishilarious.com

Death Is Hilarious Tawny Platis

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.7 • 334 Ratings

When my husband died in November 2019 from a respiratory disease, I felt extreme anxiety, fear, loneliness, depression, and isolation. To cope, I immediately turned to dark comedy. It was what my husband and I had used throughout most of his illness to make the tough times bearable. Now, I want to share this coping skill with you on my podcast, Death Is Hilarious. Join me, Tawny Platis, my co-host Sam Peterson, and our guests as we talk about using stories, friendship, and lots of really dark jokes to cope with grief, loss, and trauma. For more information and to listen now, visit deathishilarious.com

    Where's the Grief? Interview With Comedian Jordon Ferber

    Where's the Grief? Interview With Comedian Jordon Ferber

    In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Jordon Ferber, stand-up comedian from New York who has performed at Carolines, the Gotham Comedy club, Madison Square Garden, and on NBC’s Last Comic Standing. He’s also the creator of the podcast “Where’s The Grief?” where he interviews other comedians and creatives about the tragic losses they’ve experienced. Jordon and I talked about how he coped as a comedian when his brother passed away in a car accident at the age of 21, his work facilitating a siblings group with the Manhattan chapter of Compassionate Friends, what kind of cake his brother would have wanted at his funeral, and the kind of people who make jokes when grieving.
    For more information about Death Is Hilarious, visit deathishilarious.com To get in touch, email deathishilarious@gmail.com. You can support the podcast by subscribing, becoming a patron at patreon.com/deathishilarious, or by simply sharing the show with your friends and on social media.

    • 34 min
    Grief in Comedy: Interview With Stand-Up Comedian Chris Calogero

    Grief in Comedy: Interview With Stand-Up Comedian Chris Calogero

    Today my guest is Chris Calogero, a standup comedian from New Jersey who lives in Brooklyn and has been featured in the “NY Times,” “Funny or Die,” “Paste Magazine,” and “Good Morning America Day.” Chris is also the host of the podcast “Mourning Coffee,” where he interviews other comedians about their experiences with grief—how it affects their personal lives as well as their comedy.

    We talk about Chris’ initial reaction of “I don’t know if I can ever do comedy again,” to doing a set with dark and heavy punchlines and discovering that stand-up just might be the way he is able to make his way through the grief, how comedians aren’t well, how the impulse to do comedy seems hard to break unless you decide to become embittered and entitled by it, needing the audience to know that you’re ok and won’t break down on stage, why we share about our grief publicly, how lonely grief makes you feel, toxic positivity, how getting laughs on stage is validating where relatability is concerned, then conversely when relatability doesn’t matter when it comes to quality, how we’re watching many of our fellow millennials turn into angry old boomers who hate the younger generation, how comedians dig in their heels when it comes to change, how 28 might as well be as old as 70, the intoxicating feeling of superiority, our favorite grief jokes, and how people think you aren’t allowed to experience joy while grieving.

    For more information about Death Is Hilarious, visit deathishilarious.com To get in touch, email deathishilarious@gmail.com. You can support the podcast by subscribing, becoming a patron at patreon.com/deathishilarious, or by simply sharing the show with your friends and on social media.

    • 35 min
    Good Grief: Interview With Stand-Up Comedian Glen Tickle

    Good Grief: Interview With Stand-Up Comedian Glen Tickle

    In this episode, I had the absolute privilege of speaking with Glen Tickle, standup comedian, writer, husband, father, and the creator of one of my favorite specials of all time, “Good Grief.”
    We talked about what it’s like being in comedy while faced with loss, writing jokes about grief because it’s the only thing you want to talk about, learning how to play to the audience, Buckaroo Banzai, how 100 people can be in a room and if 99 are having a good time but 1 person isn’t, that’s the person a performer will focus on, how being unable to stop making jokes about uncomfortable topics isn’t new, when making jokes about tragedies doesn't go over well (like Gilbert Gottfried), how comedians can make jokes about their personal tragedies but not other people’s tragedies (like Tig Notaro), the incredibly dumb things people say to those in grief, how you should only say “let me know if you need anything at all” if you really mean it, how your kids prepare you for hecklers, how surprised Glen was to find others who used humor to cope, and how therapy is just a place to have your material reviewed.
    For more information about Death Is Hilarious, visit deathishilarious.com To get in touch, email deathishilarious@gmail.com. You can support the podcast by subscribing, becoming a patron at patreon.com/deathishilarious, or by simply sharing the show with your friends and on social media.

    • 37 min
    Griffin's Heart: Interview With Actress Reagan J. Pasternak

    Griffin's Heart: Interview With Actress Reagan J. Pasternak

    *Note: We had a little trouble connecting midway through the episode so you’ll notice a slight change in the audio at about the 15-minute mark. That’s showbiz, baby! *

    In this episode, I (Tawny) chat with actress Reagan J. Pasternak (HBO’s “Sharp Objects”, Syfy's “Wynonna Earp,” Netflix/HULU/HBO’s “Being Erica”, BET’s “Ms. Pat”) and author of "Griffin's Heart: Mourning Your Pet With No Apologies - A Memoir, Healing Journal, and Keepsake."

    As a widow and someone who is also co-dependent with their fur baby, I really appreciate what Reagan has done with her book!

    Reagan and I chat about how animal grief is often trivialized (disenfranchised grief), the way love and loss is a mirror that reflects where you are, what inspired her to take this unique interactive approach to helping others memorialize and cope with the loss of their pet, how definitive death is, cognitive therapy and rewiring your thinking on grief, Reagan laughing uncontrollably at her mom’s funeral, controlling her potty mouth while writing her book, being a huge empath, the beautiful part of darkness, how trauma makes you funny, the shame associated with talking about grief and trauma, trying to balance authenticity and being an open book while taking others into consideration, being an entertainer and artist in grief, the tricky side of feeling exploitative, and we swap some of our funniest stories related to our traumas.

    For more information about Death Is Hilarious, visit deathishilarious.com To get in touch, email deathishilarious@gmail.com. You can support the podcast by subscribing, becoming a patron at patreon.com/deathishilarious, or by simply sharing the show with your friends and on social media.

    • 35 min
    "Dating Lessons For Widows" + "PTSD Fairy:" With Tawny and Sam

    "Dating Lessons For Widows" + "PTSD Fairy:" With Tawny and Sam

    Tawny and Sam are back with new stand-up! Sam shares about their new housemates, a new kitten, learning to roller skate, their therapist being fired, being gaslit for the first time in grade school, and creates traumascopes (horoscopes based on traumas) for our listeners Mary, Nick, and Paul (visit our website to get your own traumascope). Tawny shares about scaring her neighbors, getting hot over Bridgerton, her first serious relationship as a widow, her 4 top dating lessons for widows, and a new perspective on soulmates. For more information about Death Is Hilarious, visit deathishilarious.com To get in touch, email deathishilarious@gmail.com. You can support the podcast by subscribing, becoming a patron at patreon.com/deathishilarious, or by simply sharing the show with your friends and on social media.

    • 50 min
    Widowed By Covid: Interview With Comedian Rich Kiamco

    Widowed By Covid: Interview With Comedian Rich Kiamco

    Today my guest is stand-up comedian Rich Kiamco who you may recognize from Bravo’s Queer Eye For The Straight Guy, Netflix in the Buzzfeed’s “Follow This,” and the Broadway Comedy Club, just to name a few things from his impressive resume. Rich’s partner Sandy Gunar was diagnosed with covid on February 7th 2021 and passed away on March 16th, just 19 days ago from when we chatted.
    We chatted about being afraid to fall in love with someone who might die in the future, being codependent with your partner, dating as a gay man before grindr on Edwina (“I’m ancient!”), having enough self-love and self-loathing to eat well, Dolph Lundgren (the Soviet boxer from Rocky), how Rich met Sandy (several times!) before they finally got together, how rebounding is like being on the Titanic, how past traumas prime you for widowhood, blaming yourself for your partner’s death, being descended from trauma survivors (Rich’s parents lived in the Philippines during the Japanese occupation during World War II), PTSD infused gratitude, incorporating grief into your comedy, using wit for self-preservation (particularly as a gay kid in high school), and doing comedy on zoom during covid.For more information about Death Is Hilarious, visit deathishilarious.com To get in touch, email deathishilarious@gmail.com. You can support the podcast by subscribing, becoming a patron at patreon.com/deathishilarious, or by simply sharing the show with your friends and on social media.

    • 40 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
334 Ratings

334 Ratings

GramercyTree ,

Death and non-death related grief

Tawny’s way of healing using comedy reached me immediately upon hearing the first podcast. Her organic, primal and genuine style landed squarely where I needed comfort and nurturing unbeknownst to me. My grief relates not only to parents who have died but also caring for a 30-year-old son with severe disabilities which feels paralyzing in my inability to find medical solutions for him . The grief never lessens.

I enjoy the energy with Sam, the guests and also feel privileged to be able to hear the past podcasts with her beloved George. I am grateful to you all, living and not living, for the community you’ve created.

Liz

Kp1957 ,

Thank you!

Been dealing with more death in the past few years. Kind of goes along with getting older. Yours is such a fresh take on a horrible subject, it makes it almost bearable. Thank you.

SFC B 1971 ,

Was once for me

I really appreciated the original show before the unfortunate loss of her husband. But the show moved in a direction that just isn’t for me now. I originally started listening for the history stories you normally don’t hear about.

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