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The Elegant Warrior is a podcast for all of those who want to ask for what they want and get it, with elegance. Heather Hansen interviews guests like activist, mom and actress Kelly Rutherford, authors BJ Fogg and Nir Eyal, ABC Legal Analyst and host of Live PD Dan Abrams, and many more, discussing how they define elegance and how they maintain it in times of trial. 
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The Elegant Warrior is a podcast for all of those who want to ask for what they want and get it, with elegance. Heather Hansen interviews guests like activist, mom and actress Kelly Rutherford, authors BJ Fogg and Nir Eyal, ABC Legal Analyst and host of Live PD Dan Abrams, and many more, discussing how they define elegance and how they maintain it in times of trial. 
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    You Have a Jury Too with Jill Huntley Taylor

    You Have a Jury Too with Jill Huntley Taylor

    Jill Huntley Taylor has been a trial consultant for 20 years. She has her PhD in social psychology and uses it to apply a story model of juror decision making. In this episode, we dive into YOUR jury, whether it’s your family, your partner, your friends or your clients and customers. We also discuss advocating for your stories using all of the tools of an advocate. 
    Jill’s book choice was Just Mercy
    Her song choice was It’s Amazing by Jem

    Is It Fun? 

    Is It Fun? 

    In today’s episode, I share a question that has changed many of my coaching clients’ lives. Is it fun? Too often we are pushing, striving and working so hard to achieve success that we forget the value of fun. Here I discuss just how valuable fun can be, and three questions to ask yourself every day that will help you to have much more fun. 

    Being Fully Charged with Meaghan Murphy

    Being Fully Charged with Meaghan Murphy

    Meaghan Murphy is the Editor in Chief of Women’s Day and the author of Your Fully Charged Life-A Radically Simple Approach to Having Endless Energy and Filling EVery Day with YAY! 
    You can buy her book here: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Fully-Charged-Life-Radically/dp/0593188578
    Her book recommendation is Clearing Up Your Mental Mess by Caroline Leaf
    And her song choice is Feeling Myself by Will I Am and Miley Cyrus: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VRuoR--LdqQ

    The Entitlement Gap

    The Entitlement Gap

    This week I’m talking about the Entitlement Gap. It’s the idea that men feel entitled to promotions, jobs, support and power and women do not. I read about it in The Female Lead’s study, which is here. And I wrote about it in a Medium article, here.

    Bryan McFarland on the 3x5 Life

    Bryan McFarland on the 3x5 Life

    Bryan McFarland is an entrepreneur and the founder of 3x5 Life. At 3x5 Life they make daily productivity cards to keep track of tasks and celebrate wins. The cards are analog, so you don’t have to go into your phone to check what is on your schedule or To Do List. They’re in sight, to remind you of your tasks. And they also contain morning gratitude and afternoon win prompts, to keep you focused on the good and on celebration.
    Bryan’s book choice is The Slight Edge-Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success and Happiness You can buy it here: https://www.amazon.com/Slight-Edge-Turning-Disciplines-Happiness/dp/1626340463
    His song choice is Trevor Hall “Everything I Need": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E2Ppwwa3zfI

    Trade defensiveness for Curiosity

    Trade defensiveness for Curiosity

    You can pre-order my next book, Advocate to Win-10 Tools to Ask for What You Want and Get It, here. Then send my team the receipt at heather@advocatetowin.com and you’ll get the course with the ten tools for free! 
    Twenty years as a defense attorney will make you defensive. It’s part of the job after all. But I’ve found the more defensive I am, the worse I do, in the courtroom and also in life. And when I trade defensiveness for curiosity, I win. As a self advocacy coach, I’ve seen this work for my clients as well. When they trade defensiveness for curiosity, they win. 
    First, you should know my definition of win. It’s from the Cambridge Dictionary, and it is to “receive something positive because you’ve earned it”. You can receive more fun, better relationships, more self awareness, and better outcomes when you earn it by trading your defensiveness for curiosity. 
    It worked for me. Years ago I’d been in a relationship for a few years and we’d been through a lot together. But suddenly my partner started saying “You’re miserable.” This made me miserable! I got very defensive and I could feel it in my body. My shoulders jumped up and became earrings. My stomach tied itself in knots, my jaw clenched and my hips tightened. So I defended. 
    “I’m not miserable! Ask anyone. Anyone who knows me will tell you I’m enthusiastic, optimistic and happy. For God’s sake, my nickname used to be Pollyanna!” I’d yell — miserably. 
    And I’d become more miserable. Then one day I was working on my next book, Advocate to Win, and sharing the 5 Cs of an Advocate. One of those Cs is Curiosity, and I decided to try trading my defensiveness for curiosity. I got curious. 
    “Am I miserable?” The answer was yes. The thoughts I was thinking about this relationship were making me miserable. As soon as I put down my defenses that became very clear. Then I decided to get even more curious. What if I owned it? “I am miserable.” It didn’t feel good, but it gave me a lot of insight. It was time for a change. After some work and some awareness I was able to change my thoughts about the relationship so that I felt less miserable. And then I was able to leave the relationship and maintain the friendship. No more misery-that was my win! And I earned it by putting down my defenses and being curious. 
    My clients have had similar results when they’ve traded their defensiveness for curiosity. One of my clients has a husband who called her boring. She told me about this and listed all of her defenses. 
    “I get up at 4am to play volleyball!” “I love to party!” “I play dress up with the kids all the time!” 
    She had her defenses ready. But I asked her to trade them for curiosity. 
    “Are there times you are boring?”
    I visually watched her shoulders drop. 
    “Well, sure. I go to bed early. I don’t always want to watch TV late at night with him. And sometimes I don’t want to go out when he does…..Maybe I AM boring!” 
    We both laughed. It was no longer such a big deal to be boring when she owned that it was possible. And that meant she could talk to her husband about it without fighting. When you trade defensiveness for curiosity, you tend to fight a whole lot less. They talked about the ways in which she could be less “boring” and he could be less “lazy” (her biggest criticism of him). And now they’re both having a lot more fun. 
    And trading your defensiveness for curiosity doesn’t mean you have to acquiesce. Sometimes you do have to defend. In those situations, you start with curiosity and then move on to the defenses. 
    When I was trying cases, I’d always start with curiosity. I defended doctors when their patients sued them. And when the case came in, I’d approach the allegations with curiosity. How could this be true? How could the jury think this is tru

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
65 Ratings

65 Ratings

Abeezzyy13 ,

Life Changing/Relateable

The day I found this podcast, is the day I took charge of my life. I never thought I could handle being a pre-med student, let alone maintain a 4.0 GPA. With this podcast I learned how to cope with stress, change negative thoughts, and advocate for my needs in the classroom. If you want to upgrade yourself,I honestly recommend subscribing! Thank you so much Heather <3

LJ&Blessings ,

ELEGANT WARRIOR

I look forward to this podcast every week. It has inspired me and given me more confidence to be my authentic self. I highly recommend it and am so grateful that I found it!

BanksofCallie ,

Elegant. Sophisticated. Intelligent.

If you identify with those 3 words as a woman, you need to be listening to Heather! Her background in law (and therefore psychology) is immensely helpful when addressing how we as powerful women can be more effective, efficient, and sane 🤣 Thank you for all the 💎 you have dropped since starting this podcast!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼

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