Emotional Balance Sheet with Paul Fenner

Paul Fenner
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Welcome to the Emotional Balance Sheet, the go-to podcast for parents with multiple kids, especially those with twins, triplets, or more, who are navigating the maze of modern family life and personal finance. Whether you're overwhelmed by education costs, retirement planning, career transitions, or trying to define your purpose and plan, we're here to guide you with empathy, expertise, and encouragement. Hosted by Paul Fenner, Founder of TAMMA Capital, a Certified Financial Planner®, and parent to 4 kids, including a set of triplets, our podcast is your ally in the quest for financial peace of mind, proving that money matters, but family comes first. We understand that today's parents are juggling multiple financial and lifestyle priorities. That's why each episode is packed with actionable insights and real-world solutions that fit the needs of busy families. Subscribe now and join our community of empowered parents at tammacapital.com.

  1. 5D AGO

    Pessimism Sounds Smart, Optimism Builds Wealth

    Why does bad news feel so convincing while good news feels like a sales pitch? If you've ever caught yourself doom-scrolling financial headlines and then second-guessing your entire plan, you're not alone. In this episode, I explore why pessimism sounds smart, why optimism has been the better long-term bet, and how busy parents can filter out the noise without burying their heads in the sand. I share a story about a client who almost made a fear-driven decision and talk about my own battle with pessimistic thinking. This week's action: notice where your financial anxiety is actually coming from. Is it your own analysis, or someone else's headline? Connect with Paul If you're a family with multiple kids who feel like your money should be working harder but aren't sure where to start, I do complimentary 30-minute financial reviews. Schedule a meeting here. For resources discussed in this episode, visit tammacapital.com/podcast. Follow Paul on LinkedIn. Resources Featured in This Episode: Staying the Course - How Long-Term Investing Builds Wealth Through Market Cycles Parenting and Portfolios: How Life's Chaos Brings Unexpected Calm Wealth Planning is For Everyone

    9 min

  2. APR 9

    What To Do When The Plan Stops Working

    You made the plan. You ran the numbers. You did everything right. So why does it feel like you're one unexpected expense away from starting over? This week, I am focusing on what happens when the plan stops working, and why that might not be the disaster you think it is. I share a story about a family whose perfect five-year projection fell apart after an unexpected health diagnosis, and what they discovered in the rebuilding. I also cover my own experience navigating career changes and raising triplets +1 when plans rarely survive contact with reality. Your action step: Look at your current financial plan and ask yourself what happens when it breaks. What would you protect? What would you let go? That awareness is the beginning of real resilience. Connect with Paul If you're a family with multiple kids who feel like your money should be working harder but aren't sure where to start, I do complimentary 30-minute financial reviews. Schedule a meeting here. For resources discussed in this episode, visit tammacapital.com/podcast. Follow Paul on LinkedIn. Resources Featured in This Episode: Wealth Planning is For Everyone Funded Contentment: Am I Going To Be Okay The Longest Relationship You Will Ever Have

    9 min

  3. APR 2

    The Price and Pressure to Create Perfect Memories

    What happens when the opportunities we give our kids become the pressure we put on ourselves? Dr. Jennifer Dragonette, our resident therapist expert, is back with us to dig into the gap between what we want for our families and what our families actually want. It started with a cruise my triplets didn't enjoy, a conversation with another dad at a basketball game, and an NHL hockey player from our local high school who was the star goalie in the recent winter Olympics. Our conversation focuses on the instinct to provide our kids with opportunities we never had, and how that instinct can quietly turn into pressure on everyone, especially parents. Dr. Jen shares her own stories of loosening the reins on family adventures and learning to ask rather than guess what her kids want. We explore why teenagers pulling away is developmentally normal, why honest answers from our kids are an act of trust, and how reframing our goal from raising teenagers to raising adults changes everything. If you've ever spent money on a vacation and wondered why no one seemed grateful, or felt the weight of the countdown to when your kids leave home, this one's for you. Try asking your kids one question this week: "What would feel really good to you?" And then actually listen. Connect with Paul If you're a family with multiple kids who feel like your money should be working harder but aren't sure where to start, I do complimentary 30-minute financial reviews. Schedule a meeting here. For resources discussed in this episode, visit tammacapital.com/podcast. Follow Paul on LinkedIn. Resources Featured in This Episode: You Can Always Make More Money Why Families Should Stop Waiting for the "Perfect" Time to Travel Why Your Goals Keep Failing

    43 min

  4. MAR 26

    Can We Really Do That?

    What happens when you're doing everything right on paper but still feel one car repair away from a financial meltdown? Or when you're fully present with your kids today but have no idea how you'll pay for college in five years? Most families I work with fall into one of these two camps, and both are fragile in different ways. This week, I'm exploring Morgan Housel's idea that the best way to deal with uncertainty is to save like a pessimist and invest like an optimist. I share stories of two families on opposite ends of this spectrum, why holding both mindsets at once feels so uncomfortable, and what I've learned about building margin without hiding from life. Your action step: Look at your actual situation this week. Do you have real cash reserves sitting accessible? Are you consistently investing for the future? If one piece is missing, that's where your fragility lives. Connect with Paul If you're a family with multiple kids who feel like your money should be working harder but aren't sure where to start, I do complimentary 30-minute financial reviews. Schedule a meeting here. For resources discussed in this episode, visit tammacapital.com/podcast. Follow Paul on LinkedIn. Resources Featured in This Episode: Why "Just Waiting" Is Holding You Back in Life and Finance Finding The Meaningful Moments in Career, Parenting & Life Helping Your Kids Develop Good Money Habits

    10 min

  5. MAR 19

    Why Quiet Time Is Your Most Valuable Financial Skill

    I'm wrestling with a question that's been on my mind lately: Have we given money a job it simply can't do? There is a complicated relationship between money and our emotions, and how we sometimes hope numbers and bank balances will take away our fear or anxiety, even though those are emotions, not equations. Inspired by Carl Richards' book "Your Money," I talk about how our financial lives and our feelings are tangled together, especially for those of us in the thick of parenting, where there's never really an "off season." With insights from thought leaders like Morgan Housel, I explore the challenge of defining your goals and finding what "enough" really means, even as the goalposts keep moving. If you've ever wondered why having more money doesn't quite silence your worries or how your money beliefs shape your life, you're not alone. Connect with Paul If you're a family with multiple kids who feel like your money should be working harder but aren't sure where to start, I do complimentary 30-minute financial reviews. Schedule a meeting here. For resources discussed in this episode, visit tammacapital.com/podcast. Follow Paul on LinkedIn. Resources Featured in This Episode: Your Money: Reimagining Wealth in 101 Simple Sketches Running Towards the Challenge of Why and Enough 5 Timeless Financial Truths That Will Never Change

    9 min

  6. MAR 12

    When Money Buys Everything Except the Time to Enjoy It

    You're earning more than ever, but do you actually control your time? Most families discover that financial success came at a cost they didn't expect to pay. In this episode, I explore the real dividend money provides: not fancy stuff, but time autonomy. I share the pattern I see in families who've achieved financial success but lost control of their schedules, and why the finish line with kids at home comes faster than you think. This week's challenge: Name three things you did for money that cost you time. Then ask if the trade was worth it. Connect with Paul If you're a family with multiple kids who feel like your money should be working harder but aren't sure where to start, I do complimentary 30-minute financial reviews. Schedule a meeting here. For resources discussed in this episode, visit tammacapital.com/podcast. Follow Paul on LinkedIn. Resources Featured in This Episode: Scaling Yourself Learning How to Use Time as a Resource An Emotional Balance Sheet Can Guide Hard-to-Quantify Financial Choices

    9 min

  7. MAR 5

    Places to Hide Aren't Roadblocks

    Ever feel stuck between wanting to start something new and actually making it happen?  Whether it's launching a business, updating a resume, or initiating a difficult conversation, something often gets in the way—and it's not always what we think. We often label our hesitation as "roadblocks," but more often than not, those roadblocks are actually places we hide from fear—fear of the unknown, failure, or disappointment.  Roadblocks are often external barriers we point to, such as busy schedules or endless tasks, which usually cover our inner fears. What's the thing you've been thinking about—and what's stopping you from moving forward?  Let's start calling things what they are and make progress toward what matters to us. Connect with Paul If you're a family with multiple kids who feel like your money should be working harder but aren't sure where to start, I do complimentary 30-minute financial reviews. Schedule a meeting here. For resources discussed in this episode, visit tammacapital.com/podcast. Follow Paul on LinkedIn. Resources Featured in This Episode: How to Use Emotions as Information Fear of the Unknown 3 Reasons Why We Worry About the Wrong Things

    6 min

  8. FEB 26

    Why Behavior Beats Spreadsheets

    Have you ever wondered why two families with nearly identical financial situations can end up in completely different places? It's not because the math was wrong, but because of how they responded when it mattered. Today, I am digging into why financial success has less to do with what we know and more to do with what we actually do when we're staring down competing priorities. I walk through two real client situations in which both families had solid plans but were facing trade-offs among mortgage payoff, 529 contributions, retirement investing, and home upgrades. Same numbers, different behavior. One family saw flexibility as freedom, the other saw debt elimination as emotional relief. I also explore how our sense of security, fear of missing out, and guilt about not doing enough for our kids quietly drive the financial decisions we think are purely logical, and why Morgan Housel's idea that optimism is about perseverance, not perfection, applies to how we parent and plan. Your action step this week: pick one financial behavior that tends to trip you up and simply notice it. Don't judge it. Just observe because you can't improve what you can't see. Connect with Paul If you're a family with multiple kids who feel like your money should be working harder but aren't sure where to start, I do complimentary 30-minute financial reviews. Schedule a meeting here. For resources discussed in this episode, visit tammacapital.com/podcast. Follow Paul on LinkedIn. Resources Featured in This Episode: Rethinking the Relationship Between Money and Happiness Inflated Expectations: The Hidden Force Undermining Financial Peace Money is a Number, Emotions are Stories

    9 min
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Welcome to the Emotional Balance Sheet, the go-to podcast for parents with multiple kids, especially those with twins, triplets, or more, who are navigating the maze of modern family life and personal finance. Whether you're overwhelmed by education costs, retirement planning, career transitions, or trying to define your purpose and plan, we're here to guide you with empathy, expertise, and encouragement. Hosted by Paul Fenner, Founder of TAMMA Capital, a Certified Financial Planner®, and parent to 4 kids, including a set of triplets, our podcast is your ally in the quest for financial peace of mind, proving that money matters, but family comes first. We understand that today's parents are juggling multiple financial and lifestyle priorities. That's why each episode is packed with actionable insights and real-world solutions that fit the needs of busy families. Subscribe now and join our community of empowered parents at tammacapital.com.

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