326 episodes
Do You F*cking Mind? LiSTNR
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4.9 • 726 Ratings
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Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez.
On Mondays we dive into episodes with a combo of neuroscience and pop pscyhology: your pep talk and mindset hacks are all here. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak.
And on Thursdays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions.
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328. HEAD NOISE: Exes Lies Part 2, Forever Single and Thriving But Upset with Men, and Daddy Issues,
In the last Head Noise episode you guys LOVED the lies exes told so I’m bringing I back for an even more cooked part 2!
And then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions.
I'm 24, forever single, thriving and upset with men. ‘ve been single my whole life and honestly thrive. But I’m curious about what its’ like in a partnership and am open to a boyfriend but very rarely do I get genuinely excited by a guy. When I do I REALLY do. But every guy I’ve ever like has had another girl in their lives they choose over me. I feel like a second choice or someone’s back up. One guy literally said that I was his second choice once a few year ago lol. Am I doing something wrong? And How can I make it hurt less when I don’t feel chosen?
My dad and I have a good relationship when he’s in a good space, but when he’s in a bad place he can be a real arsehole Recently he and I got in a fight over text, and at the next family hang out I went to say hello to him and he gave me the most awkward side hug and barely talked to me. What do I do – I want a relationship with my dad but his behaviour is really childish and hurtful.
LINKS
If you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com
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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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327. Matthew Hussey on How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person and Live Happily (No Matter What)
New York Times best-selling author and international life and dating coach megastar Matthew Hussey joins the podcast!
We're diving deep into his advice on dating, owning who you are, being comfortable with what you want, and his brand new book Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person and Live Happily (No Matter What). I DARE you to leave this episode not feeling like a changed bean!
LINKS
Buy ‘Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily (No Matter What)’ by Matthew Hussey at https://www.lovelifebook.com/ .
Follow @thematthewhussey on Instagram https://rebrand.ly/matthewh-IG .
Check out Matthew’s YouTube Channel @thematthewhussey at https://rebrand.ly/mh-youtube .
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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez Guest: Matthew Hussey . Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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326. HEAD NOISE: The MANY Lies Exes Tell, Growing Apart, I Cheated on my Husband
First I have a life update about something TRULY shocking that happened to me over the weekend, and I go through your stories of things men have lied to you about!
Then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions. In today’s episode we’ve got two really opposite topics!
My husband and I are in out mid 20s and have been together since our late 20s. His family are very close with him. I have recently realised that I have always put his needs above mine – his personality has become my personality. I want to do so much more, experience the world and step outside my comfort zone. I want to put off having kids for a while and he doesn’t accept or understand it. I want change and he is so happy and content without change. We’re growing apart and I don’t know what to do.
I’ve cheated on my husband with someone I had a huge connection with. We’ve ended it now as we are both married and decided we didn’t want to leave our partners for each other. Now that it is fully ended I don’t feel like I need to tell my husband as our relationship has really improved. I would just be unburdening my conscience to ruin lives, when I’ve already shut down that cheating relationship and am moving forward with my life. How do I alleviate the feelings of guilt that are clouding my moving forward.
LINKS
If you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com
Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG
Follow @alexispredez on IG
Follow @listnrentertainment on IG
CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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325. Trauma Bonding: What it is, How to Notice it, and Knowing When and How to Leave
What exactly is Trauma bonding? What if I told you that bonding with someone else over a traumatic event isn’t actually trauma bonding – it’s something else entirely! It’s about a relationship with someone who is traumatising and abusing you.
I’m going to take you through what a trauma bond is, how to spot it, the 7 stages of trauma bonding, and how to know when (and how) to get out of a trauma bonded relationship.
LINKS
Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG
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Follow @listnrentertainment on IG
CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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324. HEAD NOISE: Sexually Inexperienced, Letting them Down Easy, Relationship Insecurities and Messed Up Parents
It's Headnoise my beans and that means it’s time for me to answer your questions. I'm answering four of your questions this week ranging from an imbalance in sexual relationships in a partnership to trying to overcome the terrible relationship model parents set for one listener from childhood til now.
AND if you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com
My current partner has had very limited sexual experience and our sex life is very average. Sexual compatibility is important to me and I don’t know the best way to proceed. He is a green flag in every other sense it’s just that we are at different experience and comfort levels sexually and I don’t just want to "cross my fingers: and hope it gets better. What should I do?
After listening to your episode on Limerence Vs Love (linked below) I am beginning to think I might be the object of limerence with someone. The person I’m dating obviously has stronger feelings than me and I was wondering what the best way is to let them down easy?
I’m worried that I’m my fiancé’s second choice. I’ve seen him in the past search her up on social media and it’s a niggling doubt that the only reason he is with me is because I was the safe choice after his tumultuous relationship with her.
Struggling in a relationship based on the model my parents set for me. I discovered my mum was cheating on my dad when I was a kid (saw the text messages) and withheld that from my dad – and I know the affair continues to this day. They have a terrible relationship. So all I’ve ever seen modelled is disfunction and hurt.
LINKS
Listen to my episode on Limerance – Episode 302 Limerance Vs Love https://pod.fo/e/21cef1 .
Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG
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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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323. You Don't have to Beg, Force, or Chase to get what you Deserve
How do you know when something isn’t right for you? Sometimes we get caught up in the idea that hard work or working really hard for something will always bring it out in the best in us, but sometimes it’s just not worth it. In this episode we’re going to find out how to identify that and how to stop chasing after things that are not meant for you.
We’ll also find out what you can do instead to start living a life that feels right.
LINKS
Listen to Episode 317 ‘Intrinsic Vs Extrinsic Motivation’ at https://pod.fo/e/228a96.
Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG
Follow @alexispredez on IG
Follow @listnrentertainment on IG
CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh
Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com
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Customer Reviews
I couldn’t recommend a better podcast
This podcast has brought me light in my darkest times. I found DYFM on a TikTok slide and people raved about her podcast and I had just went through a what felt like traumatic breakup. I listened to one of her episode on heartbreak and how to move on and let me just say I fell asleep to it. She is so mindful and honest. The way she words things is better than most people who promote the same advice. She gives you the blunt, real, and raw truth while also comforting you in so many ways. I swear she helped me heal through the phone and that sounds crazy but genuinely I felt better after ONE episode. Now I fall asleep to her podcast almost every night when a new one is released or go back and listen to one I have alr listened to. When I say she brought light to a dark place I mean brought me out of darkness. She is 1000% worth listening to!
LOVEEEEEE
Absolutely love this pod! I’ve been a listener for 2 years now and can contribute much of my healing journey (along with other modalities) to this pod! Love Alexis and her raw realness. Always keeps me laughing and questioning myself and those around me. Alexis you rock and I love what you put out into the world!
Don’t know where I’d be without this podcast
Alexis’s podcast has been my therapy for the last few years. This definitely helped me find myself and my voice without the fear of judgement from others. Not to mention getting through two really hard breakups and navigating my twenty’s. I support this podcast 100% and recommend to anyone who wants to be a healthier version of themselves. THANK x1million! xoxox