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Comparison doesn’t sound super threatening. It’s easy to tell someone to stop comparing yourself to others. It’s even easier (and cheesier - although true) to say, comparison is the thief of joy. Who really wants to be reminded of that when they;re looking at the mess or their best next to someone else.
The scary thing about comparison is the connection it has to low self-esteem, depression, and mental health issues. Not everyone copes with comparison the same and it can really affect yur quality of life and the quality of your relationships.
Melissa Ambrosini is a best-selling author, “queen of mastering your mean girl,” dancer and former actress. She’s learned how to work with your inner critic and allow the energy of your emotions to go through you instead of fighting and suppressing them.
Lisa is speaking with Melissa to understand how comparison is a disease that impacts self worth. As important as relationships are to us all, whether you admit it or not, accepting that the relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll have in your lifetime.
Regardless of the trauma you’ve experienced in your childhood, awareness about what you’re saying to yourself about yourself is critical, and so is the story you’ve been carrying with you since then. Melissa wants to remind you to embrace your uniqueness and know that you are the best in the world at being you.
Melissa’s 4 Steps to Feeling ACE!
A - awareness
C - choosing a different path
E - eliminate exit or exhale
S - shift your state
“Make no mistake, comparisonitis is a toxic disease that’s eating us up and spitting us out leaving paralyzed with fear, crippled with guilt, and our confidence in tatters” - Melissa Ambrosini
Get Melissa’s new book, Comparisonitis: https://amzn.to/3Q0Nfn4
Lisa’s episode on the Melissa Ambrosini Show: https://bit.ly/3Q4MGZj
0:00 | Introduction to Melissa Ambrosini
0:38 | Body Comparison Tearing Us Apart
7:40 | Careful What You Say to Yourself
11:34 | 4 Steps To Feel ACE
18:21 | Not Getting What You Want
26:05 | How to Park Your Emotions
35:12 | Use Self Sabotage As Fuel
41:34 | Stop Rejecting Your Emotions
50:53 | External Validation
“Every ‘no’ that I got along my journey slowly chipped away at my self-confidence and my worth.” [2:54]
“It’s really sad that we tear ourselves apart, that we pick apart every single freckle, bump, blemish on our body, [...] and our children are watching.” [5:18]
“You’ve only got two options. You go down the comparison where you beat yourself up or you go down the other one which is inspiring and motivating.” [16:41]
“Relationships are so important, and so many of them get fractured because we’re not practicing crystal clear communication. It is imperative, not only with others, but with ourselves.” [34:46]
“Self-sabotage is a big area that a lot of people struggle with and it doesn’t have to be your reality. You can use the inspiration from other people as fuel to propel you forward.” [36:48]
“My default was lack, but lack is so boring, and that default caused me a lot of suffering that I chose a different path.” [37:37]