1 hr 9 min
Emotionally Damaged Parents & The Childhood Trauma It Brings with Justin Long - Episode 234 The Irreplaceable Man Podcast
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- Self-Improvement
This episode is all about breaking the cycle of parental childhood trauma. Many parents suffer catastrophic losses, traumas or even abuse at a very young age and subsequently go on to raise their own kids the same way, often with dire consequences. Mark speaks from personal experience and we can all relate to some degree, that even when we’ve forgiven the abuse, it is difficult to escape the cycle and it takes most men an entire lifetime to truly figure it all out.
This is a very strong attempt at making sense of emotional damage. Damage that caused many men to battle it out with their identity. Struggling with our masculine identity as a result of childhood trauma is something we all experience in some form. How we deal with it, and how it manifests into adulthood is something we are ultimately responsible for. But there is a lack of education on the topic. Ian and Mark go through it all, from the internal tools, to vulnerability, gender roles, and allowing yourself to feel.
The only thing more terrifying than living with emotional childhood wounds is allowing those experiences to negatively impact your future relationships. It’s time to talk about childhood trauma and how the impacts are not being addressed. Mark talks about how men should be more vulnerable, the ultimate message is for us to understand ourselves and be honest. When we make choices to be honest, we take control of our lives. The more self-aware we become, the stronger our decisions and actions can be. Only then can we begin to move forward.
In this episode, you will learn about
00:07:14 - Emotionally Damaged Parents
00:07:51 - Turning to work and alcohol
00:09:23 - How I developed my identity
00:10:23 - Seeking Approval
00:14:06 - Primary Caregivers’ Failure
00:14:26 - Your value doesn't come from exterior things
00:21:14 - When I stopped living for others & started living for me
00:21:43 - It takes a supportive partner
00:23:22 - Forgiveness
00:25:18 - EMDR Trauma Therapy
00:27:31 - Breaking the cycle and letting go
00:29:38 - Swapping traditional gender roles
00:33:26 - Cultural Excuses and breaking the cycle
00:36:20 - Be at peace when you become aware
00:38:07 - Mob mentality
00:39:50 - Toxic Masculinity
00:43:15 - Comparing your insides to others outsides
00:48:32 - Revealing your most authentic self
00:50:28 - Vulnerability
00:55:45 - Freeing yourself from distraction
01:05:50 - Communication challenges - 1:02:25
Connect with Justin Long on:
Websites:
www.jboydlong.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JBoydLong/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jboydlong/
Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:
Email: listeners@menonpurposepodcast.com
Website: https://ianlobas.com/podcast/
Join the Men on Purpose Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity
Want to watch this and other awesome interviews? Check out our YouTube channel!
#trauma
#masculinity
#authenticity
This episode is all about breaking the cycle of parental childhood trauma. Many parents suffer catastrophic losses, traumas or even abuse at a very young age and subsequently go on to raise their own kids the same way, often with dire consequences. Mark speaks from personal experience and we can all relate to some degree, that even when we’ve forgiven the abuse, it is difficult to escape the cycle and it takes most men an entire lifetime to truly figure it all out.
This is a very strong attempt at making sense of emotional damage. Damage that caused many men to battle it out with their identity. Struggling with our masculine identity as a result of childhood trauma is something we all experience in some form. How we deal with it, and how it manifests into adulthood is something we are ultimately responsible for. But there is a lack of education on the topic. Ian and Mark go through it all, from the internal tools, to vulnerability, gender roles, and allowing yourself to feel.
The only thing more terrifying than living with emotional childhood wounds is allowing those experiences to negatively impact your future relationships. It’s time to talk about childhood trauma and how the impacts are not being addressed. Mark talks about how men should be more vulnerable, the ultimate message is for us to understand ourselves and be honest. When we make choices to be honest, we take control of our lives. The more self-aware we become, the stronger our decisions and actions can be. Only then can we begin to move forward.
In this episode, you will learn about
00:07:14 - Emotionally Damaged Parents
00:07:51 - Turning to work and alcohol
00:09:23 - How I developed my identity
00:10:23 - Seeking Approval
00:14:06 - Primary Caregivers’ Failure
00:14:26 - Your value doesn't come from exterior things
00:21:14 - When I stopped living for others & started living for me
00:21:43 - It takes a supportive partner
00:23:22 - Forgiveness
00:25:18 - EMDR Trauma Therapy
00:27:31 - Breaking the cycle and letting go
00:29:38 - Swapping traditional gender roles
00:33:26 - Cultural Excuses and breaking the cycle
00:36:20 - Be at peace when you become aware
00:38:07 - Mob mentality
00:39:50 - Toxic Masculinity
00:43:15 - Comparing your insides to others outsides
00:48:32 - Revealing your most authentic self
00:50:28 - Vulnerability
00:55:45 - Freeing yourself from distraction
01:05:50 - Communication challenges - 1:02:25
Connect with Justin Long on:
Websites:
www.jboydlong.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JBoydLong/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jboydlong/
Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:
Email: listeners@menonpurposepodcast.com
Website: https://ianlobas.com/podcast/
Join the Men on Purpose Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity
Want to watch this and other awesome interviews? Check out our YouTube channel!
#trauma
#masculinity
#authenticity
1 hr 9 min