In this episode, Aaron talks with Emily Freeman about supporting and empowering men to go from confused to confident in their dating life.
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Dating can be challenging right? There’s so many nuances that you can get caught up in that keep you stuck from just pursuing someone, having fun and enjoying the journey.
For men it can be really challenging on dating apps, first dates, and simply knowing how to attract the kind of women you desire.
So I invited my next guest Emily Freeman, who empowers and inspires driven men to go from confused to confident and find the women of their dreams.
Emily does such a great job of bringing awareness to what are often common dating frustrations for men.
We talk about green flags to look for in a high quality women, what women are are looking for in dating profiles, pursuing vs chasing, the stories we make up in our head about the person we’re dating, and some of the underlying issues that keep men from leaning into the relationship they desire..
It’s packed full of good stuff
Excited to have you, Aaron has become a fan of Emily
Why Emily started coaching men Dating is deeply personal, Emily wanted to create a safe space for men Dating is a complete mirror Release shame
Women are looking for leadership It’s extremely attractive for a man to make decisions reducing the polarity of Feminine and masculine energy can reduce attraction
The way to be attractive is to know what you want Establish self-love to know how to receive a woman’s love You have to feel it yourself first, what am I rejecting when it comes to receiving love and affection? When something doesn’t feel familiar we are often not attracted, thats why so many men chase “unavailable”
Lets talk about the green flag What are the green flags in a high quality babe ? She knows how to meet her own needs and effectively communicate what she needs and wants Boundaries allow a women to be wholly herself while stepping into a partnership Laughing is a green flag A women who is present at willing to take things slow Intensity vs intimacy You can’t just ask all the right questions Enthusiastically responding to your requests
Some men feel like it falls on their shoulders Alleviate the pressure by contacting and Another green flag is noticing how she treats other people, how does she handle conflict?
The mirror for all of those green flags to be reflected back for women The anxious attachment can get lost looking for a sign and not being in the actual relationship
Aaron Genuinely misses the art of dating romance Crawling into love intimacy that happens in Patience is really important
Confusion around leaning into something vs rushing in to a relationship Being cautiously optimistic, with the expectation that you are still getting to know each other
People jump too quickly into assuming whether someone is right or wrong for them Collecting “datapoint” just taking notice of what’s your
Marriage isn’t an expectation anymore it’s a choice The head & heart conversation, you can know all of the things but at the end of the day can you just sit down and have a conversation
Just let what is be There’s a lot of fear in dating and thats why they call it “falling into love..” The body doesn’t know the difference between anxiety and excitement.. the brain interprets it Anxious-excited trap at the end of the day it’s fear
If you’re not clear on your why then you won’t stay motivated Pursue rather than chase
Indirectly Inviting a women into your world thro