53 episodes

The Diversity Dad podcast showcases everyday dads with unique stories of triumph and overcoming life's challenges. We want to support dads regardless of their parenting situation whether dealing with toddlers, teens, divorce, separation, or adoption. Diversity Dad is focused to “buck conventionally” and celebrate doing fatherhood differently. We are all diversity dads.

Diversity Dad podcast - Helping dads to “buck conventionally” and celebrate doing fatherhood differently‪.‬ Jama'l Chukueke

    • Kids & Family
    • 5.0 • 19 Ratings

The Diversity Dad podcast showcases everyday dads with unique stories of triumph and overcoming life's challenges. We want to support dads regardless of their parenting situation whether dealing with toddlers, teens, divorce, separation, or adoption. Diversity Dad is focused to “buck conventionally” and celebrate doing fatherhood differently. We are all diversity dads.

    Episode #53 - Kellen Coleman - How to juggle so many hats and still do a great job

    Episode #53 - Kellen Coleman - How to juggle so many hats and still do a great job

    Kellen Coleman will share with us the amazing knowledge and wisdom he has been collecting through his fatherhood journey. Father of two little girls and owner of a PR and consulting firm and the publishing house known as Formenky Publishing, author of the LONDON & SYDNEY EXPLORE THE WORLD: TEXAS children’s book and co-author of other books, and being the primary caregiver to his kids Kellen will show us in a very practical way how to juggle so many hats and still do a great job.

    • 32 min
    Episode #52 - Charles Jackson | Learning how to put family first

    Episode #52 - Charles Jackson | Learning how to put family first

    Today we will learn a lot from Charles Jackson’s history. Learning how to put family first and how to deal with divorce and the distance from his kids. A big cautionary tale that will certainly make better fathers out of all of us diversity dads. 
    “I am involved in their social media that my kids are on, the Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat. I see those as the tools for me to keep a constant connection. It was a blended parenting watching because I wasn’t there every day, I’m not there to hear the small conversations but to really monitor what my children are posting, what are their thoughts, what are they responding to that may be an influence up there and try to understand that but to also pick up the habits of using these tools. I snapchat the goofy faces to my kids just to kind of keep that connection with them. It is constant communication.”
    From using social media to shorten the distance from our children to the importance of keeping in touch and keeping constant contact when we dads are far away, Charles will share some of his struggles and lessons learned from living far away from his children. 
    “For me is when I hear them overcome the objectives they have, I look at my youngest and right now the focus for her has been school. We will talk about her classes and she will talk about how hard her classes are but she will say “you know dad, I got flash cards” or “I put this app on my phone to overcome Spanish” or “Science is really difficult, but I am looking at some youtube videos to help me understand things”. I think that is the proudest moment because I feel like that is what we are here to do, we teach our kids how to deal with life as it comes. For her to have that smartness to say “I am going to go look at other resources” that is my chemistry, so I feel like that is my child right there.”
    We have had other divorced dads on our show and the message is still the same, a message that is still very powerful to any dad out there, make sure that the environment when things get bad don’t impact the kids in a negative way. Charles Jackson will reinforce that message from his very own perspective.
    “It was very challenging, divorces can be complicated. One of the things that we didn’t want to do was make sure that the kids were mixed into those complications. Being able to get up there and see them on a regular basis and going through some of the things at the time, financially it wasn’t permissible at times. A trip up there, gas, hotel, doing things with the kids because I wasn’t going go up there and just have them sit in a hotel room with me all day but to do things with them it took money that sometimes I didn’t have. It was difficult. It was difficult at the beginning to try to see my children on a regular basis as much as I wanted to.”
    We hope that Charles Jackson’s history teaches you as much or even more than it taught us. And inspires us to go to the next level and become better dads, and parents, tomorrow than we were yesterday.
     
    OTHER QUOTES:
     “I used to get those questions at the beginning. Probably the first couple of years after the divorce, you know “why am I away”. The situation was that my wife moved away and then it would be the question “why didn’t you follow” or I would get the comment from other men, black, white, other cultures, who would make comments about “I would always be by my children”, I mean, it was a hard pill for me to swallow at the time but I knew the environment that it would create, being as close as I was to my ex at the time and I didn’t want my children to be part of that environment. There was still a lot of negative feelings and negative impulses from the divorce that I didn’t want my children to be victim to. So I felt that the distance was something that was best suited and I would just have to put in a l

    • 26 min
    Episode #51 - Robert Douglas | How to ground ourselves on the present

    Episode #51 - Robert Douglas | How to ground ourselves on the present

    We hope you get inspired to let it loose and have some fun after today’s episode with Robert Douglas. We hope you get inspired to slowly stop taking everything so seriously and focus on the present, focus on the good you have now, focus on being a fun parent and having fun. This is what Mr. Douglas will teach us on his interview today.   
    “Don’t take everything so seriously, that one piece of advice I would give because you will stress yourself out, being a parent is a big deal anyway, bringing a life into the world, being responsible for a life, it is a massive deal, but don’t think of that in that context because it will stress you out and you will not enjoy and not cherish the moments with your children. So don’t take everything so seriously is probably one of the best pieces of advice I could give.”
    His story and words are certain to bring out the fun inside ourselves once again and let it shine. Let it shine through the way we love our children and through the way we love our families. Robert will teach us how to ground ourselves on the present and enjoy the moments and the little things once again.   
    “We have talked about recognizing stages, recognize stages of your children and enjoy what they do when they do it. Don’t expect them to be someone else, don’t wish their life away by thinking “I wish they could hurry up and walk” or “I wish they could grow up and move out” or whatever it might be, don’t wish that time away, cherish it, express your love because that is all that they will see.”
    Most importantly the constant reminder we keep getting on this show to be there and be present. To spend the time to not only raise but also grow with our children. We hope that today’s episode change yours, your children’s and your family life for the better just as it did with us despite all of the obstacles and challenges that will keep showing up on every moment but that will cat as reminders that it was worth it. 
    OTHER QUOTES:
    “When we had our son, 4 years ago, we brought him into a home which was filled of laughter and filled of fun. We made sure that we took that time with him, that we were always laughing around him, that he saw that life isn’t so serious. (…) We make sure my son is laughing all the time, we make sure that he is having fun because you mentioned earlier that they pick up on everything that you do so if they see us having fun, if they see us laughing, if they see us not putting barriers in the way all the time then that is how they are kind of grow up.”
    “I think the most exciting thing for me is living life through their eyes. Seeing that amazement at things, the simple things that now I take for granted. Just recently we went to a safari park and we saw animals and to me animals are animals, I have seen them many times but to him, to see his amazement when he saw the lions or when he saw all the penguins, or when he got to hold a snake. Seeing his amazement, his wide eyes and his big smile, that is what is most exciting for me.”
    “It goes so quickly, especially, I found, in the first few years of their life, they go from crying and sleeping to walking and talking in what feels like days. It is a few years but they go so quickly and you forget those times and like you say, you need to stop him and cherish those times.”
     “The biggest obstacle that I have is actually dealing with the various stages of childhood and dealing with my son in the situation that he is in or the stage that he is going through because what went from an always cute little toddler and baby has grown into a 4 years old boy with his own, his own will, his strong will pushing boundaries.”
     “Quite often there was a story behind the pictures and over time I used to forget what went behind the picture and it used to just become a picture. So I would have thousands of pict

    • 25 min
    Episode #50 - Billy Yalowitz | Great insight and Vision on Fatherhood

    Episode #50 - Billy Yalowitz | Great insight and Vision on Fatherhood

    Billy Yalowitz will share some of his great insight and vision on fatherhood. Became a father at 55 years old Billy leads workshops on parenting and fatherhood, helping parents from all around to network and connect, helping break the age old culture that fathers and men in general have no feelings or deep connections especially with other men and fathers.
    “I love introducing Zevi to the world. I love being with her. She discovers it on her own and I come with her. I love the parts and the ideas that I can show to her. But it is the relationship and the unfolding of the relationship. I like to think of Zevi as my contemporary.”
    From his inspiring and beautiful relationship with his daughter we learn once again that fatherhood is much more than just providing and protecting. It is also exposing and guiding, it is an active role in the family and in the raising of the children.  
    “Find another father and get really close to him. Find another father, or two or three other fathers that you can create regular play dates with and that you can turn to for support, that you can listen to each other about what is going well and what is hard about fathering and develop your network of other fathers to be close to.”
    He made his mission to teach parents through his workshops that networking and connecting with other parents is a key point in learning and growing as people and parents. He takes to heart the old saying that it takes a village to raise a child and takes it to another level from all of his own experience with his fathering project. It is amazing to listen how this project came together and the great things they have achieved so far.
    “It is like a daily practice that is a kind of a recovery practice. Any parent knows it is physically taxing work. Whether you are in the paid labor force or not. And for stay at home parents, stay at home moms and stay at home dads that is very physically and emotionally and intellectually challenging work. So how do we recover? How do we do that?”
    Tighten your seat belts and prepare for an amazing interview that will take your fathering skills to a whole new level and change yours and your family life for the better.
     
     
    OTHER QUOTES:
    “There is this daily struggle at the society that does not recognize parenting as such an important job. I see it as a job. Some of the women who ave been my mentors for decades have for a long time said that the work of giving care, parenting, teaching, the maintenance of the home, domestic work are all kinds of labor that are completely undervalued in the society.”
    “It is like a daily practice that is a kind of a recovery practice. Any parent knows it is physically taxing work. Whether you are in the paid labor force or not. And for stay at home parents, stay at home moms and stay at home dads that is very physically and emotionally and intellectually challenging work. So how do we recover? How do we do that?”
     “If you are on a heterosexual relationship particularly, notice the effect of the difficulty of parenting on you and your co parent, you and your female partner. Because I have noticed for me for sure and around the dads that I am close to that with the challenges of parenting the relationship with our female partners takes a really hard hit and we are more apt to act out in ways towards them in the moments of stress and challenge and fear than we might have been before.”
    “For a while I didn’t know what to do as an artist. I really wanted to keep Zevi, that is my daughter, central in my life and I was aware that work and specially the kind of work I do which is very encompassing and could take me away for periods of time, I wanted to change that, I wanted to keep my family and my daughter really central.”
    “Virtually all men I know in this society and other societies that I am familiar with that we are sys

    • 26 min
    Episode #49 - Jeffrey Cheatham | Make Fatherhood Fun

    Episode #49 - Jeffrey Cheatham | Make Fatherhood Fun

    Jeffrey Cheatham, single father and kids books author will share some of the life lessons about fatherhood he has learned the hard way and has been sharing through his books on today’s episode of the Diversity Dad Podcast.
    From finding his passion and calling on authoring books for children to raising his young girl the best he can we will go through some of the challenges and beautiful moments that Jeffrey has to share with us today.
    “My daughter teaches me things. As a parent we all go through things where we get super upset with our kid because they keep forgetting to twist on a cap of a drink in the refrigerator and it keeps spilling over, and then we learn a lesson of patience. Or the lessons of comunication. The lessons of understanding, because this is a child that we have to guide in the world.”
    From many things we will be reminded that fatherhood is something that we learn and not something that we should be good at straight from the start. Being humble and patient is a big part of that big learning process.
    “You got to make sure that your foundation is strong enough so that way you can help someone else. This kinda goes in anything where you can’t help people if you can’t help yourself. It doesn’t do any good for your child if you are not okay but you are trying to make sure that your child is okay. It means digging a bigger hole than the one you started with.”
    Jeffrey will also teach us a lot from his humility. About being humble enough to admit our flaws and mistakes, learn from them and move on. Something we need to be reminded of sometimes on an hourly basis.
    “It is all about growing. And also from my perspective living life and making mistakes, the journey in that is fun because you get to learn something new, and I really enjoy learning new things all the time.”
    Most important of all, Jeffrey will teach us to have fun on this long and difficult journey that fatherhood is. He will inspire us with his joy for challenging himself and for learning new things whenever possible and taking the best of it.
    “Make fatherhood fun.”
    We hope that you get out of this episode feeling the passion and strengh towards the betterment of yourself and  achievement of your goals, inspired by Jeffrey’s journey just as we did.
    OTHER QUOTES:
    “What makes me a diversity dad is the fact that I am not too proud to admit my mistakes as far as when it comes to raising my kid. Because my whole purpose in life right now is to make sure that my daughter becomes the best person that she can be.”
    “I’m not afraid to admit my flaws, but I am willing to give 100% to life in order to develop something greater for my kid to grow up in. And also, I am not afraid to work with others if the common objective is to create a better way of living for our kids and our kids kids, if that makes any sense.”
    “The thing that stands out to me the most is the fact that my daughter always asks questions about everything. And that makes me proud because that means she wants to learn. And that does my heart good.”
    “She will ask me what’s the next story is going to be about or who is going to be the next character of the story and then I explain it to her in a way and stuff like that. It just depends on what she is curious about. She will ask me because I always tell her always ask questions, if you don’t know, ask.”
     
    LINKS:
    Facebook:
    https://www.facebook.com/jlcheatham2/
    INSTAGRAM:
    https://www.instagram.com/jay_elcheatham2/
     
      “Let’s learn together. Let’s grow together. Let’s be dads together. Peace.”

    • 27 min
    Episode #48 - Jeremy Maynard | Furthering Fathering from your core

    Episode #48 - Jeremy Maynard | Furthering Fathering from your core

    Jeremy Maynard will share all the knowledge he have been gathering from his personal journey. He will inspire and teach us on how to be better man and better father through the core values of his enterprise called Furthering Fathering.
    “Instead of complaining about it which is looking at the common and plain, we decided to focus on what we could do to build our fathers. Initially we had three core principles which are honor, accountability and training but God has a strange way of making things make sense and as we added encouragement and reconciliation he exploded his word to us, it formed the word heart.”
    He has such an amazing story. As if being father of four young adults was not enough he has also experienced the big transition in and out of a divorce and the amazing experience of finding a life partner again. We learned a lot from his experiences on today’s episodes and we hope you do as much or even more. 
    “They may not be listening now, but you train them in the way they should go so when they are old, when they are adults, when they are older, they will not depart from it. The first learning style of a child is observation.”
    We are going to talk about the core values of Furthering Fatherhood which are honor, encouragement, accountability, reconciliation and training and how we can use those core values together with all the people we have around us, from spouse to family members, friends and, although on a smaller scale, people we pass by on our everyday lives.
    “(…) understand that it is okay to be whom you are and how you are designed and perfect how you are designed.”
    We hope everyone absorbs at least a bit of the powerful message Jeremy shared with us today. And if you do come back for more!
     
    OTHER QUOTES:
    “You have to honor others. Especially if you see other dads doing well, you have to encourage others to do the right things, the right way, for the right reasons. And you have to be accountable yourself. On the flip end, you have to have an ear for those who honor you.”
    “To operate in the best possibility for your child is to provide both aspects, the male and the female, the father and the wife, so that they get a balanced view of how life is. The men tend to think long term, woman are more detailed oriented. Those are generalizations, but true generalizations”
    “(…) understand that it is okay to be whom you are and how you are designed and perfect how you are designed.”
    “If you reduce a man to a wallet, he only becomes as valuable as what is in it. And fatherhood is so much more. Actually the best provision you can provide to your child is presence. Your presence and your wisdom.”
    “You get a picture of what agape love is. Unconditional love. Your child looks at you and loves you just because you are their daddy. They don’t have add-ons, or I want this I mean, they look at you and love you just because you are their daddy.”
    “We like to deal with symptoms, we like to march, and we like to do all sort of things when we see something go wrong. But we never get to the root of issues. The root of many of the core issues in society is fatherhood.”
     
    LINKS:
    Furthering Fathering Website
    http://www.furtheringfathering.org/
    Facebook - @TheFurtheringFatheringCorporation
    https://www.facebook.com/TheFurtheringFatheringCorporation
    Twitter – @FurtherFatherCo
    https://twitter.com/FurtherFatherCo
    Instagram - @FurtherFatherCo
    https://www.instagram.com/furtherfatherco/
     
      “Let’s learn together. Let’s grow together. Let’s be dads together. Peace.”
     

    • 29 min

Customer Reviews

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19 Ratings

19 Ratings

Jennifer Karin Jordan ,

Writer/Educator

Wisdom – it's a quality that many seek, and few attain. During my interview with Jama'l Chukueke, I encountered a man who exudes wisdom. He interviewed me for my new book about wise fathers called DADLY Wisdom. He treated me with patience and understanding when we first had some technical difficulties, and then he asked probing questions which helped me share more deeply about the book and its mission to celebrate and share the wisdom of wise, responsible.

On the Diversity Dad website, there is a picture of Jama'l cradling his daughter's head tenderly in his hand while giving her a sweet kiss on her tiny cheek. He is indeed an adoring father protecting and being there for his child, all from a spirit of the deepest love.

I feel honored that Jama'l included me, a woman, in his group of podcasts to help dads become the best dads they can be. I am like his little daughter all grown up. My father adored me, and I in turn so admired and respected his wisdom, that I wrote a book to celebrate dads.

I hope you all join the community of Diversity Dad. We learn and grow together, whether we are men or women. Thank you Jama'l, and I wish you, all Diversity Dads, and your listeners many blessings.

Jennifer K. Jordan
Author of DADLY Wisdom

DrMichelleWatson ,

This Dad is the Real Deal!

I recently had the privilege of being interviewed by Jama’l on this podcast and absolutely LOVED the heartfelt, honest, down-to-earth interaction we had. If you’re wanting to be encouraged, mentored, and supported by a dad who is right there with you in the trenches, then this podcast is for you. You can feel the humble strength of this dad through the airwaves as he longs to be the best dad he can be and is motivated to inspire fathers to be invested in their kids lives in proactive ways. I applaud Diversity Dad in reaching this generation with real hope and real dialogue!

Word Monster 215 ,

Amazing show

Diversity Dads is a much needed program for fathers to have an outlet and to collaborate with other like-minded fathers. A fundamental challenge in my inner city community stems from the lack of fathers, father figures, and positives male role models. Programs like DD brings light to these issues and encourage men to step up and offer guidance to their own as well as children in need of male influence. Thanks brother Jamal.

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