Transforming Us Podcast

Jess Vangsnes
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Redeeming Relationship Patterns to Find Security and Wholeness Join Jess Vangsnes and Tamara Brown, trauma-informed relationship coaches and longtime friends, as they explore the journey of transforming your life and relationships. In a world where many feel overwhelmed and disconnected in painful relationships, this podcast aims to illuminate the path to breaking free from toxic patterns by using two systems that are highly effective for transformation in relationships: The Enneagram and Attachment Theory. Together, these ladies have a combined 200+ hours of coach training around trauma, Attachment Theory, and the Enneagram in relationships, along with Gottman marriage workshops and parenting support. "Transforming Us" delves into the essentials of cultivating compassion and forging authentic connections while understanding your negative patterns. With resources rooted in understanding your core God-created self through tools like the Enneagram, listeners will discover how to earn secure attachments with others.

  1. How Christians Can Use the Enneagram for Pastoring, Parenting, and Becoming Present with Tyler Zach (3w4)

    1天前

    How Christians Can Use the Enneagram for Pastoring, Parenting, and Becoming Present with Tyler Zach (3w4)

    How does the Enneagram Three (The Achiever) navigate the demands of ministry, the vulnerability of parenting, and the intimacy of partnering? As the author of the popular Gospel For Enneagram devotional series and creator of the most helpful Enneasummits, Tyler gets real about his patterns!  In this episode, Tyler Zach, certified Enneagram coach, spiritual director, and former pastor, Type 3, offers a window into how the Type 3’s drive for success and image management impacts his roles as a counseling pastor, a husband, and a father to two adopted sons. We explore the transformative power of the Enneagram as a tool, detailing how recognizing the core motivations helps him move past the pitfalls of performance and towards authentic connection. Tyler shares his thorough research on the origins of the enneagram and lays to rest common fears Christians have about using it. We will discuss takeaways for growth, regardless of your type: The surprising role of curiosity in moving from achievement to genuine spiritual growth in all relationships.How the Enneagram and attachment theory integrate to help accelerate the power of the gospel in your life.Practical strategies for parenting with the Enneagram to prioritize compassion and authenticity over performance.The importance of slowing down to counteract the Three's tendency for busyness, especially during midlife.How the Enneagram helps us all identify the 'personal lies' we believe, fostering a healthier foundation for ministry and Christian community. Don't miss Tyler's valuable wisdom on making the Enneagram a practical tool for becoming a better spouse, parent, and leader. He also highlights the resources available through the NES summits. How to find Tyler: Web: https://www.tylerzach.comInstagram: @gospelforenneagramFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/gospelforenneagram Free Enneagram Resources from Tyler: Freebies (Self-Typing Guide & 5-Day Devotional): http://www.tylerzach.com/freeGet a 40-Day Devotional for your Enneagram Type: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08VGPJTX6 Should Christians Use the Enneagram? (another resource) https://gospelforenneagram.com/christian-enneagram/ ________ Discover more about our coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Lots of FREE guides and assessments for your journey. Do you need help understanding your patterns? Book your FREE 30 min discovery call today! Go to Connect. Youtube: a href="https://www.youtube.com/@transformingus" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

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  2. Exploring Your Relational Pattern Overlaps: Attachment Theory & The Enneagram

    11月5日

    Exploring Your Relational Pattern Overlaps: Attachment Theory & The Enneagram

    Tired of the same old relationship struggles? Want to understand the "why" behind your connection patterns? In this episode of the Transforming Us podcast, hosts Jessie and Tamara dive deep into the helpful intersection of the Enneagram and Attachment Theory. This is the essential conversation for anyone seeking to finally decode the complex relationship dynamics of their connections, their parenting approach, and their overall personal growth. We explore how your attachment style (Secure, Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment-Dismissive, Fearful-Avoidant), profoundly shapes your core Enneagram patterns, influencing everything from your routine interactions to how you manage conflict and vulnerability. We unpack specific challenges for each type, providing insights into their unique insecurities and core relationship needs. Always giving tips to grow more secure wherever you are now. The conversation emphasizes that building a strong sense of self-compassion and developing emotional intelligence is the cornerstone of fostering healthier connections. This is a must-listen for anyone in coaching or seeking better mental health and transformation! Episode TakeawaysHow combining the Enneagram and Attachment Theory clarifies deep-seated relationship dynamics.A breakdown of the unique insecurities and relationship needs of each Enneagram type.The critical role of building a strong sense of self for healthy intimate relationships.Why avoidance of emotional vulnerability is one ditch, and avoidance of self-leadership is the other.Better understanding of which Enneagram patterns display certain insecurities.How issues of self-worth can lead to withdrawal and disengagement.Becoming aware of some numbers with knowing, and asserting their needs. Download our FREE Attachment Assessment and Guide now! Download our FREE Enneagram Assessment and Guide now! Discover more about coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org Youtube: Transforming Us Community Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus Mentioned in this episode: Transforming Us Group Coaching Chat, Plus Q & A Ready to get unstuck and move toward the wholeness you desire in your relationships and on your personal journey? Join the Transforming Us live virtual group coaching chat on every third Thursday, from 8:00–9:30 PM ET. REGISTER HERE>>> https://mailchi.mp/48b93f19ccac/transform-your-relationships-group-coaching-chat

    45 分钟
  3. A Basic Guide to Understanding the Enneagram: A Tool for Transformation

    10月29日

    A Basic Guide to Understanding the Enneagram: A Tool for Transformation

    Join Jessie and Tamara as they dive deep into the Enneagram, the helpful psychological framework for transformation. This episode is your essential guide to understanding the nine distinct personality patterns—not as static labels, but as a dynamic roadmap for self-awareness and greater emotional intelligence. In this foundational primer, you'll discover: The System's Structure: We break down the historical context and explain the profound connection between the Enneagram and attachment theory.The "Why" Behind Your Actions: Learn how your core emotions and Centers of Intelligence (Head, Heart, and Body) shape your worldview and drive your behavior.A Blueprint for Change: Explore the unique strengths and challenges of each type, along with practical growth tips you can use right now.Transformation for Life: Whether you're seeking to enhance your communication, navigate conflicts, or deepen your relationship coaching skills, learning your Enneagram type is the key to embracing your complexity and moving toward genuine self-discovery. Tune in to learn how the Enneagram can be the catalyst for the personal and relational transformation you've been seeking! Download our FREE Enneagram Assessment and Guide now! Discover more about coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. YouTube: Transforming Us Community Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus

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  4. Processing Pain and the Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence with Scott Allender

    10月22日

    Processing Pain and the Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence with Scott Allender

    Navigating pain and leading with emotional intelligence are critical skills for any leader. On this episode of the Transforming Us Podcast, host Jess Vangsnes sits down with award-winning leadership development professional and author Scott Allender, to explore the profound connection between the Enneagram, emotional intelligence, and leadership with some personal stories of transformation along the way. In this very real conversation, Scott, author of "The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success", shares how the Enneagram can be a powerful tool for self-awareness, helping you understand your unique emotional patterns and pain points. He shares how, in his book, he has overlapped the Enneagram with 5 metrics of Emotional intelligence. You'll discover why organizations often prioritize emotional regulation over the deeper work of truly understanding emotions in relationships. The episode also explores the link between the Enneagram and Attachment Theory, revealing how your personal history shapes your Enneagram number and leadership style. Scott introduces the Enneaflip, a practical resource for applying Enneagram insights in your daily life alongside the patterns in your relationships at work or at home. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to become a more effective and compassionate leader. Key Topics:Enneagram and Emotional Intelligence: Learn how the Enneagram can help you identify and process pain, leading to greater self-awareness and emotional intelligence.Leadership and Personal Growth: Understand how healing yourself and embracing your personal growth journey directly impacts your leadership and relationships.Attachment Theory & The Enneagram: Explore the fascinating intersection of these two frameworks and how they influence your personal dynamics. Scott’s Resources: https://www.scottallender.com/ The Evolving Leader Podcast https://www.instagram.com/eqenneagram/ Learn more about Transforming Us: Discover more about their coaching and resources at their website transformingus.org. Youtube: Transforming Us Community Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus Mentioned in this episode: Transforming Us Group Coaching Chat, Plus Q & A Ready to get unstuck and move toward the wholeness you desire in your relationships and on your personal journey? Join the Transforming Us live virtual group coaching chat on every third Thursday, from 8:00–9:30 PM ET. REGISTER HERE>>> https://mailchi.mp/48b93f19ccac/transform-your-relationships-group-coaching-chat

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  5. Fearful Avoidant: How to Navigate the Push-Pull of Intimacy

    10月15日

    Fearful Avoidant: How to Navigate the Push-Pull of Intimacy

    Do you feel caught in a constant push-pull between wanting close relationships and pushing people away? In this powerful episode of the Transforming Us podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara dive deep into the complexities of the fearful avoidant attachment patterns. We’re getting to the heart of what drives this unique and often misunderstood relationship dynamic, rooted in deep-seated childhood wounds of broken trust and hyper-sensativity. In This Episode, We Explore: The Fearful Avoidant Map: Unpack the mix of anxious and avoidant behaviors that define this attachment style. Understand the high levels of anxiety, the struggle with trust and vulnerability, and the self-sabotaging tendencies that can make stable relationships feel impossible.Security Through Regulation: Discover the vital roles of emotional regulation and co-regulation in managing intense emotional reactions. Jess and Tamara share practical strategies for building emotional health, from positive self-talk to creating an evidence journal to combat negative biases.Communication & Boundaries: Learn how inconsistent boundaries can impact your relationships and how to build a foundation of open communication. The hosts emphasize the importance of communicating your needs and finding safe, supportive relationships that allow you to grow without fear.The Path to Secure Attachment: This episode highlights the significance of therapy and personal growth in confronting past wounds. Join us as we discuss how a willingness to be vulnerable and a commitment to self-discovery can transform your attachment style and help you build the healthy, secure relationships you truly desire. If you’re ready to break the cycle and find a sense of peace in your relationships, this episode is your guide. Download our FREE Attachment Assessment and Guide now! Discover more about coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus (Disclaimer: This episode is for informational and educational purposes alone.  It is not a replacement for clinical help with your mental health or attachment traumas.)  Mentioned in this episode: Transforming Us Group Coaching Chat, Plus Q & A Ready to get unstuck and move toward the wholeness you desire in your relationships and on your personal journey? Join the Transforming Us live virtual group coaching chat on every third Thursday, from 8:00–9:30 PM ET. REGISTER HERE>>> https://mailchi.mp/48b93f19ccac/transform-your-relationships-group-coaching-chat

    1 小时 8 分钟
  6. Dismissive Avoidant: How to Embrace Vulnerability and Emotional Connection

    10月8日

    Dismissive Avoidant: How to Embrace Vulnerability and Emotional Connection

    Are you in a relationship with someone who seems distant or emotionally unavailable? Or do you recognize these patterns in yourself? In this insightful episode of the Transforming Us podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara do a deep dive into the dismissive avoidant attachment style. We're exploring the core reasons behind the desire for autonomy and the struggle with vulnerability that defines this relational pattern. In This Episode, We'll Explore: The Avoidant Map: Understand why individuals with this attachment style may feel committed at the beginning of relationships, only to become overwhelmed as emotional intimacy deepens. We'll uncover the link between trauma and the tendency to repress strong emotional responses like sadness and anger.Communication & Connection: Learn why communication is often a significant challenge for dismissive avoidants, leading to misunderstandings and feelings of inadequacy. We'll discuss how to navigate rigid boundaries and the fear of vulnerability that can push partners away, often through self-sabotage.The Path to Security: Discover how dismissive avoidants can work towards better emotional regulation and find a balance between independence and connection. Jess and Tamara provide valuable tips for personal growth and co-regulation, highlighting how self-awareness and supportive relationships can lead to greater attachment security. This episode is for anyone seeking to understand the complexities of dismissive avoidant patterns—whether in a partner or in themselves. Join us to learn how to transform emotional distance into a journey of healing and growth. Download our FREE Attachment Assessment and Guide now! Discover more about coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus (Disclaimer: This episode is for informational and educational purposes alone.  It is not a replacement for clinical help with your mental health or attachment traumas.)  Mentioned in this episode: Transforming Us Group Coaching Chat, Plus Q & A Ready to get unstuck and move toward the wholeness you desire in your relationships and on your personal journey? Join the Transforming Us live virtual group coaching chat on every third Thursday, from 8:00–9:30 PM ET. REGISTER HERE>>> https://mailchi.mp/48b93f19ccac/transform-your-relationships-group-coaching-chat

    57 分钟
  7. Anxious Preoccupied: How to Feel More Calm in Your Relationships

    10月1日

    Anxious Preoccupied: How to Feel More Calm in Your Relationships

    Are you tired of the emotional rollercoaster that comes with anxious preoccupied attachment? In this episode of the Transforming Us podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara get real about the anxious preoccupied attachment style. We're diving deep into the inner workings of this relational pattern, from its roots in childhood wounds to its impact on your relationship dynamics today. In This Episode, You'll Discover: The Anxious Preoccupied Map: Unpack the core characteristics of this attachment style, including the constant need for emotional connection and validation, the fear of abandonment, and the tendency to self-sabotage healthy relationships.Healing & Growth: We share authentic stories and practical insights on how to navigate the challenges of low self-esteem and difficulty setting boundaries. Learn how to break the cycle and start your journey of personal growth towards a more secure attachment.Real Talk on Relationships: Understand why you might overshare your feelings or feel anxious when disconnected from your partner. We'll show you how to build a sense of security from within and create balanced, mutually-supportive relationships. Whether you're looking to understand your own patterns or a partner's, this episode is a powerful guide to pinpointing the anxious map. Join us as we explore what it truly takes to transform an anxious attachment and build the healthy, stable relationships you deserve. Download our FREE Attachment Assessment and Guide now! Discover more about coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus (Disclaimer: This episode is for informational and educational purposes alone.  It is not a replacement for clinical help with your mental health or attachment traumas.) Mentioned in this episode: Transforming Us Group Coaching Chat, Plus Q & A Ready to get unstuck and move toward the wholeness you desire in your relationships and on your personal journey? Join the Transforming Us live virtual group coaching chat on every third Thursday, from 8:00–9:30 PM ET. REGISTER HERE>>> https://mailchi.mp/48b93f19ccac/transform-your-relationships-group-coaching-chat

    47 分钟
  8. Decode Your Relationship Patterns: A Basic Guide to Attachment Theory

    9月24日

    Decode Your Relationship Patterns: A Basic Guide to Attachment Theory

    Hey friends, welcome back to Transforming Us Podcast. This week, we're finally getting into the world of relational attachment, and let's just say, it's getting a little personal. We are getting honest about our own journeys with different attachment styles. Are you ready to transform your relationships and break free from old, painful patterns? In this episode, we offer a basic overview and guide to the world of attachment theory with a focus on how your early experiences shape your adult relationships. Whether you're in a romantic relationship or on a journey of personal growth and becoming more relational, this episode is packed with foundational insights you won't want to miss. Key Topics Covered: Attachment Theory Explained: We'll break down the four main attachment styles: secure attachment, anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant. Learn how to identify your own style and understand the behaviors that come with it.Healing Insecure Attachments: Discover practical strategies for moving from an insecure to a more secure style. We discuss the importance of emotional regulation and self-soothing to manage anxiety and prevent trauma responses in relationships.Communication Skills for Deeper Connections: Learn how to improve your communication skills to foster vulnerability and create a safe space for true intimacy. We'll explore how fear of abandonment can drive anxious behaviors and how to navigate the challenges of emotional intimacy with a dismissive avoidant partner.The Path to Personal Growth: This episode is a guide to understanding yourself and your relational triggers. By decoding the attachment cycle, you can begin the journey of healing and growth, leading to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Don't let your past map dictate your future path. Tune in to learn how to break old relational patterns and build the loving, secure relationships you deserve. Once you know your patterns, join us for the next three episodes, where we will dive deeper into each of the insecure attachment styles: anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant. So, grab your coffee, get comfy, or take a walk and let's explore how we can all move a little closer to secure attachment, one honest conversation at a time. Download our FREE Attachment Assessment and Guide now! Discover more about coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus Mentioned in this episode: Transforming Us Group Coaching Chat, Plus Q & A Ready to get unstuck and move toward the wholeness you desire in your relationships and on your personal journey? Join the Transforming Us live virtual group coaching chat on every third Thursday, from 8:00–9:30 PM ET. REGISTER HERE>>> https://mailchi.mp/48b93f19ccac/transform-your-relationships-group-coaching-chat

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Redeeming Relationship Patterns to Find Security and Wholeness Join Jess Vangsnes and Tamara Brown, trauma-informed relationship coaches and longtime friends, as they explore the journey of transforming your life and relationships. In a world where many feel overwhelmed and disconnected in painful relationships, this podcast aims to illuminate the path to breaking free from toxic patterns by using two systems that are highly effective for transformation in relationships: The Enneagram and Attachment Theory. Together, these ladies have a combined 200+ hours of coach training around trauma, Attachment Theory, and the Enneagram in relationships, along with Gottman marriage workshops and parenting support. "Transforming Us" delves into the essentials of cultivating compassion and forging authentic connections while understanding your negative patterns. With resources rooted in understanding your core God-created self through tools like the Enneagram, listeners will discover how to earn secure attachments with others.

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  • 创作者
    Jess Vangsnes
  • 活跃年份
    2025年
  • 单集
    14
  • 分级
    儿童适宜
  • 版权
    © Copyright 2025 Jess Vangsnes
  • 节目网站
    Transforming Us Podcast

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