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Hi, I'm Belah. Along with thousands around the world, you will go deep into the real issues, joys, and how-tos of physical intimacy. It's playful, peaceful, purposeful, and really intimately exciting!

Discover insights around godly intimacy on how men tick and how women feel! And you'll be amazed to hear the inspiring stories of transformations and advice from the expert guests as well! It's scriptural and practical.

If you're a man, you'll be drawn because you want to understand your wife, how to invite her in intimacy, and even your own God-given sexual desires. If you're a woman you'll understand how to enjoy your own pleasure and love your man through sex.

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Delight Your Marriage Belah Rose | Author, Podcaster, & Marital Intimacy Enthusiast

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.7 • 513 Ratings

Hi, I'm Belah. Along with thousands around the world, you will go deep into the real issues, joys, and how-tos of physical intimacy. It's playful, peaceful, purposeful, and really intimately exciting!

Discover insights around godly intimacy on how men tick and how women feel! And you'll be amazed to hear the inspiring stories of transformations and advice from the expert guests as well! It's scriptural and practical.

If you're a man, you'll be drawn because you want to understand your wife, how to invite her in intimacy, and even your own God-given sexual desires. If you're a woman you'll understand how to enjoy your own pleasure and love your man through sex.

Free gifts for you! https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/free

If you're looking to see how to transform your marriage apply for a Clarity Call ($300 value) here: https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/cc

    351-Do Not Squander Today (Lay Down Your Pride)

    351-Do Not Squander Today (Lay Down Your Pride)

    The FREE Masculinity Reclaimed Foundations training is back for the last time this year. If you missed it previously, join on September 12 -- sign up at delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining
    -- 
    First of all.
    I'd like to tell you that I'm right in all that I do.
     In fact, I'd like to say that I'm right... all the time. 
    I'd also like to tell you that I'm right even when others think I'm wrong.
    I'd especially like to tell you that I'm right when other people think I'm right. (I mean, isn't that extra confirmation that I am definitely right...?)
     
    So, the truth is...
    [I have] become like something unclean, and all [my] righteous acts are like filthy rags (Is 64:6).
     
    Even the things I think I did that are right... are filthy. 
    Even the things you think I did that were right... are filthy. 
     
    Oh, but then the things I did that were wrong! (The things I am sure were wrong... eek!) 
     
    I hope you see where I'm going with all of this. 
    You're in the same sad boat that I am. 
     
    And... it's sinking. 
     
    Seriously.
    Can you imagine being on a boat in the middle of the ocean, and it sprung a leak... and then another... and then another... 
    Seriously, take a moment to put the picture in your mind... breathe fast... your stomach is turning and feel utter alarm and desperation. 
    The ONLY way you could survive is by being saved. 
     
    That's what's happening here. You and me. We are in a leaky boat in the middle of the ocean.
    We desperately need to be saved. 
    Every single time we sin and we hammer a hole in our boat, we need a Savior to restore it. We can't do that ourselves. 
     
    When we try to defend our sin, we continue to hammer through the sides of our boat.
     
    What does this look like in your marriage...
    As an example, when you are rude and cruel to your spouse (disrespecting and/or making them feel unsafe), you hammered a hole in your "marriage boat".
    And then you defend your own righteousness by saying they triggered you... thus hammering another hole in your "marriage boat". Making your marriage worse.
    The marriage boat is sinking and your self-righteousness is making it worse... it's going to continue to make it worse and worse and worse.
    You can't fix it.
     
    We can't hammer our way out of a leaky boat.
    --
    How hopeless this is for people who don't depend on Jesus.
    If you don't, here's how it is...
    You know you're on a leaky boat. You've made mistakes and your whole sense of self is tied up to being a good person.
    So, when you see evilness in yourself, it threatens you're whole identity of being a good person. And you can't erode your whole identity by humbling yourself and saying you were wrong (!?)
    Of course not! It wasn't your fault, you were triggered, someone didn't do something they should have... it was someone else's fault.
    --
    Do you see yourself in that description?
    Are you following Jesus? Do you really believe in Him? Is He really your King, Master, Lord?
    Is He mine? Every. Single. Day?
     
    Our boat is sinking. 
     
    That's why only in Jesus is there hope.
     
    We need forgiveness for our sin against God and others. 
    We need Jesus over and over and over again. 
     
    Every day.
    Every single action. 
     
    It's pride to think we can do it ourselves. 
    It's pride to think we're good enough.
    It's pride to think we are righteous. 
    It's pride, to defend our own righteousness. 
    It's even pride to think we can do something great for God without Him. 
    That's why our burdens are heavy. We think it's our job to do what only God can do. We just need to be grateful slaves. Humbled servants. Dying to ourselves and doing it God's way. 
     
    Humility means depending on Him.
    Humility is coming before Him. 
    Humility is needing Him.
    Humility is resting in Him.
    Humility is being faithful to Him.
     
    Humility is not contriving and defending an identity of perfection, it's boasting in our weaknesses.
     
    Instead, go before Jesus, hand your worry, your issue,

    • 51 min
    350-Never Argue -- How You Should Disagree

    350-Never Argue -- How You Should Disagree

    Alternate Title: 7 Steps to a Productive Disagreement
    --
    Arguing. Ugh. It's so... so... unhelpful.
    When have you left an argument where the dust has settled and you felt 100% good with everything you said -- your eyes, your words, your tones...? Everything. 
    In fact, how would you feel if your church congregation watched what you said and did? 
    Would you be proud of yourself? 
    Would you feel small and immature?
    Usually, after an argument, I only feel the latter.
     
    To clarify, what I mean by arguing is having elevated emotions when we start using a stronger voice and intense words. 
    Essentially, the judging/reasoning/impulse-control part of our brains (pre-frontal cortex) goes offline during that stressful conversation and we're left with the "lizard brain" which only knows how to flight, fight, or freeze.
    All the wisdom that we have cultivated throughout all of our lives and have prayed for and read about, goes out of the window during an argument. 
    We say things we don't mean and throw verbal knives at each other. 
    Sure, we might apologize for it the next day when we're calm, but those words leave scars. 
     
    So, can we ever disagree? 
    Yes. 
    We need to disagree. That's healthy and correct. 
     
    We need to be courageous and disagree about things that matter. 
     
    But we need to do it the Jesus way. 
     
    I have some very practical tips on how to disagree well, and how to honor God in it. 
     
    It's easy to use "popular thinking" and just say what you think. But the Bible is clear that's not best. 
    "We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check...
    The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell." James 3:1 & 6
    (Also, see the full book of James for more of this type of goodness. :)
     
    How do we make sure we're not setting forest fires with our mouth? 
    Well, I have given you 7 or 8 keys in this episode that if we could consistently apply, I'd be a closer reflection of Jesus, and I think you would be, too. 
    Love & Blessings,
    Belah
    PS - We'd love to help you with your marriage and intimacy - to be connected, and for you to rate your marriage a 9 or even a 10 out of 10 marriage! 
    If you're interested in finding out if we can help you, sign up for a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc

    • 50 min
    349-Pray with Me...for Your Encouragement

    349-Pray with Me...for Your Encouragement

    Encouraging believers is a very biblical concept in the New Testament. 
    I want to encourage you in this episode. 
    I am praying for several people through this episode:
    7:00 - invitation prayer
    8:30 - prayer for men who feel like they're not leaders in their home
    12:28 - men who are receiving frequency in intimacy, but it feels like a duty from their wife
    14:30 - men who don't have frequency in intimacy and lack joy in their marriage
    17:00 - women who have a critical and judgmental husband
    19:45 - women who want to find pleasure and desire
    23:30 - churches and ministries and pastors who would have courage to address the hard issues around sex, sin, desire, & God-designed passion
    May God give you grace and strength and encouragement - wherever you are in this mix. Or, if you want to agree and pray with me on these topics.
     
    Love & Blessings,
    Belah
     
    PS We're here to bring hope and help in all these areas of your marriage...we invite you to schedule a Clarity Call to see if we can help you.
    *"I speak the name of Jesus over you
    In your hurting, in your sorrow
    I will ask my God to move..."
    *Lyrics to "In Jesus Name" by Katy Nichole

    • 31 min
    ##-Why "Wholehearted" Sex Makes All the Difference. Darcy's Advice

    ##-Why "Wholehearted" Sex Makes All the Difference. Darcy's Advice

    I'm excited to share that my wonderful friend Darcy is here to share her story and advice for you!
    She is actually the Delight Your Marriage Office Manager, and she reads all of your emails and prays for all of those who are suffering and in such difficulty in their marriages. She often weeps for you and truly, truly cares about you and feels your pain for those of you who are in need of hope.
    Her conversation today reflects what God has done in her and what she prays He does in you. I am excited to let you hear what she has to say!
    Love,
    Belah
    --
    Thank you, Belah, for giving me this opportunity.
    God is doing and has done so many amazing things and what an honor to testify of His power, love, and goodness!
    *“Because your steadfast love is better than life, my lips will praise you. So I will bless you as long as I live; in your name I will lift up my hands.” Ps. 63:3-4
    I pray that God speaks to and encourages many weary hearts through this podcast.
    "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life." Prov. 13:12
     
    This is my prayer for you:
    Father, thank You for the one listening to this podcast. Thank You that You know them...intimately! You know how many hairs are on their head. You know their hurts, desires, and joys.
    You desire good for them and desire them to know and experience You and Your love in ways that will reveal to them the abundant life that You have offered to any who will come to You in faith in Jesus and walk in the power of the Spirit of God.
    Father, you see the tears. You see the brokenness. Even more incredibly, You care about them and have the power to do something good with them.
    God, You know that we so often want to run from hurt and pain! Teach us to trust You...to take You at Your word...
     
    I encourage you to read this scripture as though you've never read it before:
    *"For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God. For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of him who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God. For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now. And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. For in this hope we were saved. Now hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.
    Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose." Rom. 8:18-28
     
    Thank You, Father, that You NEVER lie! Thank You that we can cling to You and Your promises through every storm, every hurt, every disappointment, and every thing that we face on this planet! People may fail us, but You NEVER do! 
    You use the trials and pain to teach us greater things. You may seem far off at times, yet You are more interested in the details of our lives than we could ever imagine!
    Teach us to relinquish everything we hold onto to You, trusting that You will never disappoint...we wait on You.
    ...in Jesus' name, I ask this, amen.
     
    So, dear listener, remember:
    “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Ps. 34:18
    *"Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart." Ps. 37:4 
     
    And

    • 40 min
    347-How to Be Spiritually Mature

    347-How to Be Spiritually Mature

    Well, first of all, I feel very ill-equipped to answer this question. 
     
    However, I don't think it serves you best for me to pretend that I don't know the limited things that I do believe God has taught me. 
     
    So, with that in mind, I'd like to share the general themes of today's episode
    -humility
    -the horrific humiliation of the cross 
    -how that makes us more surrendered followers
    -the necessity of solitude
    -the reality of our nothingness which we will only perceive should we stay in solitude long enough
    -how I wrestle and fight pride and seek humility -- and how I always hope to. 
     
    May this draw you closer to who God wants you to be. 
     
    Blessings,
    Belah
     
    Invitation: Would you like help in your marriage? We truly do care and so does God! Have you given up hope of change? God can do the impossible!
    We invite you to schedule a free Clarity Call with a caring, understanding advisor here at Delight Your Marriage. Click here to schedule.
    Here is what one man shared about the Clarity Call experience: “Fear and shame tried to stop me from a clarity call.  I had to humble myself to get the help I needed. The advisor was warm and friendly and could empathize with my situation.”
    Invitation: Would you like help in your marriage? We truly do care and so does God! Have you given up hope of change? God can do the impossible! We invite you to schedule a free Clarity Call with a caring, understanding advisor here at Delight Your Marriage. Click here to schedule.
     
    Here is what one man shared about the Clarity Call experience: “Fear and shame tried to stop me from a clarity call.  I had to humble myself to get the help I needed. The advisor was warm and friendly and could empathize with my situation.”

    A quote from a course graduate: “Nothing good ever comes easy, so if you are ready to stop trying to get your marriage and your intimacy to a good place and start TRAINING to get your marriage and your intimacy to a good place…this program is for you.”

    • 47 min
    346-Be Mature (Surrender Your Sexuality to God's Design)

    346-Be Mature (Surrender Your Sexuality to God's Design)

    When God said, "Let there be light," something amazing happened. 
    When I said, "Let there be light," ummm... well... I felt silly and 0 things, amazing or not, happened.
     
    I guess I'm just not God. Which is surprising? 
     
    No, it's not. 
    But, the world thinks we get to decide who God is. 
    Unfortunately, too many Christians feel that way, too. 
     
    It's tragic. 
    God is not us. 
    And we don't get to live by feelings. 
    We don't get to say, "Today I feel x, so it must be true."
     
    A follower of Jesus -- surrendered -- taking up his/her cross -- dying to his/herself -- is not led by his/her feelings. 
    Feelings of right and wrong...
    Feelings of attraction or non-attraction (to spouse or many types of others...)
    Feelings of desire for sexual intimacy...
    Feelings of pleasure in sex... 
     
    Does this mean as a follower of Jesus you have to do things you don't want to do? 
    ...
    Ummm...
    ...
    Yes.
     
    Does it mean that you have to do what the Bible says?
    ...
    Ummm...
    ...
    Yes.
     
    Are there things I don't LIKE that the Bible says?
    Yes. 
     
    Am I the one who said "Let there be light," and something happened? 
    No. 
     
    So, I get to humbly submit to the God and author of ALL and say "You're smarter, You're wiser, Your ways are better, and I'm going to submit my will/feelings/desires to You".
    My sexuality included. 
     
    "No one should say God is tempting me...
    but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death...
    [God] does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth."
     
    So, stop asking, "Why am I tempted?" Or, "Why don't I have desire for my spouse?" Or, "Why don't I enjoy sex?"
    And instead, embrace the cross of Christ. Deny yourself. And decide this IS God's best for You. 
    The surrendered Christian's questions become: "How do I do this Your way?" "How do I have desire for my spouse?" "How do I love MY spouse the way You created them?" "How do I enjoy and find pleasure in the sexual intimacy You designed and ordained and said I should not withhold?"
     
    Yes -- sexual intimacy is a spiritual battle. Do you surrender all to Jesus?
    Or are you still self-surrendered? Self-guided? Self-centered?
     
    I pray that this would be as convicting to you as it is to me. May you listen and feel God calling you to greater repentance, depth, love, and worship of Him.
    Love, 
    Belah
     
    PS -- We'd love to partner with you in this. God doesn't ask us to do any of this alone. We love helping people into joy in sexual intimacy and marriage at every level in every area. Get on a call with a Clarity Advisor to see if you'd be the right fit for us to help you in this vital part of life. delightyourmarriage.com/cc

    • 56 min

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