Ep. 67 - Discovering The Uncommon Life with Terry Tucker The Art of Winning

Terry Tucker is a motivational speaker, author, and international podcast guest on the topics of motivation, mindset, and self-development. He has a business administration degree from The Citadel, where he played NCAA Division I college basketball, and a master’s degree from Boston University. In his professional career, Terry has been a marketing executive, a hospital administrator, a SWAT Team Hostage Negotiator, a high school basketball coach, a business owner, a motivational speaker, and for the past ten years, a cancer warrior. This battle resulted in the amputation of his foot in 2018 and his leg in 2020. Terry is the author of the book Sustainable Excellence: Ten Principles to Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life and the developer of the Sustainable Excellence Membership. He has also been featured in Authority, Thrive Global, and Human Capital Leadership magazines. If you are interested in checking the content that Terry has, be sure to check the Motivational Check Blog!
 
Today, Terry has built a million-dollar-plus business that flips homes, buys new land, and develops high-end properties. He joins us today to share his experience of burning the candle at both ends to live an uncommonly extraordinary life. Through tales of his career in law enforcement, his grandfather's experience in the line of duty, his book Sustainable Excellence: 10 Principles to Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life, and more, he reveals how listening, understanding, and negotiating are essential skills for living an extraordinary life. To end the conversation, Terry proposes a 30-day challenge that involves doing something challenging each day to build resilience for difficult times.
 
[00:00 - 15:40] Discovering the Uncommon Life
●     Terry Tucker is introduced to the show.
●     Terry has an impressive resume, having played college basketball, earned a master's degree, and worked as a marketing executive, hospital administrator, and SWAT team hostage negotiator.
●     Terry shares how he made the major pivots in his life and helped care for his father and grandmother, who both had cancer while living with his parents for three and a half years.
 
[15:40 - 38:23] Developing Character Through Hard Work
●     Seeking to be understood is the issue that most people face.
●     When people feel understood, they tend to share more, give more, and there's more connection.
He stumbled upon a book on buying houses at auctions and realized there was a system to it.
●     Terry shares the big difference between understanding what's going on with someone and agreeing with it.
●     He talks about what he learned as a negotiator in life and using how and what questions help engage people to help negotiate successfully.
●     People tend to make better decisions with their rational brains than their emotional brains.
●     Emotional intelligence helps in understanding people to negotiate in business and in personal relationships. Balancing emotional intelligence in life is crucial.
●     Being part of something bigger than oneself is important, whether through serving the country or playing team sports.
●     Pain and difficulty can be the reason for quitting, but they can also be the catalyst for growth.
●     As long as you don't quit, you can never be defeated.
 
[38:23 - 43:59] The Importance of Failure
·       Failure is an important part of personal growth.
·       Developing character requires doing things that are difficult.
·       Failing often, especially when young, can help develop character.
·       It is essential to learn from failure to gain experience and knowledge.
·       Terry shares how he was inspired by the All Blacks, the New Zealand national rugby team.
·       The All Blacks look for character and humility in their team members