EP 344: Boundaries and Self Love - How They Go Hand In Hand Embodied with Elizabeth DiAlto

This is episode 7 in an 8 episode series on Self Love. 
This episode is all about boundaries and what it has to do with self love. Specifically, how boundaries are an expression of all the components of my EMBODIED Self Love Framework:
Self Awareness  Self Knowledge  Self Acceptance  Self Trust  Self Respect  Boundaries are a responsible way of engaging with what you can control in a healthy, useful way.
Boundaries evolve over time, when you first start setting boundaries, they may be more like barries, it’s ok, over time your boundaries will become both rock solid and without you having to be rigid or militant about it.
Above all else boundaries are rooted in kindness, compassion and are meant to give you permission to live a joyful, love-filled life.
Now, I can hype up boundaries all day but we all know, they're challenging. So in today's episode I offer a lot of context and perspective on boundaries.
Here's what I covered:
The importance of having boundaries with yourself How boundaries are an opportunity to teach people how to treat us Navigating saying yes when you mean it and no when you mean it (this is especially hard for recovering codependents and people pleasers!)  How to deal with boundary violations and enforcing your boundaries with people who don't respect them Energetic boundaries  
...and more
 
In the seventh episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:
[6:14] How people are really different right now
[7:23] How setting boundaries evolves over time
[10:01] What happens to us when we don’t set boundaries
[14:10] My experience of starting over from scratch on social media
[16:59] Examples of boundaries you could set up for yourself
[19:39] Having boundaries around certain types of people
[25:15] Saying “no” when you mean no and saying “yes” when you mean yes
[30:40] Why you should pay attention to the word “should”
[35:27] How boundaries isn’t about being rigid or policing people all the time
[37:27] What having boundaries will do for you
[40:25] What energetic boundaries is and why they’re important
 
Resources:
Embodied Self Love Mini Course
EP 288: Advice For The Sex And Love You Crave With Eva Clay
EP 293: Deeper Dating With Ken Page
EP 147: Terri Cole On Real Love Revolution
Dance of Anger, The: A Woman's Guide To Changing The Patterns Of Intimate Relationships 
Energy Hygiene
Energetic Boundaries: How to Stay Protected and Connected in Work, Love, and Life
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About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto 
Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you  tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.