Delight Your Marriage Belah Rose | Author, Podcaster, & Marital Intimacy Enthusiast

After 33 years of marriage, they were disconnected. 
At that point, they were sleeping in separate bedrooms. 
Maybe you're at a spot where it's hard to have hope because it has been SO hard for SO long. 
Jacques is here to say, even when only you do the work, it can change. 
Glory to God. 
Blessings,
Belah
PS - Could your marriage be one of the next ones to transform? Schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc. You don't have to, but what if you do?
 
Quote from a client...
Before the program: "My biggest struggle coming into MR was openness with my wife about what I was thinking and feeling and fear of asking her about what was going on in her life. I had just come out of therapy for my addiction of lust and porn and trust was a big issue. I wanted her to know that she was the only one for me and I didn't know how to do that.
I knew our marriage could be so much more but didn't know how to make that happen. It was a constant weight on me that made my everyday life like walking around on eggshells."
 
After the program: "DYM has given me the confidence and tools to be able to handle difficult situations with my wife. It has given me such a better understanding of how my wife thinks and what is important to her. I have learned that I have to be the leader of the relationship. I love how the program was based on scripture in the bible. I learned how God wanted us to treat our wives and then how to do it. Surprisingly it has helped with my porn and lustful addiction. Now I respect women and my wife as they are all God's daughters. I am so excited for the next stage of my marriage."
 

You may wonder when God is going to show up in your life.
 
In your situation. 
 
In your marriage. 
 
You may believe in God but don’t feel His love for you, or at least haven’t for a long time. 
 
Maybe you felt His love for you at first, and that is what brought you to give your life to Jesus, but slowly, things have really gotten stale. 
 
Maybe like your marriage. 
 
It was great at first. But slowly other loves entered the picture. Children. Careers. Commitments. Current events. Costs. Culture. Cars. Curtains. (Other things that also start with “C”. :)
 
Ultimately, our job is to sacrifice for our priorities. 
 
God. 
Spouse.
Kids.
Everything else.
 
If you’re not sacrificing for each (in that order), then it makes sense that you’re not feeling the love from them. 
 
I encourage you to listen with a curious heart attuned to what the Lord may be drawing you to.
 
Blessings,
Belah
 
PS - If you’d like our help with your marriage, your first step is a Clarity Call (a free gift from us) delightyourmarriage.com/cc
 
 
Before the Delighted Wife Program:
 
"Problems with tension and unforgiveness, exhaustion from childcare, loss of connection and lack of wholehearted intimacy. Husband was extremely resentful of me. I’ve lost respect for him. Was close to divorce.
There wasn’t peace at home, kids constantly saw us arguing, I didn’t want to be at home, I was doing many things on my own with the kids because my husband didn’t want to do things with me, I was craving for other male attention who valued me.” 
After the Delighted Wife Program:           
"My heart has softened and I can now see the brokenness in my husband, that he was just a very wounded soul. He was trying to love me and wanted this marriage to work but he had no clue how to go about improving it and was instead making things worse. 
Wholehearted intimacy. Not arguing for a long time and the atmosphere has completely shifted, there is peace at home and he is a much happier and better father to the children...
Impacted everything, it turned everything around. My husband is now loving, patient, caring, and a very present and patient father.”

 

Tomorrow is the day (in the US) we set aside to be grateful.
 
Or it’s a day we set aside to get frustrated with family, binge eat, and watch football.
 
Just kidding.
 
I invite you to do Thanksgiving this year, Jesus way.
 
Let’s allow peace, joy, and thanksgiving being the most important aspects of this holiday.
 
Everything else is after those.
 
Let’s be intentional to not allow wounds of the past (even from yesterday) to rob our kids or extended family of the opportunity to see how Jesus followers love each other. Whether they deserve it or not.
 
I want to just encourage you to do a few things if your marriage is tense right now.
 
Take 100% ownership to turn it to thanksgiving. Here are some very basic and very practical steps.
 
Love,
Belah
 
 
PS - If you’d like our help to turn your marriage around, we’re here for you. Your first step is a free Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Randy felt lonely, disconnected, and that his wife cared about everything and everyone else more than his wife.
He was a strong believer and prayed for change in his marriage.
He stumbled upon Delight Your Marriage through podcast searching and found something that seemed right. He and his wife really dug into the material. And it did start to make sense.
Sadly, they were again up at 3 am and both very frustrated and hurting. She decided to make the free Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
And ultimately, they both chose to do the work together. 
As a natural skeptic and somewhat pessimistic he was concerned whether it was...
1- Going to work for them.
2- Whether it had a cult-like vibe. 
I think he was wise to consider this. But he assures you on this episode that it wasn't like that at all. 
Our goal is marriage transformed so they can continued doing the work of the Kingdom even better. 
Randy shares about how they are adoptive parents. Such important work requires a healthy marriage to love well. 
I'm so glad to see what God has done in these two and what He's continuing to do!
 
Blessings,
Belah
 
PS - Join a free Clarity Call with a Clarity Advisor like Randy did and see how we can help you specifically: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS - The holidays are coming. I encourage you to consider who in your life needs Delight Your Marriage.
Maybe today is the day to tell them:
You say: "Have you heard of DYM?" 
They say: "No"
You say: "I'll send it to you". 
And then send them one or two and write: "Here are some that I got a lot out of". (That way it doesn't make them feel like you think there's something wrong with them.)
Who knows, maybe you just changed the trajectory of a family, forever. Just by sending them a podcast.

Dads,
When it comes to fatherhood, do you feel at times like you don't know what you're doing? 
At times, does the chaos and frustration of it all feel like you're left to solve a very difficult puzzle without directions?
Dr. Don is here to tell you, "Every dad CAN win".
He's been there.
His wife, the "Relationship Ninja", Suzanne wants you to know that you are handpicked by God for  this. 
For fatherhood. 
For your children.
You can do this.
 
Early on in his family life, Don felt like parenting was more like solving a Rubix cube with no instructions.
Over the years of raising a family of 7 kids and gaining insights from other experts, they've discovered family comes down to 2 words: 
a- relationships 
and 
b- culture 
Don says, if you build your family right on the inside, then you can tackle anything that happens on the outside.
They invite you to constantly ask the question: How can I connect to my child today? Words, time, & creating experiences and memories are all examples of how to connect.
I specifically love when Suzanne says as parents, our goal is to take our kids from being parent-controlled to self-controlled.
She also shares how wives can encourage their husbands in the midst. 
 
Seriously, gents, you can win at fatherhood. Even if you didn't have a role model. And even if--like the Rangers (TX MLB not NY NHL :)--maybe your track record hasn't been great... it is possible to still win! 
Seriously though...
You can be a good father.
It really is not too late.
Don is opening an opportunity for you in the new year for fathers to learn how to do just that for free. Just email him dads@crazycoolfamily.com to find out more. 
Their many resources, podcasts, and courses can be found at crazycoolfamily.com 
I hope this message will encourage you to keep fighting to win!
 
Love, 
Belah
PS - We'd love to help you with your marriage. Maybe that has felt like it is the thing holding you back from working on your fatherhood.
We'd love to get you to the other side and really enjoy peace and joy in your marriage, thus empowering your kids! delightyourmarriage.com/cc for a free Clarity Call to discover your first step in marriage healing. 
 
Recent graduate wrote: 
Before men's program... "this inability caused me to be concerned about our future and caused me to feel like I was alone... There were so many needs and desires that would go unmet, that I struggled to be holy and joyful.
After men's program... "Too many [celebrations] to recount here! In summary, she has made the most intimate bids for connection with me over the last weeks than I can remember! These have been both sexual and non-sexual.
My biggest celebration could be that I feel loved and desired by my wife again, and that is so fun and empowering for life on a mission!"
Go to delightyourmarriage.com/cc so we can help you have that story too!

When I was first with my (now) husband he showed me my value. 

Value I didn't know I had.

Worth I didn't know I was.

He taught me how precious my heart was.

He taught me how precious my body was.

God loved me through my husband.

God healed me through my husband.

I remember on our first date I told him that I had never felt safer in my whole life.

I felt completely respected and honored by this man.

I felt like he would protect me from anything and everything (even from himself).

Unassuming.

Tender.

Kind.



And when I read the scriptures, I see that is what Jesus is to women.

He is kind.

He is loving.

He doesn't speak to them harshly.

He is moved by compassion when they cry.



Seriously. Take a minute and think.

Is there ever a time that Jesus is harsh to women?

Even when he tenderly corrects Martha, it is in protecting Mary (a woman who had the gall to value herself enough to learn from the great Rabbi).

I invite you to explore with me how Jesus treated women.

Men if you have never learned from Jesus in this way, I think this will help you.

It will help you see your wife as the daughter of the king.

As a precious soul that you are tasked to heal and care for. And God can heal her through you... through your genuine safety.
 
Book referenced:
Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer
 
Blessings,
Belah 

PS - If you want our help, feel free to go to delightyourmarriage.com/cc for more info.


PPS - Recent husband grad: 

BEFORE: 
"Constantly getting rejected was demoralizing and took a mental toll on me for sure.

Not being listened to and the lack of respect was basically a punch in the gut pretty much daily, causing depression and definitely other issues within the house as well with the kids also."


AFTER: 
"I wanted to think that I was doing all the right things and that it was her problems that were causing all of the issues between, but I was definitely wrong.

Through this program, I have realized that I definitely was living up to my "man of the house" role.

Mainly I was not providing her safety.

My actions, or lack of actions depending on the situation, were not getting my wife into a safe place where she would be in the mindset to share herself with me physically, mentally, or spiritually.

By doing this in turn it has proved to be beneficial with what I feel is much more respect from her, especially around the kids, as well as more frequent episodes of lovemaking."