This conversation is about Divorce and understanding the emotional and physical spaces you go through. You will learn what to expect of Divorce from people who have experienced it. They talk about what happened and what they would do differently. This conversation is unique and the people sharing are real. Learn what we did, so that you do not have to make the same mistakes.
Daniel Herrold - Ep. 30.6 - Say something about how you feel, don’t keep all that bottled up.
In our final episode with Daniel, we close this series by looking back at the beginning and saying out loud what most don’t admit. We don’t know how to navigate a divorce. No one goes into it a marriage thinking about this ending as an option. We don’t prep for the process, or the life that comes after divorce, it’s new territory.
He also talks about dating after divorce and how that was for him. Giving some suggestions on what he would do differently, which is not date immediately after his divorce. He shares some personal experiences about it. He is also a big voice when it comes to speaking up about what works for you, and what doesn’t. Sharing and expressing yourself so that you get what you are missing. All this and more inside this episode.
My personal takeaway from Daniel’s conversation is that we all have the potential to be genuine when we speak it into existence. No matter how messy it can sometimes get, when we speak up about what works and what doesn’t, we can move forward in a way that compliments who we are.
If you want to know more about Daniel and what he is up to, you can find him on Instagram at @daniel.herrold, or his website www.DanielHerrold.com. He is also a co-founding member of a great community called Divorced over 40, which can be found locally across most of the United States, and more directly at www.Divorcedover40.com.
Daniel Herrold - Ep. 30.5 - Healing isn’t linear.
In this episode, Daniel talks about the importance of finding your tribe. Describe what that looks like, what qualities they should have to understand your situation, and how important it is for them to have been divorced. How having that common ground makes a difference. He talks about dating right after the divorce and how that is not the best idea, considering the healing process and what dating entails.
This episode is about the pitfalls he himself fell into immediately after the divorce that he advises avoiding if you are fortunate enough to have a choice. He talks about how jumping into dating only prolonged the healing process for him. Emphasizing the importance of healing and the time it takes, how it varies from person to person based on his experience. Pointing out that going out or avoiding the obvious will not move you forward any faster.
This episode is a friendly reminder that what we think will heal us, might not be what we need to heal us.
WEEKEND NUGGET - What is a Unicorn Divorce?
In this episode of the Nugget, we explore what the Unicorn Divorce is, how to create it, and I also share some tools that you can apply today. From the moment you decide this is something you want to consider, all the way through to the day-to-day management. Please understand that the Unicorn divorce begins and ends with you. Having this kind of divorce does not happen without effort from one of the parties involved. It takes clear communication, compassion, and consistency to make it happen. It takes a real intention.
The hope for you, the listener, inside this particular episode is that you leave understanding what a Unicorn Divorce is, how to create it for yourself, and what are some tools you can apply today. If you leave with one of these things I'm happy, but I am committed that you leave with all three. I had a Unicorn Divorce, as did Daniel Herrold, Episode 30. Check these out and hear for yourself what we did to make it happen.
Daniel Herrold - Ep. 30.4 - What I really care about is investing in the people that I love.
In this episode, Daniel shares how he discovered himself and what that process looked like for him. From living in a 600 sq. ft. apartment to driving a beat-up car with 180k miles on it. He speaks about the different phases one goes through in the beginning and how taking actions plays an important role. He shares how he invested more time with the people he loves and less time with those he didn't.
After the divorce, he began to think of all the things he hadn’t done that he wished he had. The places he hadn’t seen and the projects he hadn’t pursued.
In talking about the process, we can see why Daniel had the unicorn divorce. He represents something in all of us that most do not exercise. The ability to communicate what we want, the time to think of how to achieve it, and the most important of all. Nurturing the communities that embrace the person who we want to be, not the person they think we should be.
Trust your process!
Daniel Herrold - Ep. 30.3 - Money is replaceable.
In this episode, Daniel shares about his relationship with the ex during the divorce. How they agreed on things and how they communicated instead of lunging towards representation and pettiness. He reveals how they kept the same parenting styles, shared time with the kids together, and did it all against the advice of legally inclined relatives and advising friends.
This episode is filled with hope and kindness, and it has their kid’s best interest guiding it, not the race to win against the ex.
I think that if you are someone who is in it right now, about to pick an attorney, or just lost about how to be in the process. Daniel will shine some light for you on what worked for him.
He had a Unicorn divorce.
WEEKEND NUGGET - Why do we get married?
In this nugget, we travel to the reasons for the topic. Where did it begin, how has it evolved, and why it is so important that we understand it. Marriage is a beautiful union of two souls into a commitment that ends in death do you part. Pretty heavy stuff. This conversation, I believe, brings some clarity to the bigger picture, which is why did we choose to begin this journey that ultimately brought you to my doorstep, podstep in this instance.
My hope is that after you listen to this episode you find a perspective that gives you freedom around the divorce process. That you do not resign to the idea of marriage, but that you source the information and make up new guidelines that work for you, as well as, your new partner.
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Peter made a huge impact on my life and I can’t thank him enough for helping me through this process.
Great listen and relatable to what I went through during my first six months of divorce. Motivational to making you feel divorce is not the final stop, it’s just the beginning to getting your happy back.